You never know how much work it'll take you to get to wherever you want to go ,but put in the work you must
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You can take more risky moves when the interaction is still fresh and new than when you let things build over time.
What's more is that you keep things simple.
Taking things slow makes things complex.Wildcards show up.Stuff intervenes . Interest fades.
She starts to get a good feel of what kind of guy you are.Trust me the more she knows about you,the less a lover "in her eyes'' you become.
You indeed can be a talkative guy without hardly saying anything about yourself
It doesn't matter how much you blunder it on your first ,tenth or hundredth try
The good thing is you can always go out there and do it again ,again, and again until it finally clicks
Everything always works out for the better!
Haha pretty cute when girls are nervous around you
I love it
Definitely chuckle-worthy
Let's bathe in the tension,missy
One trick to get yourself comfortable back at hers:
Lay back on her bed.
Or take space on her couch or bed.
Sounds simple yet few guys do this
Was actually surprised to see a guy back at a girls place hunched and sitting at the edge of the bed.
Nothing screams I'm at ease and own this place like laying back and taking space do
Sounds cocky? It should
It's way too hard to move things forward when you don't know what ends you want to achieve
All too often ,guys get stuck approaching girls but don't know what to say next
Don't know how to move her,ask her out or get her no
Some may but they do it as if they were taking a shot in the dark --half assing it in the process
You've got to know what you want and how to get it
Girls tend to be too much in their own heads or on the fence when your fundamentals and game need work
Heck, they're more likely to turn you down than comply with you
If you've been bashing your head against the wall trying to get girls to do what you want...
Then it's high time you honed in on both your fundamentals and game
Approach all this with a testing mindset
Thank me later
It's easy to sour out on a chick if things go south with her
Heck to try and "show her" after taking a hit to your ego
And certainly it does feel right...after all it massages your ego
Get this though ,the only person you are hurting is you
You grow more and more bitter towards women in general over time
For each and every girl you meet next ,that it doesn't go anywhere with ,you carry even more resentment
Detached is the man that always bets things may go south no matter how great an interaction is
And hey it doesn't have to be defeatist
Women can and do "change" for whatever reason
Plan for that and you won't panic any when it doesn't go your way
Interest yet no compliance on her part means so little
Don't fall for it
Better if you can get both from her of course
But be out looking for compliance,just about every single time you go out
It saves your time a lot
Easy to fake interest...hard to fake compliance
If she's mostly compliant with you,trust me odds are high you are going to get her
You don't have to be Mr. Smooth with every girl you meet
Go meet her and then figure what kind of game you have to break out
Most chicks are used to meeting lames that your C game could get them if you do know your stuff
minimum conatus maximus eventus
It's easy to get caught up trying to figure how to move things forward especially when you process is challenged
People bitch on lowering your standards
Take it from me tho...
Once you get to be the buyer and have so much choice
You decide whether the interaction is doing it for you or not
Maybe a cute girl is making things harder for you while another more cute one is all over you .
You get to decide whether the just-cute girl is worth the bother
You don't have to be contentious to win at frame control
If you do ,you really aren't winning others over
Instead you are outing them
Your frame can come out on top while still making others feel included.
Aim for that
At the top , you get to test lots of different stuff
While starting out,you tend to ,and should, stick to the rules
Past a certain level,you get a big picture of the game
And it gets easier to break the rules without hurting yourself or messing your process
Thinking of this ,more and more lately
Curious to hear what others think too
There's always a lot to learn and it can feel overwhelming .I know .
I don't have enough time just sounds like I don't want it bad enough though .
If you want to be better ...if you want to be great, then you've got to make time.
An hour a day or a week is all you need .
Want to learn fast , put in more hours .
1% improvement weekly is 50% in a year .
" The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity like sugar or coffee.And I'll pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun"
~John D. Rockefeller
It's been said,time and time again,you should cut your losses and walk away from girls it's going nowhere with
Most guys though,try as they will,can't exercise this option (or worse revert back to their normal ways once they do)
Some try meeting more girls but keep running into the same problem:
It isn't going anywhere but they are finding it hard just to give it all up
Why?
Getting fish to bite comes down to thinking like fish
All too often,many guys think like fishermen
and less than the fish
And are disappointed when the fish don't bite
What gets some fishermen to outfish others?
It's by studying all there is to know about the fish they aim to catch, if they are to think like them
What gets them biting with abandon?What makes them lay low? When are they hungry ?
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