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Space Monkey
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I was originally going to post this in field reports but I figure if I post it here then that will encourage me to approach more because I will feel guilty if I don't update it daily with my approaches.

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Decided to take a walk tonight around the neighborhood after my evening meal. I live in Miami, so my "neighborhood" has tons of shops, restaurants, cafes, etc. My total circuit takes me about 45 minutes and I do it roughly every single night.

I don't always approach, but I know I usually should. There are just SO MANY hot girls everywhere it's hard to not approach here.

Anyway, it rained just before my walk so there were fewer people out than normal. I made it all the way to the halfway point of my walk - a local Target - when I spotted a short skinny chick with curly blonde hair out of the corner of my eye. I didn't approach straight away, but as fate would have it we both paid and left the store at roughly the same time. And we were both walking in the same direction. So with signs like that, I was like OK, destiny is giving me clear signs.

She was maybe 10 feet ahead of me, so I jogged up to her and said, "Hi" with a smile on my face.

She actually stopped dead in her tracks and had this like OH SHIT look on her face, so I calibrated and said, "I'm sorry I didn't mean to startle you, I just saw you inside and thought you were cute, and since we're walking in the same direction I figured I would come say hi. I'm just going up to the Chipotle down there."

Now that I think about it that was sort of a false time constraint. It basically was the equivalent of saying, "I have to go my own way after a block or so, so it's not like I'm going to follow you around and be weird."

She laughed and seemed to relax a little bit, and we started walking. My mind kind of drew a blank so I just went into cold read/question mode.

"I'm assuming you live around here." Maybe sounded a little creepy now that I think about it.

She goes, "I do, do you?"

"Yep, I actually live in Wynwood," I pointed over vaguely to where Wynwood was.

Blah blah blah, we started talking about what does she do for work, what do I do for work, etc. We took our time walking down to the end of the block, it wasn't a speedwalk.

By the time we got to the end of the block she was like, "Okay, well I need to go that way."

Instead of going for the number (I don't go for IG anymore), I thought to myself, "I should try to keep her here talking to me for as long as possible." I feel like that's a good "goal" to have in your mind, at least at my current level.

We ended up chatting for another 5 or so minutes about her job and what she did, how she was on call, etc etc.

I suppose I could have tried for the instadate, but she had a bag of stuff she'd just bought from Target and probably wanted to go put it in her apartment. And yeah I guess she could have brought it with her, maybe just excuses.

Anyway, I said, "Okay, well it was nice talking to you."

And then once she said, "Yeah, you too" I took that as a good sign and asked her, "What's your number? Now that we know we're neighbors maybe we can grab a drink some time."

She goes, "Suuuure."

Pulled out my phone, opened up contacts, handed it over to her and let her type in her info.

She handed it back and we talked a bit more. Then she started playing with her hair a lot for some reason, maybe once she realized she gave me her number she was like, "ok, I guess I like this guy now since I gave him my number." I honestly have no idea. Or maybe it's because I asked for her number she was like "ok, it's that kind of converstaion now."

Either way I was satisfied with all the hair flips being thrown my way, casually said something about how I'd text her, and went on my way.

Pretty happy with how I handled it, honestly pretty surprised it went so smoothly despite the startled reaction and how she seemed standoffish at first. I probably could have thrown some more flirty stuff in there, but I literally just went super direct. I feel like that's a problem of mine.

My approaches are basically like:

1. Direct opener ("you're cute, I wanted to meet you")
2. Logistics mode via cold reads/questions ("do you live around here" "what do you do for work" (to make sure she's not a workaholic), "where are you from")
3. Contact info close or instadate

99% of the time I go for the number instead of instadate. I don't do Instagram closes anymore, they never go anywhere and it forces me to use social media much more than I'd like to. Plus I feel like girls respect asking for the number whereas getting their IG is like asking for their fucking email address or something.

Things I did well:

1. Smiled
2. Remained calm
3. Took action

Things to focus on next time:

1. Keep the interaction going longer (instadate)
2. Be more animated/energetic

I need to start doing approaches every day again. Thanks for reading my blog
 

bgwh

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Very nice. Love how you adjusted and were self-aware mid-interaction
 

Bob Z

Space Monkey
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Sounds like a good approach. I used to live in Miami - definitely no shortage of girls to day game - wish I was more consistent when I lived there. Keep it up!
 

alexlaguma

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Sounds solid bro. You're approach is essentially exactly the same as mine. Direct opener, chit chat for a bit and then number close. One thing I'm working on is trying to making the interaction more solid so that the date is pretty much sealed during the convo.

I don't do IG closes either, although of all the girls I've asked for numbers over the past month only ONE has suggested insta and I just turned it down, and then she gave me her number anyway lol.

I'd really like to get to Miami, sounds like an awesome place.
 

goop

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Day 2

Today was a little bit more difficult for me. Sunday so I decided to only work a half day (I have my own business) and just practice approaching all day. Went to Brickell mall which is a small but fancy mall in a fancy part of downtown Miami. Always a bunch of stunners over there.

Today for some reason was much harder for me to approach, idk if I wasn't awake yet or what. But I literally just wandered around making excuses. She's with her friend, she's walking too fast, my legs hurt, she looks underage, etc.

Shit really fucked me up and I ended up wasting a lot of time, but at least I got my vitamin D, a tan, and some exercise.

Eventually I ended up approaching a blonde chick with a stunning body who was walking SUPER fast. Caught up to her and was like oh hi saw you wanted to come shoot my shot, right away she's like "sorry I have a boyfriend." I think she was just blowing me off.

So didn't really get off to a great start. I feel like it may be a little harder to start doing approaches at 12 noon since people are like out and about doing shit.

Anyway after that I ended up heading back to my own neighborhood. I decided I would buy a little notebook and keep track of my approaches as the day went on. Turned out to be a good idea.

While I was there, I passed by a hostess who smiled at me. I stopped and asked her how old she way, she told me 21. Then I asked how many boyfriends she had, and she was like uhhhh one! why, how many should I have?

I like asking girls that question to see what their relationship status is.

As a general rule:

If they say ONE, then they have a boyfriend.
If they sigh and say, "I don't have any boyfriends" then she's single and sad about it.
If they play along and say, "I have TEN boyfriends" (or some other non 0/1 number), then it's on.

I walked a bit further until I saw a skinny/pretty girl walking and I said, "excuse me, I think you're beautiful."

She kind of slowed down a bit and said, "ohh, thank you."

I said, "what, you don't think I'm beautiful?"

She was like, "ha ha.." and kept walking. Lol.

After that I was feeling pretty hot - temperature wise - so I jumped into a nearby starbucks to grab a water. The girl at the counter had a lot of hair, so I said, "wow, you sure do have a lot of hair up there."

She was mixed or dominican or something, so she's like "oh but that's not my natural hair, my natural hair is curly."

"but it's still YOUR hair - it's like if you wear makeup, it's still YOUR FACE."

I noticed that she wasn't wearing any makeup, so I said, "but you don't need that anyway, you're already beautiful."

She gave me the fuck me eyes and said "thaaaaanks"

I told her all I wanted was a venti ice water and she turned around to start making it. Then I called out "and your phone number" to which she replied "nope, you can't have that."

I thought maybe it was because there was another guy behind the counter as well and she didn't want to seem slutty, or she had a bf, or something. Whatever. I made a joke about misleading advertising and left.

After that I walked over to the design district, which is this super fancy couple of streets with fancy stores like Gucci etc. I wandered around until I saw a super hot chick sitting in a short skirt and basically a bra with a black blazer.

I sat down next to her and said, "Sorry I'm late, I tried calling you but you didn't answer. Have you been waiting a long time?"

She looked at me amused and said, "Do I know you?"

I go, "Yeah, you don't remember me?"

She goes, "No..."

I go, "Oh yeah, that's because we've never met. Nice to meet you"

Pretty fucking corny but I give myself credit for doing the approach. A friend of mine who is decent at daygame showed me that and it usually gets a pretty good reaction. The problem is what to say after that.

She clearly wasn't interested in talking to me but I made it clear by continuing to talk to her that I wasn't going to go anywhere any time soon. I mean I'm not trying to harass the chick but I wanted to give it the old college try. Unfortunately I went straight into question/coldread mode and just kept trying to get info about her.

She doesn't like Miami, she's going to move to West palm beach, she's from argentina, blah blah blah. I asked her how many boyfriends she had and she said, "one" but the way she said it she like caught herself, so I think she was lying.

Ended up wandering around a bit more, saw quite a few cuties but they were in groups and I just felt weird telling a girl I thought she was hot when her friend was there apropos of nothing. I feel like it's just too sudden and weird to do in the middle of the day like that. Am I wrong?

That was about an hour ago and I am taking a break now because it is hot. I'll probably do a few more before eating dinner and then a few more after dinner.

However... I will tell you what this has made extremely clear to me: I absolutely need to use canned material and I will tell you why right now.

1. It will allow you to open groups without putting the girl you like on the spot with the direct opener
2. 2-3 routines is a great way to get 5-10 minutes into a conversation
3. You can pick specific routines for each part of the interaction

It's not like I have particularly bad social skills per se, but I swear to god nobody will answer the question "what do you say after the opener?" Like seriously, tell me what to say.

"Just say whatever's on your mind"

Great, well what's on my mind is that your tits look amazing and I'd really like to bury my face in them. Let's go get a drink

Yeah somehow that doesn't seem like it would be the right thing to say. Maybe someone has some actual concrete advice that's better than canned material? Would love to hear it.

Yeah yeah, I know routines are a crutch and blah blah blah, but my leg is broken and I need a crutch right now. I already have a few routines I am going to try out later tonight.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

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Space Monkey
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Day pt 2

After my previous post, I went home to take a break and eat some food. While on my evening walk to Target and back, I spotted a girl with MASSIVE tits who I had actually seen around the neighborhood before. I mean.. guys, when I say massive, I mean massive. Like gigantic. Huge.

Anyway, I didn't approach straight away, but when I was walking out of Target I saw that she was standing there with a full shopping cart with her friend, probably waiting for an Uber to come pick them up. As I walked over it looked like she was looking at me so I smiled and she smiled back.

I was like ok, must be destiny again, so as I passed I said to her friend, "Hey, I think your friend is really cute. Is she single?"

Her friend goes, "Ummm actuallyyyyy that's my girlfriend!"

I was like oh really? Ok my bad then.

Then her friend said no no no, I'm just kidding, she's single! You should talk to her.

My brain wasn't working very well so I went right into question mode - where are you from, when did you move here, what do you do, blah blah blah. Very boring conversation. Towards the end of it I was like ok, well nice meeting you. We should stay in touch now that we're neighbors. Let me get your number.

As I said that, she was like "Ok sure, I''ll give you my Instagram."

I was like ughhhh... then her friend came back and I said "well look, I don't really follow people on Instagram anymore, I unfollowed all my friends and only follow people who inspire me" (which is true).

Her friend liked that, but we exchanged IG anyway. She followed me, I haven't followed her back.

I'm going to post a picture of her with her identity removed just so you guys can see what I'm talking about. I normally don't pursue with IG but for this chick I may have to make an exception. The picture doesn't do it justice.


https://flic.kr/p/2pZbmD7
 
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