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Approaching
I had some free time to walk around the city during the day, so I was keeping an eye for attractive women to approach. After getting 4-5 boyfriend rejections, I kept being positive as I had in my mind that from my experience with enough approaches you eventually do find a girl that is quite receptive from the start.
And as I was getting ready to cross to the other side of the river over a bridge, I saw a very classily dressed woman coming down from it towards me. Without thinking much, I approached stopping her, and told her she looked so femininely elegant.
She did stop and felt excited, the kind of energy that you know it's not just polite but also intrigued. I learned she was from the US with Nigerian roots, visiting the city for 2 days after celebrating her birthday in another one. She asked where I am from, I had her guess first and then I revealed it and we exchanged names.
I asked her what's her vibe, she seemed surprised by the phrasing of the question, but told me she just wanted to walk around the city and maybe sit somewhere for a drink. I asked if she had a place in mind, she gave me the name of one, I told her it's good but it's an inside bar and the weather was too good to stay inside.
I then told her that I was also walking and had some hours free till a dance class later in the evening, so I proposed we go have a drink together to an outside bar with nice view nearby.
The instant date
We started walking, I stayed playful, she was laughing quite a bit and I could feel the energy being there. She even told me I can find a place that I know and she will follow. So we arrived at an outside bar in a pretty central plaza.
There we sat at a 90 degree angle and kept vibing. We talked about a number of things, got to know she is a doctor back in the US and likes to travel alone and also that she is very close to her siblings and family. I got asked about my fake wedding ring so I told her about having it for my theatre role, and later when she asked why I came to this country myself I revealed my scientific studies as well.
We talked about traveling too, she told me she is now planning to move to Dubai and I shared my experience of it and another area in the Arabic peninsula I've been. We also talked about money, she told me she is a capitalist and she goes there for the opportunities, and we ended up joking me telling her I will erase all my communist pics now and that I came to this country with the hope to find a very rich lady myself, no matter the age. I even pointed to some grannies passing by.
She mentioned that she wants to find someone to form a strong bond together, and we got a bit into how people need to trust their feelings and go with the pace they feel comfortable while being open to experience each other. During all this time I touched her arm at few points and we had some slight physical contact with our legs throughout the table.
I was feeling that the energy is good but it needs some smooth escalation, so I asked her plans for later, found out her hotel was not far from the area I live, so I proposed taking the same public transport, and she agreed.
Moving around
After getting up, in order to exit the bar area we jumped a low rope and I held her hand for it, joked as she passed it about adventurousness and side hugged her in the process, feeling her surprisingly open to it. Teased and touched her a bit more while walking to be sure and she was feeling indeed very comfortable and receptive to me being close to her.
We walked towards the station with me leading her, passing through some beautiful areas of the city. I had her come with me up for a short cable car ride, and while going up there and enjoying the view she held my hand for the first time.
Then we had to enter the tram and sit down opposite to each other. It stayed like that for some stations until the seat next to me opened and I patted it signalising her to come, which she did. Eventually the tram for some reason had to terminate in the station I was planning to propose we get down together to see a nice view. Even better for me, I proposed we walk a bit further for her to take the connection for her place, and while doing that to see this nice area I had in mind.
This is some kind of elevated park made of steel, so we had to go up to see the view from the top. I was holding her by the hand as she was going up the stairs and after we reached the the top we stood there and admired the view. She told me that I have game and this is the place I bring all the girls I want to seduce, and I said yeah exactly and it works all the time half laughing. I had already teased her earlier that she was trying to seduce me and probably mapped her whole day to meet me at that bridge.
Kiss and pull
Up there I was thinking how to plan the next escalation move and go for a kiss, there were also some other people around so we didn't have full privacy, but in the bit they left and the girl also proposed we go and sit down. I would have probably moved into it while standing watching the view, but it worked even better for the fact she was quite shorter.
After sitting down we had a weird topic of conversation and I told her how funny it is talking about that in this kind of place. She asked me what I would like to talk about, I said we can just stay silent. So we did for a bit, then I turned to her and made a comment about how she looked, she starting talking and I pulled her in for a kiss which she happily reciprocated.
I broke it first telling her her lips felt soft, after few moments we just both jumped into it again. At some point she told me she just wanted to kiss me and to let her initiate and we also did that. After a bit I proposed we go by my place to have some special tea I brought from a trip, I half-smiling told her I wanted to offer something back for her paying for my drink.
She told me she knows what that means and that I am sleek, while she is direct and she told me when she wanted to kiss me. I told her that I don't mind telling her that she excites me and I'd want to fuck her hard, but it is true that we will go and do only what we are comfortable with, and enjoy and if we just drink the tea and she wants to leave that's fine too.
She said it's better to go get her tram, I grabbed and kissed her intensely, laid her down there and started playing withe boobs which were very sensitive and realised she was getting too excited, felt like she was close to orgasm even, but some new people arrived so I had to stop and bring us back to a sitting position like nothing happened. Which was not true exactly, since I had already ejaculated in my pants.
Wasn't so worried about it though, because I knew I would be fully ready by the time we get naked and ready to go for it. As we cut like that in the middle I told her that's why I preferred some privacy and then we got up walking with the idea to go towards her station.
My idea was to pass while walking in front of my place that was nearby and have things work from there, but she told me that if I ask her to come in outside my place she wouldn't be able to resist and to promise her I wouldn't, which I did. So I did take her all the way in front of my place, never asked her in, just kissed her passionately, she tried to grab my hand and leave towards the station, I held her and told her I only want to give her pleasure and I loved how she felt earlier.
After thinking it for a second she asked me if it is really fine if I focus on her and she gets most of the pleasure, because she really doesn't want intercourse right know, but she would love to orgasm. I told her it's fine for me as I also take enjoyment from having a woman orgasm in my hands. So she told me alright, but to go to her hotel room. I agreed and we started walking to the station.
She also told me she had her period and that is another why she didn't want intercourse, I told her that I don't mind, and also accompanied her to a pharmacy nearby to buy some things she needed. We then took the tram, and went to her hotel, just walked through and arrived at her room.
Getting sexual in the room
After few minutes of getting comfortable she laid on the one side of the bed, I did on the other and went in for a kiss. We started getting more passionate after this, I went for her boobs again and her orgasm pretty fast by sucking them. Then I continued pleasuring her, she was against taking off her pants and showing me her pussy, so I started rubbing and licking above them, telling her how beautiful it feels, I probably had her orgasm through her boobs again, and eventually at some point she told me she will take it off but I have to stop if she tell me she doesn't want more, to which I agreed.
From that point on I was pleasuring her with mouth and fingers playing with her boobs and pussy, she had had some orgasms already, so she started asking me to orgasm for her as well and that she really wants to pleasure me too. I told her that what I love the most is orgasming inside a woman and really want to feel her. She was still against it though, I took my dick out and had her touch it, while taking some care not too finish too fast, I got accustomed to the sensation and situation pretty quickly though so I could hold back easily.
From that point I was using my penis as well, rubbing it on her body, between her boobs, holding her in an adapted missionary position and moving like we were having sex while being outside. She was getting very excited by all this which included some dirty talk as well, having her imagine I am inside her pounding her while I was fingering her, and having her agree to how much she like my dick in there.
Topics during sexual play
She was saying that she really needed this sexual release so much, as she loves sex, but can't manage masturbate by herself, and the last time she kissed someone was two years ago. She was also telling me how jealous many guys that know her would be of me and how I managed to get sexual with her so fast.
She asked me when I last had sex and I said two months ago and with how many girls I have been and I told her above 10. She told me yeah that is obvious and wanted details but I didn't give any, said I don't keep exact count after my fingers are not enough. She also asked if I go with men as well, told her no, and she told me she wondered for a while if I was gay or bisexual because of the background in my phone and the way I was sitting at the bar, and I told it's just the way I am.
She also told me if I would like to know her age. I knew she was older, but told her I don't mind, I find her hot and we have great chemistry, that is what matters. She knew mine though and since she kept asking if I am curious, I told her that yes she could tell me, and she said that she is 16 years older than me, to which I responded that many girls my age would want to look like her.
She also asked if I have had a threesome, told her no, but it would be exciting. She asked me how I could even handle two girls myself, so I just thought, I'll show you right now.
Efforts to open her up for intercourse
I had her visualise a second version of her laying by her side, and as I was fingering her I had her close her eyes and feel that I was fucking her while at the same time I was fingering the other her, and how much they were both enjoying it and that I moved from one to the other making both of them go crazy. All this fantasy together with my playing with her pussy and butt while being on top of her made her explode again.
Then I realised how much she enjoyed the butt play, her pussy had a tampon in anyway, so it would be a pain to eventually take her from there. So I focused two fingers one in each hole, slowly getting deeper in both as much as I could, to the the point she was shouting she couldn't tell which one was which, and then attacked her boob with my mouth and had orgasm again.
Even after all that though, while she was in total bliss and was telling me she could be having sex with me forever she would let me penetrate her, and she was keeping me away from her butt as well. I decided to also turn her around, squeezing her body from the back and moving like I was taking her from behind, and generally all kind of combinations of fingers and mouth on her clitoris, pussy, butt, boobs, mouth and neck I could think of and feel inspired in the moment, but she wouldn't still let me have intercourse with her.
She was even telling me at some points that I should find a girlfriend and I would make her really happy, and even half jokingly that I should come find her in the US, that she should have met me one day earlier so that we could have spent two days together before her flight back, and that she could be able to hold back from sex if we had one more night together.
I then decided to just let her have it and have an orgasm outside her, while telling her I would stay there till the morning. My idea was that maybe in the morning we could also go at it again, she would be more comfortable and who knows. She was also pretty sexy and we were having a fun time so why not. She didn't even want to give a blowjob or me to finish on her, so eventually she just gave me a handjob giving her everything to pleasure me.
We then stayed together, slept, woke up in the morning, played with each other again, had her orgasm 2-3 more times, went to even rub my dick on her clitoris and pussy but she kept keeping me away from telling me she doesn't want that, so before going for breakfast I made her imagine a fantasy were she was riding me and we basically finished together next to each other, only with my words and hands.
Next day
After that we went down for breakfast in the hotel. She had kept telling me that she wanted to feed me and take care of me, we also talked more about each other, I revealed to her the how I was able to travel that much lately, and she also told me she felt she knew me more and trusted me more. Also that she felt she liked me even more as she got to know me.
We went back up again and into the shower together, didn't stay much, because we went back to the bed and had some more orgasms. By that point she was telling me she was almost afraid to have sex with me, because she would fall in love, while proposing to me to come 1 month in Dubai
and have sex every day. She was saying she was in cloud 9, and had started asking me to not kiss any other girl at that same place again, while I was casually deflecting all these requests.
It was a fun time, then we took a proper bath and laid there together some more with her head on my chest. She wanted to go visit a nearby city and didn't have much time before the flight, but told me that she would be fine as long as she could spend this time with me. I told her we should just give it a go and have her see it, so she packed her things, and we went to take a train for the other city.
We didn't have much time there but we walked around holding hands and had some lunch she insisted to pay for. Then we came back, she almost slept the whole train ride back on my shoulder, and went to the airport, about a day after we had met. I stayed with her a bit more because there was an issue with her flight and she was panicking a bit, and when everything was solved I went with her till the security check.
When we were supposed to say goodbye and part ways I raised her head and noticed she was crying, I told her not to and that I loved our time together and what we had was beautiful. She was telling me she knows, and understand we may not meet again, I told her we will be in touch since we have each other's number. She was saying that she would be thinking about it the next day and wondering if all this was a dream or real. We gave a small kiss, said goodbye, and waved at each other before she went in to be checked by security. I then had to run to catch my dance class of that day... had already skipped the previous one.
Conclusions
First of all, it feels nice to have someone feel so much pleasure in your hands, this ability to have them really explode and unable to think straight is enjoyable. I was getting really excited with this woman the whole night as well, so it was very fun. It's good for my sexual confidence as well, since I don't always get to experience girls who are enjoying themselves with me so much sexually, so I guess there are things I can do well, which is good to know.
I do think though that I got too deep with this one. I was trying everything to arouse her more and have her feel connected to me more in order to have intercourse that at some point I think it backfired totally and she didn't want to do it anymore because she felt she would get too addicted to me and wouldn't ever want to leave me. She had told me that she is very logical and plans her life, she also gives life/career coaching, so I truly believe she didn't want to fully let herself go, because she knew after a point that if she did, she would get too attached and be heartbroken.
What I am a bit sad about is that I may have already done it a bit even without intercourse, I wasn't planning it, but she kept telling me that she likes me more and more as she gets to know me and that my girlfriend will be a really lucky woman and so happy. I truly enjoyed her and wanted her to have a good time here, so I stayed and offered that, but I do think that maybe I should have stayed more distant to not have reach the point of crying when leaving.
Technique wise, for the LMR I really didn't know what else to do, maybe there would be some right balance of arousal and trust I didn't hit that could have worked. She even asked me at some point she considers what we did as having sex, I told her for me it's when I am inside, it's the most natural and beautiful place, and she didn't disagree, but I really think she was trying to protect herself emotionally. Anyway, any more direct move would have been too much, she told me she got scared for a moment when I pinned her hands above her head, because I could have done anything to her and she was thinking of escape options, but then as she got to know me more she felt really safe.
Regarding the whole way the interaction escalated, I believe it was quite smooth and calibrated, I paid attention to her signs, and comfort levels a lot, and took the escalation slowly. Maybe at the kiss I could have done it differently to make the transition better and the invite home smoother. I suppose there are girls that want way more indirect invites and others that don't, but I am happy at least I didn't give up, and didn't panic either, but worked around it and eventually pulled.
And for the approach, I believe that lately I get a good feeling about whether the girl I approach is interested or not. There are 5 different levels I can think of generally. The totally disinterested and leave me alone, the polite but don't really want to talk, the friendly but not romantically available, the intrigued but not so sure about you, the interested and if you don't screw up you have your chance.
These last ones are the ones I've experienced to be about 1 in 10 for my daygame approaches to women without any consideration of signals or situations they are in. I see, I like enough, I approach. It doesn't mean they will be open for sex due to other factors, but they can be solid phone numbers and interactions like this one. The next to last category also has some promising girls, but they would need tighter game and maybe more time or the right circumstances for a cold approach to get them interested enough to spend more time with me.
Anyway that has been my approaching experience, so at least I know that with enough of a number of attractive women some will be available and open, which is something positive to keep in mind through the rejections. Of course I believe that with more targeted approaches and molding yourself into certain women's type you can have better numbers, so I should get into that at some point, but for now I have been approaching anyone around the city in any situation.
I had some free time to walk around the city during the day, so I was keeping an eye for attractive women to approach. After getting 4-5 boyfriend rejections, I kept being positive as I had in my mind that from my experience with enough approaches you eventually do find a girl that is quite receptive from the start.
And as I was getting ready to cross to the other side of the river over a bridge, I saw a very classily dressed woman coming down from it towards me. Without thinking much, I approached stopping her, and told her she looked so femininely elegant.
She did stop and felt excited, the kind of energy that you know it's not just polite but also intrigued. I learned she was from the US with Nigerian roots, visiting the city for 2 days after celebrating her birthday in another one. She asked where I am from, I had her guess first and then I revealed it and we exchanged names.
I asked her what's her vibe, she seemed surprised by the phrasing of the question, but told me she just wanted to walk around the city and maybe sit somewhere for a drink. I asked if she had a place in mind, she gave me the name of one, I told her it's good but it's an inside bar and the weather was too good to stay inside.
I then told her that I was also walking and had some hours free till a dance class later in the evening, so I proposed we go have a drink together to an outside bar with nice view nearby.
The instant date
We started walking, I stayed playful, she was laughing quite a bit and I could feel the energy being there. She even told me I can find a place that I know and she will follow. So we arrived at an outside bar in a pretty central plaza.
There we sat at a 90 degree angle and kept vibing. We talked about a number of things, got to know she is a doctor back in the US and likes to travel alone and also that she is very close to her siblings and family. I got asked about my fake wedding ring so I told her about having it for my theatre role, and later when she asked why I came to this country myself I revealed my scientific studies as well.
We talked about traveling too, she told me she is now planning to move to Dubai and I shared my experience of it and another area in the Arabic peninsula I've been. We also talked about money, she told me she is a capitalist and she goes there for the opportunities, and we ended up joking me telling her I will erase all my communist pics now and that I came to this country with the hope to find a very rich lady myself, no matter the age. I even pointed to some grannies passing by.
She mentioned that she wants to find someone to form a strong bond together, and we got a bit into how people need to trust their feelings and go with the pace they feel comfortable while being open to experience each other. During all this time I touched her arm at few points and we had some slight physical contact with our legs throughout the table.
I was feeling that the energy is good but it needs some smooth escalation, so I asked her plans for later, found out her hotel was not far from the area I live, so I proposed taking the same public transport, and she agreed.
Moving around
After getting up, in order to exit the bar area we jumped a low rope and I held her hand for it, joked as she passed it about adventurousness and side hugged her in the process, feeling her surprisingly open to it. Teased and touched her a bit more while walking to be sure and she was feeling indeed very comfortable and receptive to me being close to her.
We walked towards the station with me leading her, passing through some beautiful areas of the city. I had her come with me up for a short cable car ride, and while going up there and enjoying the view she held my hand for the first time.
Then we had to enter the tram and sit down opposite to each other. It stayed like that for some stations until the seat next to me opened and I patted it signalising her to come, which she did. Eventually the tram for some reason had to terminate in the station I was planning to propose we get down together to see a nice view. Even better for me, I proposed we walk a bit further for her to take the connection for her place, and while doing that to see this nice area I had in mind.
This is some kind of elevated park made of steel, so we had to go up to see the view from the top. I was holding her by the hand as she was going up the stairs and after we reached the the top we stood there and admired the view. She told me that I have game and this is the place I bring all the girls I want to seduce, and I said yeah exactly and it works all the time half laughing. I had already teased her earlier that she was trying to seduce me and probably mapped her whole day to meet me at that bridge.
Kiss and pull
Up there I was thinking how to plan the next escalation move and go for a kiss, there were also some other people around so we didn't have full privacy, but in the bit they left and the girl also proposed we go and sit down. I would have probably moved into it while standing watching the view, but it worked even better for the fact she was quite shorter.
After sitting down we had a weird topic of conversation and I told her how funny it is talking about that in this kind of place. She asked me what I would like to talk about, I said we can just stay silent. So we did for a bit, then I turned to her and made a comment about how she looked, she starting talking and I pulled her in for a kiss which she happily reciprocated.
I broke it first telling her her lips felt soft, after few moments we just both jumped into it again. At some point she told me she just wanted to kiss me and to let her initiate and we also did that. After a bit I proposed we go by my place to have some special tea I brought from a trip, I half-smiling told her I wanted to offer something back for her paying for my drink.
She told me she knows what that means and that I am sleek, while she is direct and she told me when she wanted to kiss me. I told her that I don't mind telling her that she excites me and I'd want to fuck her hard, but it is true that we will go and do only what we are comfortable with, and enjoy and if we just drink the tea and she wants to leave that's fine too.
She said it's better to go get her tram, I grabbed and kissed her intensely, laid her down there and started playing withe boobs which were very sensitive and realised she was getting too excited, felt like she was close to orgasm even, but some new people arrived so I had to stop and bring us back to a sitting position like nothing happened. Which was not true exactly, since I had already ejaculated in my pants.
Wasn't so worried about it though, because I knew I would be fully ready by the time we get naked and ready to go for it. As we cut like that in the middle I told her that's why I preferred some privacy and then we got up walking with the idea to go towards her station.
My idea was to pass while walking in front of my place that was nearby and have things work from there, but she told me that if I ask her to come in outside my place she wouldn't be able to resist and to promise her I wouldn't, which I did. So I did take her all the way in front of my place, never asked her in, just kissed her passionately, she tried to grab my hand and leave towards the station, I held her and told her I only want to give her pleasure and I loved how she felt earlier.
After thinking it for a second she asked me if it is really fine if I focus on her and she gets most of the pleasure, because she really doesn't want intercourse right know, but she would love to orgasm. I told her it's fine for me as I also take enjoyment from having a woman orgasm in my hands. So she told me alright, but to go to her hotel room. I agreed and we started walking to the station.
She also told me she had her period and that is another why she didn't want intercourse, I told her that I don't mind, and also accompanied her to a pharmacy nearby to buy some things she needed. We then took the tram, and went to her hotel, just walked through and arrived at her room.
Getting sexual in the room
After few minutes of getting comfortable she laid on the one side of the bed, I did on the other and went in for a kiss. We started getting more passionate after this, I went for her boobs again and her orgasm pretty fast by sucking them. Then I continued pleasuring her, she was against taking off her pants and showing me her pussy, so I started rubbing and licking above them, telling her how beautiful it feels, I probably had her orgasm through her boobs again, and eventually at some point she told me she will take it off but I have to stop if she tell me she doesn't want more, to which I agreed.
From that point on I was pleasuring her with mouth and fingers playing with her boobs and pussy, she had had some orgasms already, so she started asking me to orgasm for her as well and that she really wants to pleasure me too. I told her that what I love the most is orgasming inside a woman and really want to feel her. She was still against it though, I took my dick out and had her touch it, while taking some care not too finish too fast, I got accustomed to the sensation and situation pretty quickly though so I could hold back easily.
From that point I was using my penis as well, rubbing it on her body, between her boobs, holding her in an adapted missionary position and moving like we were having sex while being outside. She was getting very excited by all this which included some dirty talk as well, having her imagine I am inside her pounding her while I was fingering her, and having her agree to how much she like my dick in there.
Topics during sexual play
She was saying that she really needed this sexual release so much, as she loves sex, but can't manage masturbate by herself, and the last time she kissed someone was two years ago. She was also telling me how jealous many guys that know her would be of me and how I managed to get sexual with her so fast.
She asked me when I last had sex and I said two months ago and with how many girls I have been and I told her above 10. She told me yeah that is obvious and wanted details but I didn't give any, said I don't keep exact count after my fingers are not enough. She also asked if I go with men as well, told her no, and she told me she wondered for a while if I was gay or bisexual because of the background in my phone and the way I was sitting at the bar, and I told it's just the way I am.
She also told me if I would like to know her age. I knew she was older, but told her I don't mind, I find her hot and we have great chemistry, that is what matters. She knew mine though and since she kept asking if I am curious, I told her that yes she could tell me, and she said that she is 16 years older than me, to which I responded that many girls my age would want to look like her.
She also asked if I have had a threesome, told her no, but it would be exciting. She asked me how I could even handle two girls myself, so I just thought, I'll show you right now.
Efforts to open her up for intercourse
I had her visualise a second version of her laying by her side, and as I was fingering her I had her close her eyes and feel that I was fucking her while at the same time I was fingering the other her, and how much they were both enjoying it and that I moved from one to the other making both of them go crazy. All this fantasy together with my playing with her pussy and butt while being on top of her made her explode again.
Then I realised how much she enjoyed the butt play, her pussy had a tampon in anyway, so it would be a pain to eventually take her from there. So I focused two fingers one in each hole, slowly getting deeper in both as much as I could, to the the point she was shouting she couldn't tell which one was which, and then attacked her boob with my mouth and had orgasm again.
Even after all that though, while she was in total bliss and was telling me she could be having sex with me forever she would let me penetrate her, and she was keeping me away from her butt as well. I decided to also turn her around, squeezing her body from the back and moving like I was taking her from behind, and generally all kind of combinations of fingers and mouth on her clitoris, pussy, butt, boobs, mouth and neck I could think of and feel inspired in the moment, but she wouldn't still let me have intercourse with her.
She was even telling me at some points that I should find a girlfriend and I would make her really happy, and even half jokingly that I should come find her in the US, that she should have met me one day earlier so that we could have spent two days together before her flight back, and that she could be able to hold back from sex if we had one more night together.
I then decided to just let her have it and have an orgasm outside her, while telling her I would stay there till the morning. My idea was that maybe in the morning we could also go at it again, she would be more comfortable and who knows. She was also pretty sexy and we were having a fun time so why not. She didn't even want to give a blowjob or me to finish on her, so eventually she just gave me a handjob giving her everything to pleasure me.
We then stayed together, slept, woke up in the morning, played with each other again, had her orgasm 2-3 more times, went to even rub my dick on her clitoris and pussy but she kept keeping me away from telling me she doesn't want that, so before going for breakfast I made her imagine a fantasy were she was riding me and we basically finished together next to each other, only with my words and hands.
Next day
After that we went down for breakfast in the hotel. She had kept telling me that she wanted to feed me and take care of me, we also talked more about each other, I revealed to her the how I was able to travel that much lately, and she also told me she felt she knew me more and trusted me more. Also that she felt she liked me even more as she got to know me.
We went back up again and into the shower together, didn't stay much, because we went back to the bed and had some more orgasms. By that point she was telling me she was almost afraid to have sex with me, because she would fall in love, while proposing to me to come 1 month in Dubai
and have sex every day. She was saying she was in cloud 9, and had started asking me to not kiss any other girl at that same place again, while I was casually deflecting all these requests.
It was a fun time, then we took a proper bath and laid there together some more with her head on my chest. She wanted to go visit a nearby city and didn't have much time before the flight, but told me that she would be fine as long as she could spend this time with me. I told her we should just give it a go and have her see it, so she packed her things, and we went to take a train for the other city.
We didn't have much time there but we walked around holding hands and had some lunch she insisted to pay for. Then we came back, she almost slept the whole train ride back on my shoulder, and went to the airport, about a day after we had met. I stayed with her a bit more because there was an issue with her flight and she was panicking a bit, and when everything was solved I went with her till the security check.
When we were supposed to say goodbye and part ways I raised her head and noticed she was crying, I told her not to and that I loved our time together and what we had was beautiful. She was telling me she knows, and understand we may not meet again, I told her we will be in touch since we have each other's number. She was saying that she would be thinking about it the next day and wondering if all this was a dream or real. We gave a small kiss, said goodbye, and waved at each other before she went in to be checked by security. I then had to run to catch my dance class of that day... had already skipped the previous one.
Conclusions
First of all, it feels nice to have someone feel so much pleasure in your hands, this ability to have them really explode and unable to think straight is enjoyable. I was getting really excited with this woman the whole night as well, so it was very fun. It's good for my sexual confidence as well, since I don't always get to experience girls who are enjoying themselves with me so much sexually, so I guess there are things I can do well, which is good to know.
I do think though that I got too deep with this one. I was trying everything to arouse her more and have her feel connected to me more in order to have intercourse that at some point I think it backfired totally and she didn't want to do it anymore because she felt she would get too addicted to me and wouldn't ever want to leave me. She had told me that she is very logical and plans her life, she also gives life/career coaching, so I truly believe she didn't want to fully let herself go, because she knew after a point that if she did, she would get too attached and be heartbroken.
What I am a bit sad about is that I may have already done it a bit even without intercourse, I wasn't planning it, but she kept telling me that she likes me more and more as she gets to know me and that my girlfriend will be a really lucky woman and so happy. I truly enjoyed her and wanted her to have a good time here, so I stayed and offered that, but I do think that maybe I should have stayed more distant to not have reach the point of crying when leaving.
Technique wise, for the LMR I really didn't know what else to do, maybe there would be some right balance of arousal and trust I didn't hit that could have worked. She even asked me at some point she considers what we did as having sex, I told her for me it's when I am inside, it's the most natural and beautiful place, and she didn't disagree, but I really think she was trying to protect herself emotionally. Anyway, any more direct move would have been too much, she told me she got scared for a moment when I pinned her hands above her head, because I could have done anything to her and she was thinking of escape options, but then as she got to know me more she felt really safe.
Regarding the whole way the interaction escalated, I believe it was quite smooth and calibrated, I paid attention to her signs, and comfort levels a lot, and took the escalation slowly. Maybe at the kiss I could have done it differently to make the transition better and the invite home smoother. I suppose there are girls that want way more indirect invites and others that don't, but I am happy at least I didn't give up, and didn't panic either, but worked around it and eventually pulled.
And for the approach, I believe that lately I get a good feeling about whether the girl I approach is interested or not. There are 5 different levels I can think of generally. The totally disinterested and leave me alone, the polite but don't really want to talk, the friendly but not romantically available, the intrigued but not so sure about you, the interested and if you don't screw up you have your chance.
These last ones are the ones I've experienced to be about 1 in 10 for my daygame approaches to women without any consideration of signals or situations they are in. I see, I like enough, I approach. It doesn't mean they will be open for sex due to other factors, but they can be solid phone numbers and interactions like this one. The next to last category also has some promising girls, but they would need tighter game and maybe more time or the right circumstances for a cold approach to get them interested enough to spend more time with me.
Anyway that has been my approaching experience, so at least I know that with enough of a number of attractive women some will be available and open, which is something positive to keep in mind through the rejections. Of course I believe that with more targeted approaches and molding yourself into certain women's type you can have better numbers, so I should get into that at some point, but for now I have been approaching anyone around the city in any situation.
