36 questions to fall in love

[DeepShadow]

Hi I wanted to ask your opinion if it was worth it and how to use what I will write next. Reading the 8 @Chase questions (https://www.girlschase.com/content/what-does-she-want-8-things-you-must-ask-her) I was reminded of the study on the 36 chase questions her to make her fall in love.

Obviously these are not enough and to bring women to bed you need more but what do you think about implementing them for deep rapport?

Do you think it is better to mention it in some way that she accepts and do it to also have the excuse of the test done by others to get deeper in less time (saying of the test there is also the final part of looking into each other's eyes for 4 minutes, clearly 36 questions and 4 minutes are too many but even if you reduce the questions and time it will still have an effect), or do you think it is better to remember the questions and structure and use them without telling to her anything?

The first part replaces the formal and circumstantial chatter that inaugurates the conversations, but speeds up their progress. The second part forces the conversation towards very personal topics, the third part deepens the second and forces you to talk about the other person, and therefore to observe them better in order to be able to talk about her.
here are the questions for those who do not know them
( https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness )

and here is a short video of this experiment reproduced on a channel for entertainment purposes only

 

[ulrich]

I can see that working but you obviously want to make it lighter and feel spontaneous and unscripted.

Things like these, if they feel scripted, land you in the player category super fast.

I would select 10-12 of these questions and have them in my toolbox for deep diving when the opportunity arise.

 

[DeepShadow]

Vedo che funziona, ma ovviamente vuoi renderlo più leggero e sentirti spontaneo e senza copione.

Cose come queste, se si sentono sceneggiate, ti atterrano nella categoria dei giocatori molto velocemente.

Selezionerei 10-12 di queste domande e le avrei nella mia cassetta degli attrezzi per le immersioni profonde quando se ne presenta l'opportunità.

Sì, era quello che penso, potrei essere chiamato naturale ma mi sto sforzando di vedere oltre il mio intuito e probabilmente farò domande stupide. Normalmente vedo come tutto ciò che ti fa sembrare un "nerd" o uno studioso ti fa perdere l'attrazione o la visione di una specie di ragazza di te. Ad esempio trovo stupido usare parole di sicurezza e so che in bdsm se ne usa molto, ma penso che oltre a farti classificare dalla ragazza come una specie di secchione sia che le usi perché spesso quelle persone non ne hanno molte abilità sociali e non riescono a capire quando. un no è un NO! e quando un no è solo resistenza simbolica o qualcos'altro

 

[Regal Tiger]

From what I remember the 36 questions stuff is a combination of childhood regression and intense eye contact

Generates a lot of deep comfort and familiarity which people kinda translate into romantic affection


I will admit it's been a while though, so I may be off the mark

 

[DeepShadow]

From what I remember the 36 questions stuff is a combination of childhood regression and intense eye contact

Generates a lot of deep comfort and familiarity which people kinda translate into romantic affection


I will admit it's been a while though, so I may be off the mark

Let's say it's some kind of deep dive to create a lot of comfort and intimacy / trust

 

[Skjöldr]

Agreed with Uriel, be careful not sounding scripted and like an interview, some of these can sound too tryhard and unnatural. What i would suggest is keeping it simple and picking 5-8 of these and rehearsing them and keeping them in the back of your head and try them out on your next dates. The ones that work well, keep them. And then experiment with new ones. Definitely appreciate the share especially the ones like "if you knew that in one year you would die, how would you change the way you live?". It is a good seduction topic about not missing out on opportunities and pumping a feeling of spontaneity and potential regret into her i.e. if she doesn't pounce on this opportunity with you now she might lose you forever.

That led me to a quick question you can ask girls on dates that i always do which is asking them: Would you rather regret something you did or something you didn't do? (Hint: you want to steer them towards regretting something they didn't do )

 

[Warped Mindless]

I’ll save you a click

My thoughts: some of these are good (but phrase them more naturally) but I would stay away from the more negative ones. Don’t be invoking negative emotions when first meet women.
Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

 

[Tr1cky]

@Warped Mindless i agree about not using the negative ones with two exceptions.

1) you're gaming a true 9/10 (someone who's never had negative feedback)
2) stripper.

carry on...

 

[Warped Mindless]

@Warped Mindless i agree about not using the negative ones with two exceptions.

1) you're gaming a true 9/10 (someone who's never had negative feedback)
2) stripper.

carry on...

Not sure what that has to do with anything…

When you cold approach a woman and you are seducing her, its best to not have her link negative emotions to you.

 

[DeepShadow]

I’ll save you a click

My thoughts: some of these are good (but phrase them more naturally) but I would stay away from the more negative ones. Don’t be invoking negative emotions when first meet women.
Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Not even make her feel negative emotions briefly followed by positive emotions? because without associating you with negative things but if the fractions you build something more powerful or am I wrong?

Do you agree with using the grade structure or do you prefer to mix the grade of the questions? because each bracket of 12 changes in scope and depth