So, I got an inbound msg from a brand new girl this week. Late 20s, avg height, very fit in a bikini from her posted pics. Her first msg went something like 'what are some of your kinky desires?' So it was go time. I decided to go with bondage as my answer to see if she was serious or a time-waster as I find about half of starter msgs I get along those lines are just bored girls who never follow thru with anything at all.
She asked if she'd be the one getting tied up and I assured her she would, once trust was established of course. She replied that chemistry and trust were key in these matters. I agreed and then gave her most of the master list of things I like to do in kink and Dom/sub. She said she was up for the entire list but one thing [forget which], hadn't tried one other thing I mentioned but wanted to, and said she was a 'Bratty service sub.'
Now, I've heard of bratty subs, they are definitely a thing in the community, but have not had one myself. The short of it is they like to 'misbehave' in private so that the Dom will punish and 'tame' them. Punishments can be physical, verbal, or otherwise. They do best with a punishment/reward system, the reward in question being orgasms typically. Sometimes they like to revert to their bratty teen years and do some roleplay vs an authority figure: a boss, a teacher, etc.
The upshot for the Dom is, once punished/tamed, the sub loves to service their man and do whatever he says [within the normal consensual limits]. I feel like the whole dynamic is mostly roleplay, just more of a specific subtype than the normal D/s roleplay and power exchange.
Example: you go out for a drink with them, go back to your hotel room, sit on the couch, tell them to come sit next to you and she'll reply, 'No, I don't want to.' Or be sarcastic, etc. Or they are very agreeable until you tell them to get on their knees and refuse and want to be 'forced' to do so. When of course what they really want is to be spanked, teased, tied up and punished in various ways as part of their submission. Some really get off on being physically disciplined, thrown around, &etc. Subconsciously, the feel they can't ask for it directly so it comes out in this fashion.
I'm generally pretty verbal with my subs, so I don't think this aspect of her is going to be much different overall than some actual 19yr old subs I've had who could be bratty in private. She's already said how much she likes bondage and spankings so it's a win-win overall imho. Teasing and anticipation is always part of the fun, no? Now we just gotta find a date to meet over the Xmas holiday.
She asked if she'd be the one getting tied up and I assured her she would, once trust was established of course. She replied that chemistry and trust were key in these matters. I agreed and then gave her most of the master list of things I like to do in kink and Dom/sub. She said she was up for the entire list but one thing [forget which], hadn't tried one other thing I mentioned but wanted to, and said she was a 'Bratty service sub.'
Now, I've heard of bratty subs, they are definitely a thing in the community, but have not had one myself. The short of it is they like to 'misbehave' in private so that the Dom will punish and 'tame' them. Punishments can be physical, verbal, or otherwise. They do best with a punishment/reward system, the reward in question being orgasms typically. Sometimes they like to revert to their bratty teen years and do some roleplay vs an authority figure: a boss, a teacher, etc.
The upshot for the Dom is, once punished/tamed, the sub loves to service their man and do whatever he says [within the normal consensual limits]. I feel like the whole dynamic is mostly roleplay, just more of a specific subtype than the normal D/s roleplay and power exchange.
Example: you go out for a drink with them, go back to your hotel room, sit on the couch, tell them to come sit next to you and she'll reply, 'No, I don't want to.' Or be sarcastic, etc. Or they are very agreeable until you tell them to get on their knees and refuse and want to be 'forced' to do so. When of course what they really want is to be spanked, teased, tied up and punished in various ways as part of their submission. Some really get off on being physically disciplined, thrown around, &etc. Subconsciously, the feel they can't ask for it directly so it comes out in this fashion.
I'm generally pretty verbal with my subs, so I don't think this aspect of her is going to be much different overall than some actual 19yr old subs I've had who could be bratty in private. She's already said how much she likes bondage and spankings so it's a win-win overall imho. Teasing and anticipation is always part of the fun, no? Now we just gotta find a date to meet over the Xmas holiday.
