A newbie seeking help

[arasaka]

Hey everybody!

I'm a 26 years old guy without having much experience with women. a few months ago, I found the website and it helped me to piece together a lot of things. Some information about me:
I still study at university majoring in Astronomy (pretty cool thing ). I only managed to get some kisses from 2 girls like 10 years ago, and a blowjob about 8 years ago but since then, I've only got flakes, friendzones, and stuff. 2 months ago, I was having a really hard time and I decided to visit a hooker, which was a good experience actually. I almost decided to go again, but heck, it would be better to be actually able to pick up girls. I tried out the online dating but for me, it's like pissing against the wind. I'm not a photogenic person and know I could get better pictures of me if I hire a photographer, but unfortunately I can't afford it at the moment. So I have to start it IRL and there are two options in the first place for me but I have no idea how I should start with them! Both of them are schoolmates.
Sidenote: I think I have a great sense of style.

Girl A:
About 20 years old, she seems cute and nice. once a week, there is a lecture we both visit. Even though We have never talked, she's a friend of mine on facebook. She sometimes likes my posts (art stuff) because of Girl B I know I must approach her IRL but how should I? I don't think the "hey! my name is..." works because she probably knows my name from facebook and been seeing me for a year at campus.


Girl B: It's maybe already messed up but for practice, I'd give it a shot.
8 months ago, there was a lecture we both visited. She was always with her guy friends so I eventually texted her, something like
"Hey I'm the guy who's always late for x-y lecture. It would be too sob stuff telling you that because of you, I try to be not late so I don't say it. I actually like you and your style; Ops BUSTED! so I'd grab a coffee with you, but don't worry I won't tell it anyone that you responded... everbody knows flirting on facebook is a bit creepy!" on facebook. Her response was unexpectedly good, but I was too needy so she stopped to respond. I'm not mad at her, I know it was weak then! We haven't talked since then but once in a class, she picked up my pen and I said "thanks!" and that's all. So now again there is a lecture we both visit, she's also with a girlfriend of hers. How should I approach her to make a better new "first" impression?

Sorry for the mistakes, I'm not native English speaker!



Thanks in advance,
arasaka

 

[dcman]

Hi arasaka,

In both cases just approach and interact with both the girls . there is no magic word or approach that would guarantee results. Based on what you have written I feel that you need to start working on improving in a major way to help lose the fear to approach. Try approaching atleast 20 girls a week with a hi or hello.You are in campus so it should not be that hard. once you start doing from this you can build upon on this.

 

[arasaka]

Hey dcman,

Thank you for the reply!
I didn't think about "magic" words or sentences. I know exactly there aren't such things but I'd like to get some ideas how you guys would handle these situations in detail. It'd be good for me as inspirations that I can adapt to my style!

 

[Lucky]

First off welcome to the boards Arasaka it good to have new members always joining the community.
Anyways I'd advise going after Girl A right now considering you guys have already talked as for future reference though try and keep conversation off text and face to face. From what I've read you mainly just need help with the openers, from my experience anything can work I've had a friend who on a dare asked a girl to marry him jokingly. To say the least the girl ended up messaging him on Insta and asking him to ask her on a date. Or you can take the simple approach and just say something basic like hi, when starting out you don't have to go in guns blazing with direct openers but you at least have to make an effort.
So read up on articles on opening and fundamentals and while your on the boards read up on field reports they will help you immensely throughout your times while walking down this path.
PS: Also read up on texting by the sounds of you 8 month thing with Girl B you could use more experience there.
PPS: You mention you're not from this country where are you from?

 

[arasaka]

Hey Lucky!

Or maybe am I lucky cause being signed up here?

I'm from Hungary which is a little country in Central Europe. How about you?
You misunderstood me with Girl A , I meant we have NEVER talked, texted neither. I don't know how to express it when you send a friend request to someone and she/he accepts it, and then you never talk with (or to?) each other.
Yeah, I've already read a lot of things here and there but to me, these seem special situations. As I said, I cannot use for example a "basic" approach with Girl A.
And I definitely cannot use "basic" approach with girl B neither based on what happened already at least in MY opinion!

 

[arasaka]

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[dcman]

Thank you for the reply!
I didn't think about "magic" words or sentences. I know exactly there aren't such things but I'd like to get some ideas how you guys would handle these situations in detail. It'd be good for me as inspirations that I can adapt to my style!

Hi arasaka there are different approaches to interact with a girl Mystery used negs on hot girls, Nathan had a direct sexual approach , others had direct or situational approach . But you will find one thing in common is they had the guts to interact with a girl in person rather than trying to befriend in face book, Instagram and ask them out. If you are meeting a girl in class but befriend them in face book to ask them out it does not come across as Chivalry . With experience you will learn that as long you approach a girl and interact with them it does not matter what approach is used, she will respect you for that.

In this case I do not know any of the two girls and as it is social setting I would just comment on the dress , style , hair or maybe the work she did in school, something other than their beauty that is genuine . Based on her reaction I would proceed with the interaction and work to build attraction.