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I am currently a foreigner living in Japan and thought of asking women if they would be willing to practice Japanese with me as a possible opener (I am decently good at Japanese myself). I have a bus commute to work every day, and happened to sit next to a girl one morning, and asked her if she would be willing to speak to me in Japanese in order to help me practice. I basically followed some of the techniques outlined here, and proceeded to talk to her about her work and life, and complimenting her on what she was wearing. I also used the touch techniques outlined here.
We both got off at the same station, after which I asked her for a coffee, to which she said yes, and took her number. I followed the texting techniques from this post after getting her number, and ended up meeting her over some sushi and beer the following weekend. I followed the dating advice as shown in this post, and did some deep diving and chase framing. We were sitting close to each other and I was continuously touching her legs and hands as I was expressing myself. I tried to get her to touch my hand by showing the calluses from the gym but she did not respond. However, she was very responsive to talking and was asking me plenty of questions and revealing many things about herself. I had her describe her home and described mine to her and suggested that we should go to my place mid way during the date. She said she loved traveling and we talked at length about it. Seemed like a arousal loving woman so I framed myself with the intent of showing her that she can seek thrills with me.
We then proceeded to get some coffee, and since it was raining, I made sure to huddle under her umbrella all the while holding her waist. We made our way to the coffee shop, had our coffee sitting side by side, legs touching each other. She said she needs to be home early since she is meeting a friend early morning the next day and we made our way back to the train station to bid adieu. I asked her if she would be willing to come home with me, but she declined. Then I asked her if she wants to go out on a date again, and she said we can plan it out over text. I sent her a text later as shown over here just stating that I had a great time with her (I did not mention about going out again).
My question is: what would be the best tactic to ask her out on a second date again and invite her home? Also, what could have gone better on this date?
We both got off at the same station, after which I asked her for a coffee, to which she said yes, and took her number. I followed the texting techniques from this post after getting her number, and ended up meeting her over some sushi and beer the following weekend. I followed the dating advice as shown in this post, and did some deep diving and chase framing. We were sitting close to each other and I was continuously touching her legs and hands as I was expressing myself. I tried to get her to touch my hand by showing the calluses from the gym but she did not respond. However, she was very responsive to talking and was asking me plenty of questions and revealing many things about herself. I had her describe her home and described mine to her and suggested that we should go to my place mid way during the date. She said she loved traveling and we talked at length about it. Seemed like a arousal loving woman so I framed myself with the intent of showing her that she can seek thrills with me.
We then proceeded to get some coffee, and since it was raining, I made sure to huddle under her umbrella all the while holding her waist. We made our way to the coffee shop, had our coffee sitting side by side, legs touching each other. She said she needs to be home early since she is meeting a friend early morning the next day and we made our way back to the train station to bid adieu. I asked her if she would be willing to come home with me, but she declined. Then I asked her if she wants to go out on a date again, and she said we can plan it out over text. I sent her a text later as shown over here just stating that I had a great time with her (I did not mention about going out again).
My question is: what would be the best tactic to ask her out on a second date again and invite her home? Also, what could have gone better on this date?
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