If the "appreciation" is for your provider value, she may lay the charm on thick to reward you for it and encourage more of it.
I totally see the appeal of romantic evenings out.
Do you have the
One Date program,
@KJ Francis? I subscribed to it back in 2018, and was just rewatching one of the videos from the
Dating Artisan series. In it, Chase recommends that if you don‘t yet have your “sexy vibe” down (which I certainly don’t at this time—not sure where to start) you should show some boyfriend value instead, otherwise she’s got nothing to get attached to, so to speak. I guess I was doing this unconsciously, but I can understand the logic behind it too.
I see now in the FR link though that you actually are the one who turned her down.
That’s not strictly true. The dinner and boat trip were on a Saturday. Sunday in the early part of the day we had brunch on Hare Island at a place she recommended and walked and took photos a bit, but I hightailed it out of there early enough to get some proper rest ahead of a
much more important meeting that evening. Monday I texted her to say I didn’t think we were suited for a longer-term partnership, mainly because she had been making noises about how she wanted a serious man on the boat as the evening drew to a close, which was a little incomprehensible to me considering the carefree image she put across as I mentioned several times above. But I never ruled out something more casual, and indeed we met up again just a couple months later.
Not your usual helpful self, Tryst. Remember, I’m here to learn.
What baffled me was that she took very badly to being told, even in the gentlest terms, that I wasn’t in a hurry to travel with her again after the last time had turned out less worthwhile than I had expected. She fired off a seemingly unending volley of insulting text messages, eventually compelling me to block her.
