Before writing the report, I think it's important to briefly tell you guys the stage I am in as far as my seduction skills. I would say I am a beginner in many levels but approaching the intermediate stage. I am able to get numbers fairly consistently and set up dates to meet the girls later, but a lot of them have flaked on me and I am not too sure the reasons behind that. Hopefully you guys can point me in the right direction.
So, I met this girl at the airport (I work there) while I was sitting down with a good buddy of mine, who actually knew her, they went to school together some years back. She is pretty in the face, tall, taller than me, she is probably a 7. He told me that they have never gotten involved together. So, I chatted her up, then got her number before the end of the interaction. She told me when she was going to be back in town, so I took the opportunity to invite her to a party I was having for the end of the year. We interacted briefly via text the day after she was supposed to travel back to town, and the party was the next day. She actually came to the party, but she only stayed briefly, she was complaining about having a migraine or something. We spoke briefly during the party, we flirted a little bit, but I could not focus my attention on her since I had other guests to cater to.
The day after the party, I texted her, then asked her out, this is how the majority of the conversation went, I will refer to her as "slender" below.
So, she answered that she is seeing someone when I asked her out, so I thought I would just next her right away. I didn't text for a whole day until she texted me the next night with a "lol", which prompted me to think that she probably is not really seeing someone, but that she was testing me or may be that it was a value problem. I saw, in one of Chase's articles where he pointed out that sometimes women will play the boyfriend card when they think they are lower value than you are. I was thinking may be because the way she saw me at the party, she probably thought I was not attainable enough, So I made sure to make myself seem more attainable. (later on in the interaction, during a phone conversation, she actually told me that she is in fact seeing someone, but that she does not think it's going to work out between them)
I thought everything was set, so I got ready for Friday. I texted her the day before Friday asking her if we are still on for the date, just to minimize the chances of her flaking, she replied with a yes. Until Friday came along, she actually flaked. The date was scheduled for 8:00 pm, so I texted her at 4:51 pm to send her the location details.
Note: one very important thing to point out is that this girl works overnight from 11pm till 7am, so she sleeps during the day
So, she flaked, even though it bothered me, since I left work early to be able to get there on time, I stayed calm, and tried to not make her feel bad about it. Chase pointed out in one of the articles about why girls flake, to not get angry or bitter, but try to schedule another date at a later time, but also if she flakes three times to cut it loose, so I am following that strategy. For the previous three girls who flaked on me, I kinda got pissed off when it happened, so I just nexted them, but I wanted to follow a different strategy for this one
I had her call me so I could talk to her a little bit about myself because up until that point we have never had a deep conversation, I told her a bit about me, but not too much to keep her intrigued and to increase my chances of getting out on the date. I did not ask for a second date during the phone conversation.
A couple days after the phone call, I restarted texting her to see if I can arrange another date, this time at my house, I think I totally flunk that one, this is how it went.
So I was thinking, wow, I fucked up there bit time, I know I should have handled the interaction a lot better there, but after some thinking, I interpret the text as her saying that she does not know me that well. So I call her, we had a warm conversation and I told a bit more about myself, she told me almost everything about her. During the conversation, I invited her out again, but this time to a location that is different from where we were supposed to go for the previous date, just to spice things up a bit. She said yes, so i thought I was good this time, but she flaked again with the same excuse as before. This time, the date was scheduled for 6:30ish
I opened the text around 7:30, I went about my day when I saw that 6:30 had passed and she didn't text back confirming that we were still on. I opened the text at around 7:30 and I know the festival ends at 9 pm, so I texted her asking her if she still wanted to go, but that we should change plans.
Note: She accepted the date even though she works that day starting at 11pm, so I would have had limited time.
so, she says she went back to sleep. She did not apologize for not showing this time, I am wondering if it's because of how I handled the flaking the last time. I didn't text her back until two hours later, letting her know that because she did not text me back, I went to play basketball instead (which I really did), to which, she replies "oh ok".
I am not sure what is causing these girls to flake on me like that. I know flaking is part of the game and that it can never be eradicated since there are so many reasons why a girl flakes, but how can I reduced the number of girls flaking judging from my interaction above? I am pretty sure there is something I am not doing properly leading up to the dates but I am not sure what it is. I am also not sure if I should ask her out again on another date or move on and what would be the best way of going about asking her out again for the third time before cutting it loose.
This is a long report but I made sure to be as detailed as I can so that I can get good feedback on the entire interaction.
Your comments are appreciated. Thanks guys
So, I met this girl at the airport (I work there) while I was sitting down with a good buddy of mine, who actually knew her, they went to school together some years back. She is pretty in the face, tall, taller than me, she is probably a 7. He told me that they have never gotten involved together. So, I chatted her up, then got her number before the end of the interaction. She told me when she was going to be back in town, so I took the opportunity to invite her to a party I was having for the end of the year. We interacted briefly via text the day after she was supposed to travel back to town, and the party was the next day. She actually came to the party, but she only stayed briefly, she was complaining about having a migraine or something. We spoke briefly during the party, we flirted a little bit, but I could not focus my attention on her since I had other guests to cater to.
The day after the party, I texted her, then asked her out, this is how the majority of the conversation went, I will refer to her as "slender" below.
So, she answered that she is seeing someone when I asked her out, so I thought I would just next her right away. I didn't text for a whole day until she texted me the next night with a "lol", which prompted me to think that she probably is not really seeing someone, but that she was testing me or may be that it was a value problem. I saw, in one of Chase's articles where he pointed out that sometimes women will play the boyfriend card when they think they are lower value than you are. I was thinking may be because the way she saw me at the party, she probably thought I was not attainable enough, So I made sure to make myself seem more attainable. (later on in the interaction, during a phone conversation, she actually told me that she is in fact seeing someone, but that she does not think it's going to work out between them)
Slender: lol
Me: ???
Slender: Happy New Year
Me: Happy New Year. So, how serious is that person you are seeing, are you going to marry him?
Slender: I don't know, we just started going out
Me: Well, my intentions remain the same: meet up with you over dinner or something and get to know each other, but otherwise I understand
Slender: ok
Me: So, sometimes this upcoming week?
Slender: Sure, I start work at 11
Me: Cool, we can do tomorrow at 6:30ish, would that work for you?
Slender: I can't tomorrow
Me: How about later tonight? Could be fun
Slender: Can't, what about in the weekend?
Me: Sure, Friday?
Slender: That's perfect
Me: Friday it is, around 8:00 pm works best for me.
Slender: Ok
I thought everything was set, so I got ready for Friday. I texted her the day before Friday asking her if we are still on for the date, just to minimize the chances of her flaking, she replied with a yes. Until Friday came along, she actually flaked. The date was scheduled for 8:00 pm, so I texted her at 4:51 pm to send her the location details.
Note: one very important thing to point out is that this girl works overnight from 11pm till 7am, so she sleeps during the day
So, she flaked, even though it bothered me, since I left work early to be able to get there on time, I stayed calm, and tried to not make her feel bad about it. Chase pointed out in one of the articles about why girls flake, to not get angry or bitter, but try to schedule another date at a later time, but also if she flakes three times to cut it loose, so I am following that strategy. For the previous three girls who flaked on me, I kinda got pissed off when it happened, so I just nexted them, but I wanted to follow a different strategy for this one
Me: It's okay, I figured that's what happened. That's why I had asked in the previous text if you were still sleeping.
Slender: I had to work for 12 hours, I got home at 12pm.
Me: Don't worry, no need to explain further, I understand
Slender: Sorry
Slender: what you are doing right now?
Me: I was talking to my little sis, she is in school at ...
Slender: Ok, So tell me a little about you
Me: I am eating some cereal, I'll tell you in a bit
Slender: lol
Me: Call me and we can talk
I had her call me so I could talk to her a little bit about myself because up until that point we have never had a deep conversation, I told her a bit about me, but not too much to keep her intrigued and to increase my chances of getting out on the date. I did not ask for a second date during the phone conversation.
A couple days after the phone call, I restarted texting her to see if I can arrange another date, this time at my house, I think I totally flunk that one, this is how it went.
So I was thinking, wow, I fucked up there bit time, I know I should have handled the interaction a lot better there, but after some thinking, I interpret the text as her saying that she does not know me that well. So I call her, we had a warm conversation and I told a bit more about myself, she told me almost everything about her. During the conversation, I invited her out again, but this time to a location that is different from where we were supposed to go for the previous date, just to spice things up a bit. She said yes, so i thought I was good this time, but she flaked again with the same excuse as before. This time, the date was scheduled for 6:30ish
I opened the text around 7:30, I went about my day when I saw that 6:30 had passed and she didn't text back confirming that we were still on. I opened the text at around 7:30 and I know the festival ends at 9 pm, so I texted her asking her if she still wanted to go, but that we should change plans.
Note: She accepted the date even though she works that day starting at 11pm, so I would have had limited time.
so, she says she went back to sleep. She did not apologize for not showing this time, I am wondering if it's because of how I handled the flaking the last time. I didn't text her back until two hours later, letting her know that because she did not text me back, I went to play basketball instead (which I really did), to which, she replies "oh ok".
I am not sure what is causing these girls to flake on me like that. I know flaking is part of the game and that it can never be eradicated since there are so many reasons why a girl flakes, but how can I reduced the number of girls flaking judging from my interaction above? I am pretty sure there is something I am not doing properly leading up to the dates but I am not sure what it is. I am also not sure if I should ask her out again on another date or move on and what would be the best way of going about asking her out again for the third time before cutting it loose.
This is a long report but I made sure to be as detailed as I can so that I can get good feedback on the entire interaction.
Your comments are appreciated. Thanks guys
