A Journal Entry From When I Started Day Game

[James D]

I was reflecting on how I reached the point where I feel I'll never go hungry again.

I've laid yet another girl from day game (I'm super lazy to write the report because most of it is me overcoming resistance) and realized that I'm closer to the goal I set for myself more than a year ago:

Picking up girls as I go about my day.

While going through my Google docs, I came across a journal I kept during the time I was learning day game.

It contains mostly my musings on overcoming booze and food addiction.

But I found an entry on my struggle concerning cold approach.

That was when I started the approach 4 girls a day challenge.

Fun to look back and see how most, if not all of my struggles, have been handled.

If you're a beginner starting out and struggling, hope you can see that you're not alone.

Here's the unedited rambling:

I dread approaching.

When I approach, I'm rushing through it.

There’s a LOT of nervousness.

My mind is really, really focussed on rejection.

It’s like I want to get out of there as soon as possible

The moment I open my mouth, I’m begging for the interaction to be over…

That ain’t good at all.

Ideally, you would like to get to a point where you’re not nervous at all…

But we can’t wait for that to happen.

Instead, we’re simply gonna accept that this is how I feel.

I feel nervous.

But I’m showing up anyway.

I’m showing up because I want her in my life in some way.

Now, I want you to go in and be genuinely excited that you’re approaching her.

She could be your next girlfriend.

She’s a beauty.

And you’re approaching her for that.

And this whole walking around scouting for girls to approach can be tricky.

You’re doing it to improve your dating life.

But really, even if you spot a girl, a potential target, take a moment and drink in her beauty and remind yourself that in the end, it’s about talking to her.

Take three deep breaths and go show up.

When you finally go for the kill, drop everything and get excited approaching this gorgeous being…

Feel the desire and revel in it…

While at the same time not expecting anything from her.

Remember, we’re doing this because we want results.

Not just tick off 4 per day.

We want our approaches to hook better.

If she does not respond, that’s ok, you showed up.

But you should still aim to commit to the interaction.

And walk up to her because you wanna put your dick in her sexy, delicious butthole and pound it to oblivion.

You want to experience her beauty and have her in your life.

Remember that when you’re walking up to her.

And keep your composure cuz in the end, it’s on her too.

And no matter how she responds, at least you did your job as a man.

I’d say today I was definitely in the mode of getting my approaches in.

Which is great when we have to force ourselves to take action

But you have to make the actual approach a much more interesting and impactful experience for the girl

In that sense, think in terms of brightening up her day…

It’s a gift to her.

And also extending your hand for the possibility of a beautiful dance…

Well she has to step in for that.

But you gotta approach with that emotion.

About your delivery:

It was a bit rushed, a bit on the mechanical side and you really were not selling it.

The moment you open your mouth, you’re praying for the whole thing to be over.

Why?

You dread approaching because you’re dreading rejection.

Time to move past that.

Yes, she might not be interested and that’s perfectly normal.

But you have to do your part of being fully present and delivering it.

You can’t be wishing it’s over when you’re there.

Nah uh.

Take your time…

Really revel in the fact that you are in interaction with a beauty like her…

And enjoy it.

In that way, you should be excited to go out because this means you’ll have interactions with 4 beautiful girls every single day.

In conclusion:

Accept whatever you're feeling and do it anyway.

That's what courage is all about.

Keep refining and tweaking your actions until you hit your goal.

From then on, you've only got to repeat.

That's when the fun comes.

 

[Stark]

This post is a treasure trove for those like me who are back into daygame after years of not doing it. Also for beginners.

There's a lot to unpack in those stream-of-consciousness style notes.

This stood out to me the most:

"And keep your composure cuz in the end, it’s on her too."

I have to admit I overlooked this aspect on a conscious level, though it's somewhere in the back of my mind.

Probably a decade ago, I read something similar that 60 wrote: 'The pressure is on her'

My biggest takeaway from this post is to commit 100% to my part of the interaction.

Some of your other posts now make sense where you talk about approaching girls with the authority opener and letting her impress you.

Keep sharing your insights and LR(if you have time). I find them very valuable. I'm sure many others do as well.

It's quite an accomplishment- if not one of the most rewarding feats ever - to master cold approach pickup.

Going from shaking like a leaf on approaches - to getting to the point where you have agency to bring beautiful women into your life, without having to rely on dating app algorithms or social circles - it's like ascending to another level of videogame that a few men ever get to experience.

As of one of my earlier inspirations from daygame - Yarbles(he was active more around 15 years back) - said - 'You will enjoy life more, feel lighter and more energetic, need less sleep, colours will seem brighter, emotions more intense, and so on(when you've gotten really good at cold approach pickup especially daygame).'

 

[alexlaguma]

love this post bro.

I actually remember reading your summary of your challenge, when I was starting out my day game journey earlier this year. it really helped me. And I'm now in a position where I'm having to be selective about which girls I go out with because I'm getting tired from all the dates. All from day game.

 

[Jan]

@James D Great read! Honestly, you've started with already very good mindset. The vibe and how you think about showing up, meeting with beauty and enjoying yourself reminds me of Zan Perrion. Congratulations on your progress! I think it's awesome achievement within a year time.

 

[Bismarck]

As of one of my earlier inspirations from daygame - Yarbles(he was active more around 15 years back) - said - 'You will enjoy life more, feel lighter and more energetic, need less sleep, colours will seem brighter, emotions more intense, and so on(when you've gotten really good at cold approach pickup especially daygame).'

Yarbles was a boss and one of my early inspirations. I remember reading him on the old fast seduction boards.

What James D mentions here, fearing rejection or subconsciously expecting it, can colour your interactions with a girl even after you've laid her once. It can gnaw at you like that, and make you self-reject yourself.

 

[Stark]

Yarbles was a boss and one of my early inspirations. I remember reading him on the old fast seduction boards.

It's awesome that you remember him. I was thinking it was just me. His old lay reports were legendary.

He kind of disappeared from the boards after masf & fasterseduction boards went offline.

What James D mentions here, fearing rejection or subconsciously expecting it, can colour your interactions with a girl even after you've laid her once. It can gnaw at you like that, and make you self-reject yourself.

I missed this insight reading James's original post the first time around. He's indeed talking about transmuting fear into excitement going into these approaches.

@Bismarck, Thanks for pointing this out

But you gotta approach with that 'emotion'.

But you have to do your part of being fully present and delivering it.

Really revel in the fact that you are in interaction with a beauty like her…

And 'enjoy' it.

In that way, you should be excited to go out because this means you’ll have interactions with 4 beautiful girls every single day.

 

[James D]

s of one of my earlier inspirations from daygame - Yarbles

I gotta check this guy out!

 

[James D]

@James D Great read! Honestly, you've started with already very good mindset. The vibe and how you think about showing up, meeting with beauty and enjoying yourself reminds me of Zan Perrion. Congratulations on your progress! I think it's awesome achievement within a year time.

Appreciate it brother!

Zan is a positive force and his philosophy helped me shed my bitterness early on.

I've read his book and my favourite bit was how he always has his hand on the small of a woman's back when he's talking to her.

Simple yet lethally effective.

 

[James D]

He's indeed talking about transmuting fear into excitement going into these approaches.

That's a great point!

This was one of my focusses early on, which led to this post.