smoothness

Hey guys! I have gotten a bit messed up and confused in the head reading many of these concepts here on the forum and the site. As I see it there is a slight disconnect between the way we look at these different things. Let me flesh out my understanding here with an example and I would like to...

I'm not good at leaving smooth voicemails. Talking into the void, I tend to forget what I meant to say next. This problem isn't limited to girls I like, but it's only a big deal in such cases. I do it with everyone, male, female, friends, near-strangers. It's not nervousness, just a lack of...