HyperActi7e's Journal

Starting this journal to document and reflect on my approaches. I made four daygame approaches today.

Approaches

Girl I had to open from behind
I had seen this girl from quite the distance and decided to run after her. Running after girls is generally something I am quite bothered by (because I don't like the attention it brings on me) but for some reason I decided to go for it.

I know that I should be running up ahead of her and then turning and opening that way. But the thing is, this girl turned around as I was closing in on her (probably because she heard me) and it forced me to just open while I was behind her.

I told her I thought she was pretty and asked if she was single to which she said no and I let her go after that. Honestly, I'm just happy I approached.

Blonde fit girl that hooked
This girl had walked past me and I hesitated to open in that moment. But I decided to turn around and follow her until she stopped at a street crossing. I then opened her there and she was pretty receptive. I opened with a simple complement opener (she was pretty).

Funnily enough, I had planned on just asking for her number (I know this is bad) but it felt weirder to do that than just converse with her. So we talked for like 30 seconds about what it was like living in the city and then the walk sign turned on so she started walking. One thing I should have improved on here is leading the interaction. When it turned to the walk sign, I should have told her to cross with me but instead it was like I was following her.

We then (while walking) talked about what we both do for work before she asked me where I'm even going. Then I told her I needed to actually go the other way but I was only walking there to talk with her (lol). I then asked her out to which she hesitantly said yes and then said "actually maybe." But we exchanged numbers.

I sent an icebreaker text to which she responded positively. Let's see if I can get her out on a date.

Overall, not the strongest approach but happy I got the approach in. I was definitely nervous and there wasn't a ton of flirtation (I only teased her like once). I'd say the close was overall not too smooth either (which is why I think she was hesitant to commit to the date). I need to transition into this better.

Young, fashionable girl I had to run after
This girl was cute. I was able to run after her without her turning around so I got the approach angle right (from in front). Thing is I was still too nervous to actually talk to her so I just immediately tried number closing ("can I get your number?" -- yes I know it's bad) which she turned down politely.

Happy I did the approach but one of these days I'm going to have to go out without allowing myself to number close. I do this a lot just because I'm so nervous to approach.

Girl waiting at bus stop
I opened this girl who very nicely told me she had a boyfriend and told me to have a nice day.

I really like the girls here. The rejections are so kind haha.

Reflections
I'm still really apprehensive about approaching. The biggest sticking point I need to work on is actually approaching (Approach Anxiety) and ejecting (probably related to AA).

I do think if I can actually consistently approach, I should be able to refine and iterate.

Need to catch up on yesterday as well but there wasn't much.

Two approaches yesterday that were quick "I have a boyfriend" rejections.

Today I approached one girl and she did hook. But things did get a bit awkward after like 2 min. So I closed (which didn't work). I pretty much expected that.

Overall, I need to:
1) Approach more
2) Stop ejecting from my sets so early/closing unnecessarily early

Nothing new here tbh but I need to get a handle on my nervousness. If I can just do (1), then I believe (2) will follow naturally from enough sets within a short amount of time.

Ok got a lot of catching up to do here. It is now Monday and I'll be going back all the way to Wednesday.

Wednesday
I made two approaches this day. The first one was immediately after arriving at my day game venue, I ran up and in front of this girl who was very stylish. She turned out to be Morrocan-Spanish and we talked for a bit. She seemed into the convo so I slowed down to see if she would slow down with me and she did. So I stopped and I was able to get her to stop and talk to me which was nice. After like 2 min of convo I asked for her number (basically another ejection) which I got. But I should have asked her out at least. She did not end up responding.

The second approach was me trying to open a girl who walked right by me. I think I was just talking too fast.

On this day, I'm happy that I approached immediately but there were tons of opportunities for me to open. I felt I could have talked to like 9 girls that so I feel two was a little underwhelming.

Thursday
0 approaches (thanks AA)

Friday
This day I only made one approach. I opened this girl who was walking her dog and she immediately said she didn't have a lot of time and left. But another day where there were a lot of opportunities.

Saturday
0 approaches (thanks AA)

Sunday
This I made two approaches but nothing significant. The first one I opened with "Do you speak English?" She stopped and after she said yes I asked her if she was single. She said no so I just let her go.

The second one I opened indirect (asked for directions) because I was tired of walking around an not approaching.

Week's Reflection
Before I go onto today, I want to just reflect on that week. Overall, I was pretty stumped by AA and didn't have many significant approaches. Every day I went out, I felt like a fraction of the opportunities that were there for me to approach I actually took. But I am getting into more actual conversations.

In that first approach on Sunday too, I actually stumbled upon an Indirect-Direct approach: "Do you speak English? -- Are you single?" Even though she wasn't, the reaction was pretty positive.

Ok now onto Monday (today)

Monday
Today I made 4 approaches.

The first one was so ridiculous. I opened the girl (and before I opened it looked like she was avoiding eye contact with me) and she responded with "Oh hey.." So immediately I was thinking that I had opened this girl already. Turns out, it was the girl from my first post (I called her "Blonde fit girl that hooked"). I had texted this girl asking her out and she actually ghosted me lmfaoooo. So this was random. Anyways, I just pretended she never ghosted and talked to her for a bit and even flirted a little. But then she just excused herself saying it was "great running into [me]." That was so fucking funny but I think it means I need to switch up spots lol.

Second girl was walking her dog and I opened with "Do you speak English?" to which she said no and I just kept walking.

Third girl I tried opening but she was wearing headphones and I think I was speaking too quietly so I don't think she even noticed me. But maybe she was ignoring me.

Fourth girl almost walked by me because she couldn't hear me but she was close enough that I tapped her on the shoulder before she fully passed me. When she turned around I opened with "Do you know English?" She said a little and then I said "Are you single?" and she said yes (I am loving this Indirect-Direct open btw). We talked for a bit. Turns out she was an Argentinian student who was visiting the city and she was studying English in a nearby college. I teased her a bit and then asked her out (mostly as an ejection, I don't think it was the right time tbh). I asked her if she wanted to get a drink sometime to which she bluntly responded "No" (lmfaooooo). She was a sweet girl but I don't think her English was good enough to soften it haha. Anyways I left after that.

Overall, I think I'm happy with the amount of approaches I did today. I do really need to switch up spots (even thought I love this downtown area -- lots of tall buildings, lots of anonymity).

Still need to improve on approach anxiety and early ejections. Once I start calming down a bit more, maybe I can just try working my way to gaining more compliance. Moving the girl around a bit before asking her out since straight asking her out has NOT been working lmao. But I bet that also has to do with my ask outs being ejections and not timed right.

Ok catching up from last Tuesday.

Tuesday
Was really busy with work but still managed to get myself out for an hour or so. There were probably like 3 girls I approached but AA took over and I let them walk past me. :/ Quite unfortunate.

Wednesday
Approached three girls this day but none of them hooked. I tried opening and they either had boyfriend or walked right past me.

Thursday & Friday
Approach Anxiety won. I did not make any approaches despite many opportunities.

Saturday
This day I made 3 approaches.

The first was a cute model / musician. She immediately thought I was very young (she was 29) and I tried to ignore those objections. She also asked me what I do and asked me if it made good money which I thought was a bit weird. The conversation was good but she kept trying to just give me her number or instagram. But I don't think it was in a way that she was interested. I kept trying to talk to her and she just took my number. After the number I tried to ask her out but she just hugged me and kind of left. I definitely don't think she was interested but she was just trying to use the number to get out. But she also didn't seem uncomfortable. I was really happy that I didn't eject out of this one tho.

The second approach was a girl who I thought was hot but then I'm pretty sure she (he?) was transgender. So I quickly ejected.

The third approach I tried opening this girl who was clearly not paying attention to her surroundings (deep in her headphones). She didn't hear what I said as she was walking by so I tapped her, to which she looked startled and just kept walking.

Sunday
Two appraoches this day.

First girl was a girl coming from Ross who I had to run after. After opening, she was clearly disinterested and so I just left. Not much in terms of responses and she didn't even shake my hand.

The second approach was an older russian lady. Honestly I was mid-appraoch when I noticed. Right after opening, she said she wasn't interested but honestly neither was I (lol).

Pretty disappointing day since I didn't even get into a conversation.

Monday
Three approaches today.

The first girl was on a college campus. She was cute and I sat with her at her table. But it was quite a boring conversation and she was on her phone the entire time while we were talking. She eventually excused herself. I could have done a lot more here. Deep-diving is tough with girls of this age but asshole humor / teasing is what I should have gone for.

Next girl was coming out of a mall. I opened "Do you speak English?" to which (while still walking) she said yes. Then I asked "Are you single?" to which she laughed and said no then kept walking.

My final approach of the day was one that I thought was pretty good. I opened this girl who was 19 years old and the conversation was flowing and there was a good back and forth. It was overall friendly tho with some flirtation on my end but nothing back. Eventually, I asked her out to which she responded "I don't know..." Not great, but I took her number anyways. She probably won't respond but I'm happy with how the approach went from my end and that I didn't eject. I felt pretty calm in this interaction which I view as solid progress.

Also, the ask out I feel was pretty smooth even though it got a no. I think one thing that could have improved was asking for compliance at some point in the approach (I never did).

Reflection
Overall, I'm not too happy with my inputs from last week. Everything beyond last Monday was pretty underwhelming from the side of my inputs. I started this week off strong (I'm saying the week starts on Monday I guess) and want to keep going for the entire week. A really successful week for me would look like at least 1 actual conversation with a girl per day. I don't wanna count these gets-ignored/blowout approaches since I don't think they actually help me improve.

I also have a business conference this week so should be pretty easy to talk to girls there but will have to take it lighter on the flirting.