1st text after daytime approach

[average_daygamer]

Hey nice forum you guys have here. I thought everything was on Reddit and Facebook these days!

A problem I have is that I rarely get replies after getting the girl's number. My daygame city is not that big so I can't simply approach more to get more numbers, before anyone suggests that!

A text I sent yesterday to a girl whom I did a direct cold approach on

"Hi, I'm (my name), nice to meet you yesterday, if you missed the bus I can only apologise (she said she was rushing to the bus, this was sarcastic followed by a grinning smiley, so a joke). Hopefully the rest of your day went well.

I was planning to check out the cathedral next week, would you be up for that? "

As you can see, I propose a date location and to give her something to respond to, whether positive or negative.

But complete silence follows! This is typical, rarely do they reply even then, only once or twice with short replies.

I am at a loss as to what to write as a first text, but it can't be that complicated, can it!?

 

[nikolas]

Too much too soon. Assuming you have already pinged a date during the interaction, its too much initial investment as a first text. You need to climb the texting ladder first. A simple "Hey [name] sportaneous meeting you earlier" can go a long way.

 

[average_daygamer]

Thanks for your reply.

I did think that, however there is also the concept of giving the girl something to respond to.

I guess I don't really understand the concept of simply not responding. An objection would be better than nothing, it would be something to work with.

But these "silence" responses leave me with no option but to double text, which I have read is a no no, so it just results in a dead lead.

I have tried to avoid proposing a meet up initially and move texting in the direction of a meet up gradually in the past and it usually ended up in (atleast what appeared) the girl losing interest and flaking out by way of simply not replying again.

So it seems that either avenue results in an eventual no reply.

 

[Kvothe]

I'll write out the important parts to get her invested in order of (my opinion) their priorities

1. Her responding to your message is 99% based on how the vibe of your conversation was
2. You wrote wayyyyy too much-first message just send
   "cool meeting you <her name>
   -<your name>"
   1. If she doesn't reply look back at step 1
3. Following up with something-after she responds to the first message then you can follow up and ask her something related to your in person conversation
   "how was the event?"
   "how was class"
   how was dinner with your friends"
   1. If she doesn't reply look back at step 1
4. If after the above she ghosts then you go back into texting too see where something went wrong
5. Sometimes her life gets in the way-maybe she fucks a different guy and loses interest, maybe she's in a weird mood, maybe she just missed your message

I still think the best book of texting is Hector's book: https://hectorcastillodating.com/what-she-really-means

Believe skills has some guides he's made: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/simple-basic-texting-guide.23663/.

Chase also has an article: https://www.girlschase.com/how-to-text-a-girl

 

[Skills]

A text I sent yesterday to a girl whom I did a direct cold approach on

"Hi, I'm (my name), nice to meet you yesterday, if you missed the bus I can only apologise (she said she was rushing to the bus, this was sarcastic followed by a grinning smiley, so a joke). Hopefully the rest of your day went well.

I would have text her right then and there as you got the number at least your name, and then follow up, next day with "did you miss the buss?" a follow up to the meet....

The problem with your text is nice guy normie subcommunication written all over TOO NICE, " i can only apologize" and "hopefully the rest of your day went well" the subcommunication is a disqualifier of a very nice guy too invested (i know is hard to see, and you don't see it).... But you come across too eager, too fast...

I was planning to check out the cathedral next week, would you be up for that? "

As you can see, I propose a date location and to give her something to respond to, whether positive or negative.

But complete silence follows! This is typical, rarely do they reply even then, only once or twice with short replies.

I am at a loss as to what to write as a first text, but it can't be that complicated, can it!?

wait a day and ping.... if she does not respond wait a day ping again, if she does not reply you are done (i think you are done already to be honest)....

 

[average_daygamer]

I would have text her right then and there as you got the number at least your name, and then follow up, next day with "did you miss the buss?" a follow up to the meet....

The problem with your text is nice guy normie subcommunication written all over TOO NICE, " i can only apologize" and "hopefully the rest of your day went well" the subcommunication is a disqualifier of a very nice guy too invested (i know is hard to see, and you don't see it).... But you come across too eager, too fast...


wait a day and ping.... if she does not respond wait a day ping again, if she does not reply you are done (i think you are done already to be honest)....

Ok thanks for the breakdown.

The apologising for making her miss the bus part was meant to be sarcastic like "Oh, you are lucky you got the chance to talk to me, but you had to miss the bus, so sowry (Chinese accent)" type thing, but maybe it didn't read that way.

I also thought hoping the rest of her day went well was wrong but then I thought I am over thinking it and was just some "pull" after the slight tease (push) about making her miss her bus.

Is it allowed to double or even triple text then? The guys over on the seduction sub Reddit act as if double texting is some kind of terrible thing.

I had a few pics from holiday I thought of sending her with an intriguing caption like "Enjoying the view..." Or similar.
ng
Or does that sound too gamey?

 

[Skills]

Ok thanks for the breakdown.

The apologising for making her miss the bus part was meant to be sarcastic like "Oh, you are lucky you got the chance to talk to me, but you had to miss the bus, so sowry (Chinese accent)" type thing, but maybe it didn't read that way.

I also thought hoping the rest of her day went well was wrong but then I thought I am over thinking it and was just some "pull" after the slight tease (push) about making her miss her bus.

Is it allowed to double or even triple text then? The guys over on the seduction sub Reddit act as if double texting is some kind of terrible thing.

I had a few pics from holiday I thought of sending her with an intriguing caption like "Enjoying the view..." Or similar.
ng
Or does that sound too gamey?

don't listen to reedit guys please....

she has not responded you have 2 choices, wait for her to text you (unlikely to happen) or ping her (wait 24 hours and text like nothing happen aka double text in a way of a ping)

so do you rather double text and less slight of % of a response by double texting or 0 respond and pound your chest you never double text and tell the redit virgins...

you have not choice but to double text, or done... she wait 24 hours send morning sun emoji....

 

[empath]

Hey nice forum you guys have here. I thought everything was on Reddit and Facebook these days!

A problem I have is that I rarely get replies after getting the girl's number. My daygame city is not that big so I can't simply approach more to get more numbers, before anyone suggests that!

A text I sent yesterday to a girl whom I did a direct cold approach on

"Hi, I'm (my name), nice to meet you yesterday, if you missed the bus I can only apologise (she said she was rushing to the bus, this was sarcastic followed by a grinning smiley, so a joke). Hopefully the rest of your day went well.

I was planning to check out the cathedral next week, would you be up for that? "

As you can see, I propose a date location and to give her something to respond to, whether positive or negative.

But complete silence follows! This is typical, rarely do they reply even then, only once or twice with short replies.

I am at a loss as to what to write as a first text, but it can't be that complicated, can it!?

I think emojies don't convey much initally and still she would focus on the first part of the text.

You need to send something to pattern interrupt.

Also, I have found photos in one time view works best for pings.

It increases curiosity and they need to open it.

Or just send this ...

Hmmm... i thought we could have had a crazy story but I am losing my interest now


I prefer sending something warm but if I have some closness/relationship with the girl in this case you have nothing so warmth will not work.