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[Average]

Hey guys,

Over the holidays I scanned possible reasons as to why I may be fearful of progressing with women nowadays and these two questions came to mind:

1. What if your sex skills suck? How much of an impact will it have on you?

2. If you're flaked on and rejected a lot, would it garner a fucked up reputation for you? How then, could you avoid this?

The first one is basically why I'm not pushing for the close with women anymore.

The second one is pretty much my general inadequacy in social situations. Since I pretty much suck at setting up plans, flakes and bad reviews are probably inevitable. Or is this just in my head? Especially since people seem to be keeping an eye on me for any fuckboy behaviors (as people ask me why I talk to so many women, etc).

 

[NealIRC]

1. What if your sex skills suck? How much of an impact will it have on you?

Ejaculation or?

2. If you're flaked on and rejected a lot, would it garner a fucked up reputation for you?

If I get rejected by a lot of women in New York, will that hurt my rep by the women of England?

 

[foggy]

Over the holidays I scanned possible reasons as to why I may be fearful of progressing with women nowadays and these two questions came to mind:

1. What if your sex skills suck? How much of an impact will it have on you?

hi ash

i can relate. all throughout my teens, early 20s, and mid 20s, i was afraid to bang girls. id have girls who were expressing clear interest in me, yet id avoid moving things forward with them - simply because i knew it would lead to sex, and i was worried about how i would perform. id have girls who were in my bed BEGGING TO BE FUCKED and id still refuse - because i was worried about how i would perform.

you know how many girls i've passed up on because of this? dozens....

let me tell you that when i was finally okay with taking the plunge, yeah the sex was a little awkward a few times (couldnt get it in, going soft, bad rhythm, etc etc) and there was disappointment in the air. and i was still too much of a wimp to try out any other positions besides cowgirl

but earlier this summer i tried out a few new positions and it was A M A Z I N G

so how am i feeling now? well my sexual confidence has gone up, and I'm willing to move forward with any girl. but other than that, i am feeling so insanely regretful. that i didn't bite the bullet and take all the opportunities i had earlier in my life.

i dont want you to feel the regret that i do ash, so i suggest you make the decision to just go for it like i did.

if you're worried about how you'll perform, just take it slow. the next few girls you bang, let them ride you. rome wasnt built in a day!?

hope i answered your question.

 

[Fuck This]

Hey guys,

Over the holidays I scanned possible reasons as to why I may be fearful of progressing with women nowadays and these two questions came to mind:

1. What if your sex skills suck? How much of an impact will it have on you?

Go plow some uglies. Girls you don't care about. Also works after a girl breaks up with you.
Study up on Female anatomy, and bring 'em to orgasm with hand and mouth. Then get yours and she won't care too much if it doesn't last long.

2. If you're flaked on and rejected a lot, would it garner a fucked up reputation for you? How then, could you avoid this?

Don't create a situation where a flake is possible. Do an instadate.
Approach in a discreet manner. Build more comfort. Don't put her on the spot. 1e 30 seconds after meeting her in front of her friends ask for her number. Instead have a conversation that tells you what is important to her and ask questions that has her talking about things that make HER feel good around you. Could be her Cat, her major in college, her career, her family, her special skills. It is about how you make her feel about herself (ego) that makes her want to be with you.....

 

[Tony D]

I wrote an article on my blog about how to not suck at sex. And there's a great book you might be able to find called the sex god method. Personally unless you come too quick, which is natural the first few times you sleep with someone, I don't see how any man can really suck at sex. Just stick it in there, pump and get your knotch. You learn by doing. http://www.absoluteability.com/dating/guide-to-sex/

As for a rep, don't game at work or school. If you live in a city, go practice at random bars or street corners.

You worry too much.

 

[Average]

Thanks for the help guys

All very inspirational and strategic. Gives me the motivation to go out there and start swinging XD

Glad to see the boards as active as it is now, cause the advice members give tend to be pretty solid!