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This was a big one for me for a few reasons:
TLDR Version: Met an attractive Russian girl on Bumble, after a few text exchanges I proposed a picnic at the park; she pushed back and suggested a Zoom Video Chat call first (you guys will see a section on this in one of my upcoming articles). I accepted, and on Friday we had a Zoom call that went really well because I was mentally prepared for it – so well that even though in that call we agreed to meet at the park on Sunday, on Saturday morning she changed plans herself to make it Saturday afternoon. In person we had a picnic park date, I saw she was as attractive as her photos, she escalated on me almost the whole time but I wasn’t able to pull. On Sunday, after she reached out to me, I proposed we meet Monday evening for cooking. She arrived around 8:30pm, well after the original 5:30 we agreed to; I decided to cook solo and treat her to dinner myself, and there was tons of LMR after that – I fractionated over and over again, and sometime in the middle of the night I put my cock in her when she finally let her guard down. We fucked two rounds, and I met up with her again two days later in the evening.
Also want to point out that I used a number of strategies that I cover in my latest upcoming articles – on Wealthy Lifestyle Game, and on COVID-19 Dating Changes.
Bumble Meet - preceding Friday of Memorial Day Weekend
COVID made for a rough dating environment if you weren’t good at online game, weren’t willing to pay some money, or had a good roster of ex lovers and current rotation girls to choose from. It’s been the same for me – right as I was getting good momentum again in March, COVID shut down everything especially in the city I live which was hit very hard by COVID, making every single girl extremely fickle and scared about meeting up barring a few.
However, I learned people doing online in my city were still getting laid like crazy.
After hearing from friends who were killing it in the same city on Bumble and Hinge, I decided to reinstall Bumble – an app I haven’t even touched since late 2017! Obviously if you’re not already proficient in online app game, just suddenly switching to it is basically starting from newbie mode all over again.
So I barely got any matches, and maybe one lead a day. One of these early on happened to be an attractive Russian looking girl with blond hair in her 30s. Her profile indicated she’s in finance, has traveled a lot, and doesn’t want to waste time. She seemed to be in the 7-8 range in appearance, and looked like she had a fit body, so I’d give it a shot.
Since in Bumble she engaged first, I asked her two qualifier questions in response and had a short text convo, and tried to insert some humor that she took literally – I’d learn soon this is a very rational girl.
First Date by Video - Friday evening
After exchanging a couple of texts back and forth on Bumble, I went for the date invite. These days I usually suggest a walk or picnic in the park, since it’s Spring and everywhere else is closed for COVID. I got push back, which I expected given the circumstances.
I think the increase of video first dates are going to be one of the biggest changes to Dating that comes out of COVID-19. This allows girls to screen out losers and waste less time. This means that on the call, you need to be exactly her type to pass and get the in person date – but you can also bet that if she’s very attracted on the video call, it’s going to make the seduction much easier too.
I thought most of the afternoon about how to run a video date, since obviously this would need to go really well for me to even have a shot at meeting her in person. I also knew that if I did well on this topic, then it would make the in person date with her likely that much better.
Very early on just based on the dynamics of this particular girl – being in her 30s, screening heavily in advance, and as she’s asking for a video date – the best path here is likely going to be Date Compression for me. This means I need to make every experience pretty stellar.
The basic model was likely going to be:
Since she’s in her 30’s, I knew she’d ask me about a couple things:
We linked up at 6:30. Originally my plan was to pour a drink for us at 6:35 and we could cheers together, but this failed when she revealed that she does not have any drinks at home.
The call lasted until around 8:15 and was really good – I kept the focus on her, found out that she’s a super ambitious and talented self employed Owner of an Online Bank for Women. But I turned this around and accused her of being a Russian Secret Agent and secretly out for blood – and that’s why she travels to much. The whole call was really an interweave of this theme – blending parts of our travels, how we grew up, places we’ve lived, what we do for work, and of course busting her ass thru all this.
I wasn’t expecting much from this but it worked well – she was laughing, having fun, and the call lasted just over 1h30m!
At the end of the Zoom call, I told her again that I’m having a great time with her, and suggested that we meet in the park this weekend. I could tell she was very shy and flushed – she was having a great time, and said yes very shyly. Not quite what I was expecting from such an Alpha girl – it goes to show that even Alpha or Alpha-esq women really just want a guy who will dominate them even more.
I brought up meeting Saturday or Sunday, and when she said either, I picked Sunday. Then I got her phone number on the call and texted her. We ended the call on good vibes and quite naturally – I was sitting outside, it was about to rain, and she said I should leave. It was a good end.
She texted me later that evening almost an hour later saying she had a really great time. So clearly this part went well.
Date 2: Next Day Park Date - Saturday evening
The next day out of the blue in the morning, I got a text from her which asked “Hey, good morning! Are you actually free today in the evening?” Wow – that should be a really good sign, right?
I set it up for us to meet at 6pm, and did some Day Game first. In my city, unfortunately day game is still not really a good system for meeting women, as there is Quarantine, a heavy COVID effect, and now Riots all over the place. I’ve found Saturday and Sunday afternoons to be the best days – where I struggle is getting good momentum in advance, since Day Game really is about building leads from scratch.
Around 5:53pm she texted me:
HER: just a head’s up, I was in the park and had 2 glasses of mine.
HER: *wine
HER: first time in 3 months. Going to be interesting date.
Lol…. So she’s tipsy, this will be fun.
at 6 I texted back:
ME: three blocks away!
HER: you late on our first date?! Wow
Already, a shit test! I freaked out here a little bit, but decided just to not respond and be cool when I arrived. Sure enough, I ran into her five minutes later – she was a little bit drunk and immediately told me she had three wines in the park with her friends.
In person she was much shorter than I expected, but also stacked – blonde, bubble ass, huge round D tits, and a skinny waist. And she gave me shit the moment we met.
We hugged and walked over to the park, and the entire time she was already testing me and teasing me – but when we found a good spot to picnic and I brought out all the goods I prepared, she was a bit floored. You see I brought sheets, two glasses of wine, a bottle of wine, some fruit, snacks, and cheese to snack on. I think spending the extra money here helps at least for the date structure type I was going for (I’m sure some guys can get away with nothing and just being only Lover or whatever in these situations).
“You are so prepared! I’ve never been on a date like this.” Over the course of the date she said this like three times.
But then interestingly enough, I noticed that she was taking the lead in preparing snacks, feeding me wine and food. And then, as she was doing this she also physically made herself closer to me. Over the entire date I noticed that she was escalating on me – and it started with light touches, to eventually just resting her body on me or putting her arm on my leg near my crotch.
Important note: we talked about a trip to Montana she’s doing on Thursday the following week, leaving at 8am in the morning. This means I only had Sunday, Monday, or Tuesday to make the next date happen.
Spent the time deep diving her on her life and work – and what she’s passionate about. I should have engaged in sexual frames here too, but I missed this opportunity.
Also, there were several opportunities to kiss her. In retrospect one could say I should have kept raising the tension here and going instead for a home invite, but in the second instance of a kiss opportunity, it just felt right to kiss her. We were looking at each other doing a staring contest, and she kind of leaned in and I went for it – at first she rejected it, but I held the frame and tried a few minutes later and she accepted.
Suddenly, she pulled back, looked at me and said:
“I like big things… huge things… That sound familiar to you?” And just waited for my response.
Wow, what a fucking shit-test! She was definitely tipsy, but she was trying to assess my penis size, lol. Admittedly I do have a big penis, I’ve been told by girls – not huge or anything, but a number have said it’s Big or Above Average. More about this comes in Day 3. I still didn’t know how to react to this, though – so I just looked at her blankly and smiled.
After the kiss she like sprawled out over me or against me several times, so that her head was on my lap. I guess it was romantic.
She got serious at one point, started asking me about my last relationship. I told her I’d gotten out of one in December, because the girl moved away because of a dream job and we ended it amicably. Then said we’re still in touch, and that I stay in touch with exes – she said the same for her. Important frame test here – it seems that when girl’s start asking these kinds of questions, they are really into you.
I should have really used this opportunity to dive into more sex-arousal focused stories.
Around sunset she mentioned wanting to go to the bathroom, so we packed up everything and closed shop on the picnic, started walking north to the area with some bathrooms. Here, she grabbed me and tried to hold hands, instead I offered my arm and she did not accept. So I grabbed her around her body instead, but did hold hands for a minute. I can already tell that managing the provider and monogamy frame is going to be a big deal here – she’s going to push for that.
After the bathroom we went to some benches and sat, watching the water and dusk oncoming. It was very peaceful and romantic, she eventually sat on me facing me and we just made out and talked some life stuff for thirty minutes. She straddled me on the bench, I squeezed her ass and made out with her a lot.
At this point, very important moment – she asked me if I’d had sex since my girlfriend, and then how many times. Again, looked me straight in the eye for a serious answer. I said that I had since December, but I refused to tell her how many times. Suddenly she got up and sat a bench over, and folded her arms and legs unhappily.
I was like “what the fuck” but did nothing – just sat there and stared in space. After like five minutes, she slid over and rested her head on my shoulder, and then grabbed my arm and hugged it.
There was a big missed opportunity here – the environment was definitely ripe for some kind of outdoor sex, but I should have done a little bit of sex talk and adventurous non judgmental frames, then tried to arouse her and sneak her away into a corner. It would have been a high risk high reward ploy – but I need to get better at setting this up. I think what I should have done is at minimum use her question to share sexual stories, then blame her for bringing it up, and then not pull. That would have helped me on Date 3.
The end of this date was abrupt – started walking down the block away from the park, when all of a sudden she just kissed me and walked off, grabbing a bikeshare nearby. No words, no text, no look back.
She didn’t text that evening, so I thought maybe I had screwed something up. In retrospect I think when girls really like a guy, sometimes they do this and get really nervous when parting ways on a date. But, I came out of Date 2 thinking I had failed.
Third Day Home Cooking Date - Monday evening
On Sunday to my surprise she initiated a random text, and we texted back and forth a few times. After a few messages, suggested seeing her before her trip, asking about Monday or Tuesday evening. She suggested Monday evening as available, so we made plans for that. Initially confirming for 5:30pm, on Monday morning while confirming my address, Around 2pm she texted that she has a call suddenly planned for 7, but that it would take thirty minutes and asked if it’s OK for her to get there by 8. No worries I said – I'll just make dinner first and we can eat once she’s here. she texted me about a call she’d be on starting at 7, but asked if it’s okay to come at 8pm. I said sure – I'll probably just cook in advance, and to text me when she’s on the way.
I went to get groceries at 6:30 and started to cook around 7:15. By the time 8 rolled around she said her call was still going, but at 8:05 texted that she’s leaving and she’ll get there in 20 minutes. Finally at 8:35 she arrived; I met her downstairs and walked up with her.
I had left the cooking about 75% complete, so first we grabbed some wine she brought and went to the roof to drink it quick, but then came down and I asked for her help cooking. While taking the lead she kissed me repeatedly and said she was really impressed several times. Luckily it tasted good, too.
Obviously used this to give her more shit, learn more about her, vibe more.
After eating we talked a bit, then at some point she wanted to move to the couch and this started the make-outs and LMR.
From now (10pm) until roughly 4am I’d be fighting her LMR, but slowly.
I did about four different fractionations between the escalations (where it was clear to her that she was enjoying the hell out of it). When I fractionated it would be at a peak vibe, and we went and played games. Twice it was Jenga, then another time it was cards, and a fourth time it was to smoke weed and have some wine. I think the fractionation periods helped a lot, but I’m very used to this – it helps to show a girl that it’s not just sex you want that night, that you’re having fun with her too. After all a girl’s biggest worry here is you pumping and dumping her.
I think in this case, I’d given her a really good experience on all the dates, and she was simply in disbelief that this was real, that we actually had good chemistry and connection.
It took a looooooong time, but slowly I broke her and in every separate escalation a new piece of clothing came off, and her biggest piece of resistance which was “I am on my period” was slowly unwinding.
We ended up having two separate “first fucks” which was really weird, mainly because she got anxious in the first time after I’d entered and stroked a few times, but I was having difficulty getting her to orgasm. Suddenly she just got up and went to the kitchen without saying a word, then put on her bra and underwear and came back. I had to fractionate – and soon after we shut the lights and went to bed. I thought the lights off might help relax her – instead I just couldn’t sleep.
I started escalating and got her bra and panties off again easily, but she wouldn’t let me fuck her. My god, what a body. Girl is in her low 30s so not primo Russian woman body like a 20 year old would be, but damn close – big D boobs very round and rotund, a flat stomach, skinny waist like a figure 8, and wider hips shaping a bubbly firm ass. Every time I looked at her my dick got to a full erection instantly. I can’t imagine what she would have been like in her early 20s. Girl was easily somewhere in the 8-9 range in her 20s, my estimate was 8-8.5 in the moment.
After this point she put up some whole other kind of resistance I’ve never seen.
“Do anything you want to me”
“Huh?”
“First let me fall asleep, but then I want you to take me in the middle of the night. Don’t ask for my permission – just do it.”
Sometime around 4:30am, it became apparent to her (finally) that neither of us was falling asleep. When she brought this up, I alluded to us just having fun instead – and finally she gave herself up and just let me do whatever I wanted. Instead of focusing on making her cum, I focused on making myself cum first (lol) and fucked her for 10-15 minutes to the brink of her cumming, until I nutted. Oddly the sex wasn’t that great, and the chemistry from before was lacking. Couldn’t figure this out.
We had sex one more time that night.
Next Day and Wednesday evening:
Since she slept over, she got up around 7:15, and was out the door by around 7:40. I didn’t dress, make breakfast or anything – just kissed her goodbye. We had talked about meeting up again before her trip – she suggested the same night, but I told her I’m not free, and asked about Wednesday evening. Said she’d let me know.
My FB flaked on Tuesday evening – in a last minute bid, I reached out to A again and said I’ve freed up, if she’s still interested. Instead, she sent me a video of her doing a call, which she had told me about the day before.
Later at night she asked if I wanted to have a video call before she slept – I knew she was leaving on Thursday morning and I wanted to get Lock In before her trip, so I figured this would be a good opportunity to ask. We got on the call and chatted for about 15 minutes, and unfortunately turns out she has a work call at 6:30, plus a early flight the next day. So I gave up on that hope.
Next day, I got this text:
Good morning
My flight was cancelled.
Turns out her whole trip got shifted to the following week, with her now leaving on Wednesday next week instead.
Well – now I got what I wanted, and I invited her over to join me at 6pm, so she could just do her call here at 6:30 and she’d already be at my place in time for our 8pm Quarantine because of the Riots.
At the time of writing she’d just come over, spent 6:30-8:30 on another call, and we fucked a few times between 9 and 12:30 when we fell asleep, plus playing cards and watching half a movie. Again the sex was bizarrely odd – sometimes it was good, and it kept seeming like she’s into me, but sexually it felt like she was turned off at random points and would just cut things off, while for me it increased my anxiety.
I took an unusual path and early in the morning made a remark about this, only to find out that she felt pressured for sex, which caused her to withdraw from me, thus causing me anxiety, which caused her more anxiety. Bad cycle. She then mentioned that she really wants to not feel pressured, just that she’ll
Again all this ties back to her image and my lack of setting non-judgmental frames way before. But also, this is definitely a girl that escalates herself.
I fixed this by not giving a fuck about sex in the morning and just calmly hung out with her in bed, her cuddling against me and me stroking her – kind of fucked up, but it’s the way it was to be. We got up and I made oatmeal breakfast and coffee for us, then chatted and hung out with her having a good time laughing over random things. When the vibe was good, I picked her up and pulled her to the bed and banged her for 25 minutes. This time it was actually really good, she didn’t resist at all and kept encouraging me to plow her and fuck her harder – and I got to see her glorious body in the daytime too – we had a passionate time. In the end she told me to cum all over her tits in missionary, so I did cum over her glorious D round tits. Holy shit, made me realize how much I love big tits.
“My Sexual Terrorist,” she told me as she looked at me with a smile and doe eyes, rubbing my cum all over her tits.
“My Russian Spy,” I told her as I went to get a towel and clean up the same.
Had to cut it off quick because I had a phone call to do at 10am, and it was already 9:40. Suddenly got another call at 9:45 from my vendor, and this lasted till 9:55. This gave her a chance to clean up and change – by the time I was finished, she was ready go out and kissed me goodbye. Didn’t make any plans about meeting again, but seems like this girl is really into me.
The frame moving forward will definitely have to be that of an mLTR.
Reflection:
Missed Opportunities:
Overall, grateful for this one - I learned a lot!
- First ever Russian girl! I’ve had very attractive Russian women interested in me for years, but even though I go on dates with most of them I never once succeeded in closing. I've been on dates with dozens, no success. That changed this time, although honestly I could have done much better.
- Getting a new girl during COVID and Quarantine – believe me, it’s been a very dry last couple weeks, so I was really looking forward to this and had some giant Blue Balls leading up to it.
- I’m also within striking distance of triple digits (need like 1-4 more I think).
TLDR Version: Met an attractive Russian girl on Bumble, after a few text exchanges I proposed a picnic at the park; she pushed back and suggested a Zoom Video Chat call first (you guys will see a section on this in one of my upcoming articles). I accepted, and on Friday we had a Zoom call that went really well because I was mentally prepared for it – so well that even though in that call we agreed to meet at the park on Sunday, on Saturday morning she changed plans herself to make it Saturday afternoon. In person we had a picnic park date, I saw she was as attractive as her photos, she escalated on me almost the whole time but I wasn’t able to pull. On Sunday, after she reached out to me, I proposed we meet Monday evening for cooking. She arrived around 8:30pm, well after the original 5:30 we agreed to; I decided to cook solo and treat her to dinner myself, and there was tons of LMR after that – I fractionated over and over again, and sometime in the middle of the night I put my cock in her when she finally let her guard down. We fucked two rounds, and I met up with her again two days later in the evening.
Also want to point out that I used a number of strategies that I cover in my latest upcoming articles – on Wealthy Lifestyle Game, and on COVID-19 Dating Changes.
Bumble Meet - preceding Friday of Memorial Day Weekend
COVID made for a rough dating environment if you weren’t good at online game, weren’t willing to pay some money, or had a good roster of ex lovers and current rotation girls to choose from. It’s been the same for me – right as I was getting good momentum again in March, COVID shut down everything especially in the city I live which was hit very hard by COVID, making every single girl extremely fickle and scared about meeting up barring a few.
However, I learned people doing online in my city were still getting laid like crazy.
After hearing from friends who were killing it in the same city on Bumble and Hinge, I decided to reinstall Bumble – an app I haven’t even touched since late 2017! Obviously if you’re not already proficient in online app game, just suddenly switching to it is basically starting from newbie mode all over again.
So I barely got any matches, and maybe one lead a day. One of these early on happened to be an attractive Russian looking girl with blond hair in her 30s. Her profile indicated she’s in finance, has traveled a lot, and doesn’t want to waste time. She seemed to be in the 7-8 range in appearance, and looked like she had a fit body, so I’d give it a shot.
Since in Bumble she engaged first, I asked her two qualifier questions in response and had a short text convo, and tried to insert some humor that she took literally – I’d learn soon this is a very rational girl.
First Date by Video - Friday evening
After exchanging a couple of texts back and forth on Bumble, I went for the date invite. These days I usually suggest a walk or picnic in the park, since it’s Spring and everywhere else is closed for COVID. I got push back, which I expected given the circumstances.
HER: I don’t mind meeting in person, but I think we should start from a test drive – a zoom or a call maybe at first?
ME: Sure, I’m up for a Zoom test drive
ME: How does this Thursday or Friday evening sound to you?
HER: Thursday looks good after 9pm
HER: Or Friday also could work
ME: How about Friday evening, 6pm?
HER: Sounds good
<Friday morning>
ME: Cool, let’s use this link at 6 today, <link>
I think the increase of video first dates are going to be one of the biggest changes to Dating that comes out of COVID-19. This allows girls to screen out losers and waste less time. This means that on the call, you need to be exactly her type to pass and get the in person date – but you can also bet that if she’s very attracted on the video call, it’s going to make the seduction much easier too.
I thought most of the afternoon about how to run a video date, since obviously this would need to go really well for me to even have a shot at meeting her in person. I also knew that if I did well on this topic, then it would make the in person date with her likely that much better.
Very early on just based on the dynamics of this particular girl – being in her 30s, screening heavily in advance, and as she’s asking for a video date – the best path here is likely going to be Date Compression for me. This means I need to make every experience pretty stellar.
The basic model was likely going to be:
- Video date
- Park meet – get physical, but she’ll probably decline an invite home
- Home Cooking Date, with heavy LMR
Since she’s in her 30’s, I knew she’d ask me about a couple things:
- What do I do?
- Since I’d be spending most of the date talking about her, at some point she’s going to say I’ve barely told her anything about myself.
- At some point she’ll ask me to reveal more about myself, and I should tell her something interesting that qualifies her.
- I'd have to fit her image and her image of an ideal boyfriend.
We linked up at 6:30. Originally my plan was to pour a drink for us at 6:35 and we could cheers together, but this failed when she revealed that she does not have any drinks at home.
The call lasted until around 8:15 and was really good – I kept the focus on her, found out that she’s a super ambitious and talented self employed Owner of an Online Bank for Women. But I turned this around and accused her of being a Russian Secret Agent and secretly out for blood – and that’s why she travels to much. The whole call was really an interweave of this theme – blending parts of our travels, how we grew up, places we’ve lived, what we do for work, and of course busting her ass thru all this.
I wasn’t expecting much from this but it worked well – she was laughing, having fun, and the call lasted just over 1h30m!
At the end of the Zoom call, I told her again that I’m having a great time with her, and suggested that we meet in the park this weekend. I could tell she was very shy and flushed – she was having a great time, and said yes very shyly. Not quite what I was expecting from such an Alpha girl – it goes to show that even Alpha or Alpha-esq women really just want a guy who will dominate them even more.
I brought up meeting Saturday or Sunday, and when she said either, I picked Sunday. Then I got her phone number on the call and texted her. We ended the call on good vibes and quite naturally – I was sitting outside, it was about to rain, and she said I should leave. It was a good end.
She texted me later that evening almost an hour later saying she had a really great time. So clearly this part went well.
Date 2: Next Day Park Date - Saturday evening
The next day out of the blue in the morning, I got a text from her which asked “Hey, good morning! Are you actually free today in the evening?” Wow – that should be a really good sign, right?
I set it up for us to meet at 6pm, and did some Day Game first. In my city, unfortunately day game is still not really a good system for meeting women, as there is Quarantine, a heavy COVID effect, and now Riots all over the place. I’ve found Saturday and Sunday afternoons to be the best days – where I struggle is getting good momentum in advance, since Day Game really is about building leads from scratch.
Around 5:53pm she texted me:
HER: just a head’s up, I was in the park and had 2 glasses of mine.
HER: *wine
HER: first time in 3 months. Going to be interesting date.
Lol…. So she’s tipsy, this will be fun.
at 6 I texted back:
ME: three blocks away!
HER: you late on our first date?! Wow
Already, a shit test! I freaked out here a little bit, but decided just to not respond and be cool when I arrived. Sure enough, I ran into her five minutes later – she was a little bit drunk and immediately told me she had three wines in the park with her friends.
In person she was much shorter than I expected, but also stacked – blonde, bubble ass, huge round D tits, and a skinny waist. And she gave me shit the moment we met.
We hugged and walked over to the park, and the entire time she was already testing me and teasing me – but when we found a good spot to picnic and I brought out all the goods I prepared, she was a bit floored. You see I brought sheets, two glasses of wine, a bottle of wine, some fruit, snacks, and cheese to snack on. I think spending the extra money here helps at least for the date structure type I was going for (I’m sure some guys can get away with nothing and just being only Lover or whatever in these situations).
“You are so prepared! I’ve never been on a date like this.” Over the course of the date she said this like three times.
But then interestingly enough, I noticed that she was taking the lead in preparing snacks, feeding me wine and food. And then, as she was doing this she also physically made herself closer to me. Over the entire date I noticed that she was escalating on me – and it started with light touches, to eventually just resting her body on me or putting her arm on my leg near my crotch.
Important note: we talked about a trip to Montana she’s doing on Thursday the following week, leaving at 8am in the morning. This means I only had Sunday, Monday, or Tuesday to make the next date happen.
Spent the time deep diving her on her life and work – and what she’s passionate about. I should have engaged in sexual frames here too, but I missed this opportunity.
Also, there were several opportunities to kiss her. In retrospect one could say I should have kept raising the tension here and going instead for a home invite, but in the second instance of a kiss opportunity, it just felt right to kiss her. We were looking at each other doing a staring contest, and she kind of leaned in and I went for it – at first she rejected it, but I held the frame and tried a few minutes later and she accepted.
Suddenly, she pulled back, looked at me and said:
“I like big things… huge things… That sound familiar to you?” And just waited for my response.
Wow, what a fucking shit-test! She was definitely tipsy, but she was trying to assess my penis size, lol. Admittedly I do have a big penis, I’ve been told by girls – not huge or anything, but a number have said it’s Big or Above Average. More about this comes in Day 3. I still didn’t know how to react to this, though – so I just looked at her blankly and smiled.
After the kiss she like sprawled out over me or against me several times, so that her head was on my lap. I guess it was romantic.
She got serious at one point, started asking me about my last relationship. I told her I’d gotten out of one in December, because the girl moved away because of a dream job and we ended it amicably. Then said we’re still in touch, and that I stay in touch with exes – she said the same for her. Important frame test here – it seems that when girl’s start asking these kinds of questions, they are really into you.
I should have really used this opportunity to dive into more sex-arousal focused stories.
Around sunset she mentioned wanting to go to the bathroom, so we packed up everything and closed shop on the picnic, started walking north to the area with some bathrooms. Here, she grabbed me and tried to hold hands, instead I offered my arm and she did not accept. So I grabbed her around her body instead, but did hold hands for a minute. I can already tell that managing the provider and monogamy frame is going to be a big deal here – she’s going to push for that.
After the bathroom we went to some benches and sat, watching the water and dusk oncoming. It was very peaceful and romantic, she eventually sat on me facing me and we just made out and talked some life stuff for thirty minutes. She straddled me on the bench, I squeezed her ass and made out with her a lot.
At this point, very important moment – she asked me if I’d had sex since my girlfriend, and then how many times. Again, looked me straight in the eye for a serious answer. I said that I had since December, but I refused to tell her how many times. Suddenly she got up and sat a bench over, and folded her arms and legs unhappily.
I was like “what the fuck” but did nothing – just sat there and stared in space. After like five minutes, she slid over and rested her head on my shoulder, and then grabbed my arm and hugged it.
There was a big missed opportunity here – the environment was definitely ripe for some kind of outdoor sex, but I should have done a little bit of sex talk and adventurous non judgmental frames, then tried to arouse her and sneak her away into a corner. It would have been a high risk high reward ploy – but I need to get better at setting this up. I think what I should have done is at minimum use her question to share sexual stories, then blame her for bringing it up, and then not pull. That would have helped me on Date 3.
The end of this date was abrupt – started walking down the block away from the park, when all of a sudden she just kissed me and walked off, grabbing a bikeshare nearby. No words, no text, no look back.
She didn’t text that evening, so I thought maybe I had screwed something up. In retrospect I think when girls really like a guy, sometimes they do this and get really nervous when parting ways on a date. But, I came out of Date 2 thinking I had failed.
Third Day Home Cooking Date - Monday evening
On Sunday to my surprise she initiated a random text, and we texted back and forth a few times. After a few messages, suggested seeing her before her trip, asking about Monday or Tuesday evening. She suggested Monday evening as available, so we made plans for that. Initially confirming for 5:30pm, on Monday morning while confirming my address, Around 2pm she texted that she has a call suddenly planned for 7, but that it would take thirty minutes and asked if it’s OK for her to get there by 8. No worries I said – I'll just make dinner first and we can eat once she’s here. she texted me about a call she’d be on starting at 7, but asked if it’s okay to come at 8pm. I said sure – I'll probably just cook in advance, and to text me when she’s on the way.
I went to get groceries at 6:30 and started to cook around 7:15. By the time 8 rolled around she said her call was still going, but at 8:05 texted that she’s leaving and she’ll get there in 20 minutes. Finally at 8:35 she arrived; I met her downstairs and walked up with her.
I had left the cooking about 75% complete, so first we grabbed some wine she brought and went to the roof to drink it quick, but then came down and I asked for her help cooking. While taking the lead she kissed me repeatedly and said she was really impressed several times. Luckily it tasted good, too.
Obviously used this to give her more shit, learn more about her, vibe more.
After eating we talked a bit, then at some point she wanted to move to the couch and this started the make-outs and LMR.
From now (10pm) until roughly 4am I’d be fighting her LMR, but slowly.
I did about four different fractionations between the escalations (where it was clear to her that she was enjoying the hell out of it). When I fractionated it would be at a peak vibe, and we went and played games. Twice it was Jenga, then another time it was cards, and a fourth time it was to smoke weed and have some wine. I think the fractionation periods helped a lot, but I’m very used to this – it helps to show a girl that it’s not just sex you want that night, that you’re having fun with her too. After all a girl’s biggest worry here is you pumping and dumping her.
I think in this case, I’d given her a really good experience on all the dates, and she was simply in disbelief that this was real, that we actually had good chemistry and connection.
It took a looooooong time, but slowly I broke her and in every separate escalation a new piece of clothing came off, and her biggest piece of resistance which was “I am on my period” was slowly unwinding.
We ended up having two separate “first fucks” which was really weird, mainly because she got anxious in the first time after I’d entered and stroked a few times, but I was having difficulty getting her to orgasm. Suddenly she just got up and went to the kitchen without saying a word, then put on her bra and underwear and came back. I had to fractionate – and soon after we shut the lights and went to bed. I thought the lights off might help relax her – instead I just couldn’t sleep.
I started escalating and got her bra and panties off again easily, but she wouldn’t let me fuck her. My god, what a body. Girl is in her low 30s so not primo Russian woman body like a 20 year old would be, but damn close – big D boobs very round and rotund, a flat stomach, skinny waist like a figure 8, and wider hips shaping a bubbly firm ass. Every time I looked at her my dick got to a full erection instantly. I can’t imagine what she would have been like in her early 20s. Girl was easily somewhere in the 8-9 range in her 20s, my estimate was 8-8.5 in the moment.
After this point she put up some whole other kind of resistance I’ve never seen.
“Do anything you want to me”
“Huh?”
“First let me fall asleep, but then I want you to take me in the middle of the night. Don’t ask for my permission – just do it.”
Sometime around 4:30am, it became apparent to her (finally) that neither of us was falling asleep. When she brought this up, I alluded to us just having fun instead – and finally she gave herself up and just let me do whatever I wanted. Instead of focusing on making her cum, I focused on making myself cum first (lol) and fucked her for 10-15 minutes to the brink of her cumming, until I nutted. Oddly the sex wasn’t that great, and the chemistry from before was lacking. Couldn’t figure this out.
We had sex one more time that night.
Next Day and Wednesday evening:
Since she slept over, she got up around 7:15, and was out the door by around 7:40. I didn’t dress, make breakfast or anything – just kissed her goodbye. We had talked about meeting up again before her trip – she suggested the same night, but I told her I’m not free, and asked about Wednesday evening. Said she’d let me know.
My FB flaked on Tuesday evening – in a last minute bid, I reached out to A again and said I’ve freed up, if she’s still interested. Instead, she sent me a video of her doing a call, which she had told me about the day before.
Later at night she asked if I wanted to have a video call before she slept – I knew she was leaving on Thursday morning and I wanted to get Lock In before her trip, so I figured this would be a good opportunity to ask. We got on the call and chatted for about 15 minutes, and unfortunately turns out she has a work call at 6:30, plus a early flight the next day. So I gave up on that hope.
Next day, I got this text:
Good morning
My flight was cancelled.
Turns out her whole trip got shifted to the following week, with her now leaving on Wednesday next week instead.
Well – now I got what I wanted, and I invited her over to join me at 6pm, so she could just do her call here at 6:30 and she’d already be at my place in time for our 8pm Quarantine because of the Riots.
At the time of writing she’d just come over, spent 6:30-8:30 on another call, and we fucked a few times between 9 and 12:30 when we fell asleep, plus playing cards and watching half a movie. Again the sex was bizarrely odd – sometimes it was good, and it kept seeming like she’s into me, but sexually it felt like she was turned off at random points and would just cut things off, while for me it increased my anxiety.
I took an unusual path and early in the morning made a remark about this, only to find out that she felt pressured for sex, which caused her to withdraw from me, thus causing me anxiety, which caused her more anxiety. Bad cycle. She then mentioned that she really wants to not feel pressured, just that she’ll
Again all this ties back to her image and my lack of setting non-judgmental frames way before. But also, this is definitely a girl that escalates herself.
I fixed this by not giving a fuck about sex in the morning and just calmly hung out with her in bed, her cuddling against me and me stroking her – kind of fucked up, but it’s the way it was to be. We got up and I made oatmeal breakfast and coffee for us, then chatted and hung out with her having a good time laughing over random things. When the vibe was good, I picked her up and pulled her to the bed and banged her for 25 minutes. This time it was actually really good, she didn’t resist at all and kept encouraging me to plow her and fuck her harder – and I got to see her glorious body in the daytime too – we had a passionate time. In the end she told me to cum all over her tits in missionary, so I did cum over her glorious D round tits. Holy shit, made me realize how much I love big tits.
“My Sexual Terrorist,” she told me as she looked at me with a smile and doe eyes, rubbing my cum all over her tits.
“My Russian Spy,” I told her as I went to get a towel and clean up the same.
Had to cut it off quick because I had a phone call to do at 10am, and it was already 9:40. Suddenly got another call at 9:45 from my vendor, and this lasted till 9:55. This gave her a chance to clean up and change – by the time I was finished, she was ready go out and kissed me goodbye. Didn’t make any plans about meeting again, but seems like this girl is really into me.
The frame moving forward will definitely have to be that of an mLTR.
Reflection:
- There you go, Gents! I haven’t touched Bumble since Dec 2017 when I last installed it on my phone, but COVID times called for desperate measures. Even though I only got a handful of matches, I met up with the most attractive one and got a new goal win!
- I think with better control I could have done this whole process way better, you can probably see a lot of places where my frame is weak. The video call was the best date in my opinion, and I put too many provider frames in the other two. Part of this is lack of practice – I’m just happy to have some momentum back after being nearly celibate since early March.
- Russian women have been attracted to me for years, only now am I getting some insight into what works. It seems to be a lot of qualifying, plus on everything she qualifies, making it seem like I’m better and a bigger authority, while also poking fun at her. Also, proceed with seduction even when Russian women are stone cold, which they usually are.
- I tried some new methods that I expect will rise in popularity in dating – such as a video call requested before the actual meet and how to handle it, as a response to my date invite. I think a video call can have the effect of making a girl really excited to meet you, if you handle it well.
- I didn’t do any sex talk at any stage in the process, which is very different from my usual process. Instead I just focused on being attractive and having fun, and giving this girl a hard time. Whenever I did that, it seemed to have a good effect on her and she took the lead sometimes too. Where I could have used sex talk is definitely setting nonjudgy frames around sex.
- Unfortunately even though most of the seduction was good, in this particular case the sex ended up being bad. I don’t fully understand why – partly it could be my own lack of recent skill, momentum, and experience. We had really good chemistry through everything else; personally I blame the girl’s LMR, which is always just exhausting. By the time we actually got to sex, we were both absolutely exhausted, and it seemed like she wasn’t getting wet or aroused easily. I think the problem was that she felt pressured, meaning I need to work on my escalations.
- I think what worked best is mentally, I framed myself as her superior, as better than her. It was probably most potent on the video call.
- In the next couple instances of LMR close seductions (unfortunately I’m due to have many of these as I double as a Provider in my appearance and vibe in addition to being a Lover sometimes), I need to really focus on being completely indifferent in my frame through and after the LMR. I did feel like later in the night I was more needy, and I couldn’t sleep and kept pushing for sex more awkwardly. It needs to be more natural.
- Moving forward will be tough – I know this girl’s probably looking for some kind of LTR, at the same time she’s quite attractive (usually don’t match many attractive women online), pretty driven Alpha and my type, and I want to get more experience with Russian girls, so probably going to vy for some kind of mLTR here. But, one thing moving forward I’m going to have to really manage is her expectations on the provider frame – fully expecting this girl to possibly start texting me nearly every day and/or trying to have video calls a few times a week.
- Also, I’ve gone into this with a Provider type game style – I call it Wealthy Lifestyle Game, where you just entertain women for fun and because money is no big deal to you. I think it worked especially as a test, but I could have done it with fewer Boyfriend or Providery vibes.
Missed Opportunities:
- On Date 2, Having sex outside. The weather was good and it was getting dark – just had to find a good place. She was also horny and aroused, and the mood was right. I could have probably snuck us away to dark area and done some damage, although in this instance I hadn’t set.
- By not doing ANY sex talk, nor the frames leading up to it, I caused myself a good deal of LMR. This always happens anyway, but by doing sex talk I could have also risked losing the magic, since this girl was ultimately looking for connection and not sex. But, I should have definitely used HER bringing up of sex and relationships, to share adventurous sexual stories, bring out her own, and really play with this frame. There’s a whole lot more to this girl than meets my eye, I think she’s SUPER experienced, but I might not get to see all of it even while dating her because of the missing frames.
Overall, grateful for this one - I learned a lot!
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