A General/Quick Question

[mmamegadethfan]

As a guy trying to get back into game, what is the most efficient way to get the skills needed to be great with people/girls?

I have a theory that just going out more often may naturally make me more outgoing. Do you guys think that's true? If so, would it help to just make it a point to go to more parties/clubs, or just go out to the mall more often? I know this sounds like a pretty basic question, but I'd like to hear what you guys think on this.

My main goal is to be more charismatic and exude an aura of magnetism and attractiveness.

Thanks for your time/consideration guys

 

[DarkKnight]

I would say really focus on results instead of reactions, otherwise you run the risk ofnot really developing your skills but feeling that you are doing well. Because just socializing or getting out wont cut it. Really focus on getting girls to sleep with you. The rest is just fluff.

 

[Jesse]

Going out more is good... but also read books, read GirlsChase site, take notes whats relevant, and write down a game plan for yourself. Do a warmup ritual every morning practicing your better self, state, and identity and practicing your notes. Really immerse yourself even when you're not infield.

 

[mmamegadethfan]

Thanks for the advice DarkKnight, Jesse. Definitely makes sense to immerse oneself as much as possible so it becomes second nature while out

 

[Cody Lyans]

The more girls you talk to successfully the more reference experience you have. You have to learn to cross what I call the sell line where women buy you as a popular guy with girls. To do that you have to flip some things they will assume about you on their head. So in essence sell that you are different, not just like other guys. That takes genuine passion and drive

 

[mmamegadethfan]

Thanks Cody, that makes sense. Learning to flip that switch and assimilate all positive changes into oneself may be the best way to go about it.

 

[Cody Lyans]

Thanks Cody, that makes sense. Learning to flip that switch and assimilate all positive changes into oneself may be the best way to go about it.

For me girls thought I was naive, unmanly, boring... Probably just out for sex and lame.
They don't assume it anymore because I have a long history of turning that assumption, until I now can turn it with just intonation or how I carry myself.
I used to have to showcase, passion, drive, and ability to ignore trivial tests, and lead the next positive topic and capture the attention of others. Then the perception flipped and then it was cool and they wouldn't feed me bs.

You just have to isolate and define the sell line you keep getting, create a proper turn, then turn it a lot until girls sense you can turn it so don't give it to you

I actually argued with a friend about it recently. I was like, do you think that I am stupid... All you do is set up a sell line, you don't have a real standard set up. And I sighed at her, cuz I was concerned about the ease with which it can accidentally be turned by morons who do not even get anything about anything and are chaos bombs

So yeah it's not that hard to learn to get past this one, just deserve to get past it and turn it like a gentleman

 

[mmamegadethfan]

Cody, I think you're absolutely right about showcasing passion, drive, and ability wherever you go. Also I agree with what Jesse mentioned about internalizing all the concepts by immersing yourself

At the end of the day, my belief is that it will come down to utilizing all the notes/concepts/articles that a person reads by talking to more women. A few years back I was really into self improvement/improving my social life/game, and I remember that when I was out there practicing by talking to beautiful women I learned the most. I think the key is to learn to break the ice, display value and learn from rejection