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“Complicated Non-love story“ I think I am infatuated Can you give me input?

trashKENNUT

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Give me some time.
I try to chip in what I know. And maybe it will help.

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Chase

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@LegionAparatus1313,

This strikes me as a more or less clear-cut case of barking up the wrong tree.

It is also fixation on one single girl, and doing a whole lot of stuff that is the opposite of anything we teach here:

  • "Confess your feelings" emotion dump onto her
  • Following her around / chasing after her
  • Buying lots of gifts / offering her tons of things
  • Hyper-analyzing everything this one woman says or does

I've seen a few of these "trans-man pregnant with husband's baby" things reported in the news, so I know it does happen. I don't know how much.

It's clear this girl is very confused and does not know who she is or what she wants, and that she likes you as a friend, but if there's attraction there she isn't showing it.

If I was you, I would tone it way down. You can still let her know you're interested, but if she's not interested in dating you right now, you need to be getting other experiences.

Step #1: read this article (or re-read it, if you've read it already):


Good luck!

Chase
 
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