I was originally going to post this in field reports but I figure if I post it here then that will encourage me to approach more because I will feel guilty if I don't update it daily with my approaches.
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Decided to take a walk tonight around the neighborhood after my evening meal. I live in Miami, so my "neighborhood" has tons of shops, restaurants, cafes, etc. My total circuit takes me about 45 minutes and I do it roughly every single night.
I don't always approach, but I know I usually should. There are just SO MANY hot girls everywhere it's hard to not approach here.
Anyway, it rained just before my walk so there were fewer people out than normal. I made it all the way to the halfway point of my walk - a local Target - when I spotted a short skinny chick with curly blonde hair out of the corner of my eye. I didn't approach straight away, but as fate would have it we both paid and left the store at roughly the same time. And we were both walking in the same direction. So with signs like that, I was like OK, destiny is giving me clear signs.
She was maybe 10 feet ahead of me, so I jogged up to her and said, "Hi" with a smile on my face.
She actually stopped dead in her tracks and had this like OH SHIT look on her face, so I calibrated and said, "I'm sorry I didn't mean to startle you, I just saw you inside and thought you were cute, and since we're walking in the same direction I figured I would come say hi. I'm just going up to the Chipotle down there."
Now that I think about it that was sort of a false time constraint. It basically was the equivalent of saying, "I have to go my own way after a block or so, so it's not like I'm going to follow you around and be weird."
She laughed and seemed to relax a little bit, and we started walking. My mind kind of drew a blank so I just went into cold read/question mode.
"I'm assuming you live around here." Maybe sounded a little creepy now that I think about it.
She goes, "I do, do you?"
"Yep, I actually live in Wynwood," I pointed over vaguely to where Wynwood was.
Blah blah blah, we started talking about what does she do for work, what do I do for work, etc. We took our time walking down to the end of the block, it wasn't a speedwalk.
By the time we got to the end of the block she was like, "Okay, well I need to go that way."
Instead of going for the number (I don't go for IG anymore), I thought to myself, "I should try to keep her here talking to me for as long as possible." I feel like that's a good "goal" to have in your mind, at least at my current level.
We ended up chatting for another 5 or so minutes about her job and what she did, how she was on call, etc etc.
I suppose I could have tried for the instadate, but she had a bag of stuff she'd just bought from Target and probably wanted to go put it in her apartment. And yeah I guess she could have brought it with her, maybe just excuses.
Anyway, I said, "Okay, well it was nice talking to you."
And then once she said, "Yeah, you too" I took that as a good sign and asked her, "What's your number? Now that we know we're neighbors maybe we can grab a drink some time."
She goes, "Suuuure."
Pulled out my phone, opened up contacts, handed it over to her and let her type in her info.
She handed it back and we talked a bit more. Then she started playing with her hair a lot for some reason, maybe once she realized she gave me her number she was like, "ok, I guess I like this guy now since I gave him my number." I honestly have no idea. Or maybe it's because I asked for her number she was like "ok, it's that kind of converstaion now."
Either way I was satisfied with all the hair flips being thrown my way, casually said something about how I'd text her, and went on my way.
Pretty happy with how I handled it, honestly pretty surprised it went so smoothly despite the startled reaction and how she seemed standoffish at first. I probably could have thrown some more flirty stuff in there, but I literally just went super direct. I feel like that's a problem of mine.
My approaches are basically like:
1. Direct opener ("you're cute, I wanted to meet you")
2. Logistics mode via cold reads/questions ("do you live around here" "what do you do for work" (to make sure she's not a workaholic), "where are you from")
3. Contact info close or instadate
99% of the time I go for the number instead of instadate. I don't do Instagram closes anymore, they never go anywhere and it forces me to use social media much more than I'd like to. Plus I feel like girls respect asking for the number whereas getting their IG is like asking for their fucking email address or something.
Things I did well:
1. Smiled
2. Remained calm
3. Took action
Things to focus on next time:
1. Keep the interaction going longer (instadate)
2. Be more animated/energetic
I need to start doing approaches every day again. Thanks for reading my blog
***
Decided to take a walk tonight around the neighborhood after my evening meal. I live in Miami, so my "neighborhood" has tons of shops, restaurants, cafes, etc. My total circuit takes me about 45 minutes and I do it roughly every single night.
I don't always approach, but I know I usually should. There are just SO MANY hot girls everywhere it's hard to not approach here.
Anyway, it rained just before my walk so there were fewer people out than normal. I made it all the way to the halfway point of my walk - a local Target - when I spotted a short skinny chick with curly blonde hair out of the corner of my eye. I didn't approach straight away, but as fate would have it we both paid and left the store at roughly the same time. And we were both walking in the same direction. So with signs like that, I was like OK, destiny is giving me clear signs.
She was maybe 10 feet ahead of me, so I jogged up to her and said, "Hi" with a smile on my face.
She actually stopped dead in her tracks and had this like OH SHIT look on her face, so I calibrated and said, "I'm sorry I didn't mean to startle you, I just saw you inside and thought you were cute, and since we're walking in the same direction I figured I would come say hi. I'm just going up to the Chipotle down there."
Now that I think about it that was sort of a false time constraint. It basically was the equivalent of saying, "I have to go my own way after a block or so, so it's not like I'm going to follow you around and be weird."
She laughed and seemed to relax a little bit, and we started walking. My mind kind of drew a blank so I just went into cold read/question mode.
"I'm assuming you live around here." Maybe sounded a little creepy now that I think about it.
She goes, "I do, do you?"
"Yep, I actually live in Wynwood," I pointed over vaguely to where Wynwood was.
Blah blah blah, we started talking about what does she do for work, what do I do for work, etc. We took our time walking down to the end of the block, it wasn't a speedwalk.
By the time we got to the end of the block she was like, "Okay, well I need to go that way."
Instead of going for the number (I don't go for IG anymore), I thought to myself, "I should try to keep her here talking to me for as long as possible." I feel like that's a good "goal" to have in your mind, at least at my current level.
We ended up chatting for another 5 or so minutes about her job and what she did, how she was on call, etc etc.
I suppose I could have tried for the instadate, but she had a bag of stuff she'd just bought from Target and probably wanted to go put it in her apartment. And yeah I guess she could have brought it with her, maybe just excuses.
Anyway, I said, "Okay, well it was nice talking to you."
And then once she said, "Yeah, you too" I took that as a good sign and asked her, "What's your number? Now that we know we're neighbors maybe we can grab a drink some time."
She goes, "Suuuure."
Pulled out my phone, opened up contacts, handed it over to her and let her type in her info.
She handed it back and we talked a bit more. Then she started playing with her hair a lot for some reason, maybe once she realized she gave me her number she was like, "ok, I guess I like this guy now since I gave him my number." I honestly have no idea. Or maybe it's because I asked for her number she was like "ok, it's that kind of converstaion now."
Either way I was satisfied with all the hair flips being thrown my way, casually said something about how I'd text her, and went on my way.
Pretty happy with how I handled it, honestly pretty surprised it went so smoothly despite the startled reaction and how she seemed standoffish at first. I probably could have thrown some more flirty stuff in there, but I literally just went super direct. I feel like that's a problem of mine.
My approaches are basically like:
1. Direct opener ("you're cute, I wanted to meet you")
2. Logistics mode via cold reads/questions ("do you live around here" "what do you do for work" (to make sure she's not a workaholic), "where are you from")
3. Contact info close or instadate
99% of the time I go for the number instead of instadate. I don't do Instagram closes anymore, they never go anywhere and it forces me to use social media much more than I'd like to. Plus I feel like girls respect asking for the number whereas getting their IG is like asking for their fucking email address or something.
Things I did well:
1. Smiled
2. Remained calm
3. Took action
Things to focus on next time:
1. Keep the interaction going longer (instadate)
2. Be more animated/energetic
I need to start doing approaches every day again. Thanks for reading my blog