A Two Potential Girls Situation

[NotJamesBond]

Alright so in my previous thank you post (to this community) I mentioned two girls. I have a date with one next week and the other is into me and I flirted with her at a friend's birthday party and I'm seeing her again soon, in which I'll flirt her socks off and get her number (still in college so there's friend involvement but it's gucci).

The thing is, somehow one of my female friends found out about the date with the first girl despite the fact she doesn't talk to that group anymore. How do women do this?! I wanted to keep it separate and for no one to know because I want to screen each girl out in peace. I guess that's out the window...

Anyway, I am not certain if the girl in the friend group (she's a friend of a friend in the group) knows but she almost certainly has to. I asked how my female friend found out and she pulled the typical annoying broad card "secrets secrets haha!!! " Seriously go die.

The female friend I communicated this with is not the one who knows the girl I'm into as well as the other friend I know her from, but they're all in the same group. Sorry if it's confusing. It's like this: Girl A is from Friend Group A, who knows Stacey. Susanne, also in Group A, told me "I heard the good news" about Girl B. I've known Girl B for a while and probably have mentioned her on here. I didn't want to put off Girl B to see what would happen with Girl A, so I struck while the iron was hot.

I haven't even gone on an official date with either girl yet, though one is set up for Girl B. This isn't a big deal at all, right? My concern is Girl A might autoreject or go cold if she finds out I have a date with some other broad. But this is my business and everything for both girls is in the infant stages...

I guess it'd only matter if Girl A took even a first date super seriously or something.

EDIT: I have one more thing to add- should I have seen how things panned out with the first girl (the girl I met through friends, Girl A) before I asked Girl B out on a date? I just realized this might have complicated things a bit if either of them are into me because I don't want to hurt either of them. I essentially want to go on dates with both. I was seeing Girl B often enough anyway...I feel I really fudged the timing up because it was actually perfect. We were just friends. I wanted to strike while the iron was hot though, which is why I asked for an actual date for next week. I also didn't expect the Girl A friend group to find out though...Oh well.

Any advice?

May your women be top of their class and possess child-bearing hips,
NJB

 

[NotJamesBond]

Drexel, have I ever told you that you're my boy?

Really appreciate the help and encouragement. I was thinking it might attract her more but this only confirms it. I was going through some apology "damage control" scenarios in my head but your reply blasted those to bits. Au contraire! You helped me realize this is something to absolutely embrace- and don't worry, I'll just keep doing whatever it is I am doing. And stay cool.

Keep on keeping,
NJB

 

[NotJamesBond]

Actually two more questions, Drex.

1. What if she wants me in a boyfriend role? I'm not about the PUA lifestyle, I'm basically using this to choose women to date to get a girl I want.
2. Going with the first question, could I be seen as having too much value? She won't autoreject me because of that other girl will she?

NJB

 

[Mystique]

Hey NJB,
Just one observation I made, you keep on framing it as a date which makes it sound serious. It's college man, people hang out all the time and get laid off it. So it's you just simply choosing to hang out with a girl and that's how you should present it to girls so it'll seem very casual. I don't go on fancy dates or even to get a drink or icecream (that's too cliche), I just tell girls to come hang out with me

 

[NotJamesBond]

Great stuff guys, thanks!

"Onward and upward" to steal from Chase and probably everyone else who writes articles...

-NJB