Hello all,
I'm a new member to these forums and I've been reading the articles in GirlsChase for quite some time now. I'm a guy in my early 20s who occasionally does cold approaches, though to no degree of success because its often as a fun dare with friends and I don't commit to it when I'm alone enough. Reading the GirlsChase site, however, has informed me of quite a number of social dynamics that I wouldn't have realised it myself, like deep diving, getting compliance and the ideas of moving fast, for example.
Because I'm unable to muster the courage and commitment to do cold approaching something like 5 times a day, I attempt to make up for it by trying to move fast with the girls on the fringes of my circle. These are the girls who I know I will meet only once or twice over the course of work, gym or events. Because of the fact that I won't have to see them again if I screw up, I try things like:
Doing these things have yielded varying results for me. I go in, and I feel that (while on hindsight after whatever I wanted to do happened) I always communicate an overtone of "do you want to take this further"? Therefore, the results are very polarised. I'll get resoundingly positive responses from girls who are already attracted and have decided to be open to my advances, even if I stutter and stammer and act like the most unattractive guy in the world. Meanwhile, with the girls who are attached or who I've just met, even if I see that glimmer of attraction - because they have decided that it would be socially wrong or ethically incorrect to respond positively to me - I wouldn't be able to make any advances no matter how smooth I was.
I've given this some amount of thought, and I think that the way forward is to work on removing the "do you want to take this further?" overtone that I communicate (for some reason, Hollywood stars like Ryan Gosling and Robert Downey Jr. can get away with this directness in their movies). I figure the way forward is focusing on learning to use compliance tests to get girls to commit to the interaction more, though the only compliance test I know of is to ask for someone's name. Can anyone give me a list of compliance tests that can be used for any interaction? Are there compliance tests that are this flexible? Or do I have to come out with compliance tests that depending on the situation I'm in?
P.S. I figure my failures have come from putting myself in frames where I am the chaser, and this gives the girl no room for plausible deniability (which works to my disadvantage). I've been trying to work on being more subtle, but I always screw up on the compliance part. I always end up portraying myself with a "chaser" overtone because I ask for too much compliance too early. Like trying to deep dive someone who I have just gotten the name of, for example. They're just not invested enough to tell me all about themselves.
I'm a new member to these forums and I've been reading the articles in GirlsChase for quite some time now. I'm a guy in my early 20s who occasionally does cold approaches, though to no degree of success because its often as a fun dare with friends and I don't commit to it when I'm alone enough. Reading the GirlsChase site, however, has informed me of quite a number of social dynamics that I wouldn't have realised it myself, like deep diving, getting compliance and the ideas of moving fast, for example.
Because I'm unable to muster the courage and commitment to do cold approaching something like 5 times a day, I attempt to make up for it by trying to move fast with the girls on the fringes of my circle. These are the girls who I know I will meet only once or twice over the course of work, gym or events. Because of the fact that I won't have to see them again if I screw up, I try things like:
- Asking saleswomen who try to sell stuff to me for dates.
- Getting someone's number from her friend, cold call her and try to get a date.
- Trying to deep dive people I've just met.
Doing these things have yielded varying results for me. I go in, and I feel that (while on hindsight after whatever I wanted to do happened) I always communicate an overtone of "do you want to take this further"? Therefore, the results are very polarised. I'll get resoundingly positive responses from girls who are already attracted and have decided to be open to my advances, even if I stutter and stammer and act like the most unattractive guy in the world. Meanwhile, with the girls who are attached or who I've just met, even if I see that glimmer of attraction - because they have decided that it would be socially wrong or ethically incorrect to respond positively to me - I wouldn't be able to make any advances no matter how smooth I was.
I've given this some amount of thought, and I think that the way forward is to work on removing the "do you want to take this further?" overtone that I communicate (for some reason, Hollywood stars like Ryan Gosling and Robert Downey Jr. can get away with this directness in their movies). I figure the way forward is focusing on learning to use compliance tests to get girls to commit to the interaction more, though the only compliance test I know of is to ask for someone's name. Can anyone give me a list of compliance tests that can be used for any interaction? Are there compliance tests that are this flexible? Or do I have to come out with compliance tests that depending on the situation I'm in?
P.S. I figure my failures have come from putting myself in frames where I am the chaser, and this gives the girl no room for plausible deniability (which works to my disadvantage). I've been trying to work on being more subtle, but I always screw up on the compliance part. I always end up portraying myself with a "chaser" overtone because I ask for too much compliance too early. Like trying to deep dive someone who I have just gotten the name of, for example. They're just not invested enough to tell me all about themselves.
