I found some insights from a woman about her perspective from being seduced.
Her name is Aella, she is highly atypical as a woman (she is a sex worker, interested in data and statistics, I think she identifies as libertarian etc.) and if you google her some wild stuff comes up. so I am by no means assuming everything she says is relevant to how most women operate, but I think some of her writings on seduction are interesting as she seems uniquely honest and good at describing her feelings.
This is from her tweet on what she seeks dating men
To me when she says “I want to be slightly scandalized“, “I want to feel … like I caught you observing my soul“, and “ ”I wanna feel like you‘re evaluating me“, those sound like describing why the old school techniques like emotional spikes, cold reads, and qualification work when done right.
I also think “want u to be one step ahead of me some of the time and exactly in step with me the rest of it”, is alluding to a concept in seduction I haven’t seen a lot of writing about and have trouble describing, but basically I think women want a guy to both be “above them” at times and “harmonized“ with them in others.
from another tweet
So this to me sounds like her describing how a woman feels when she registers neediness from men. I’ve also been in situations where the girl I’m talking to leaves, but if I just wait for her to come back when she does the interest gets killed, compared to if I immediately start socializing with other people while she’s gone, I think this may be why.
aella.substack.com
this is from an article on her substack
Basically in the article she describes assisting some coach who has men stand in front of a woman and say how they feel or something. But the key interest here is how she describes registering vulnerability as attractive. She basically says the act of the man being vulnerable itself causes her to immediately try to detect inauthenticity, and if it isn’t found instantly view him in a sexual frame of mind. She also described this as being like a orange compared to a more pickup artist like sexualization tactic as orange juice, so with more depth somehow.
So from what I understand the whole vulnerability thing is controversial in the community. Maybe the reason why is guys try it but A. Aren’t being emotionally vulnerable even if they’re giving vulnerable information so it doesn’t have this desired effect or B. it does have this effect but it produces the same issue from direct game where you had not had time to establish enough value or believability so she rejects.
I also think this is an insight into why direct game works for some and not others. If you are just monotone walking up to a girl and saying “hey I saw you and thought you were cute” I doubt it’s having an effect like a raw confession and projection of unfiltered sexual desire would.
Her name is Aella, she is highly atypical as a woman (she is a sex worker, interested in data and statistics, I think she identifies as libertarian etc.) and if you google her some wild stuff comes up. so I am by no means assuming everything she says is relevant to how most women operate, but I think some of her writings on seduction are interesting as she seems uniquely honest and good at describing her feelings.
This is from her tweet on what she seeks dating men
To me when she says “I want to be slightly scandalized“, “I want to feel … like I caught you observing my soul“, and “ ”I wanna feel like you‘re evaluating me“, those sound like describing why the old school techniques like emotional spikes, cold reads, and qualification work when done right.
I also think “want u to be one step ahead of me some of the time and exactly in step with me the rest of it”, is alluding to a concept in seduction I haven’t seen a lot of writing about and have trouble describing, but basically I think women want a guy to both be “above them” at times and “harmonized“ with them in others.
from another tweet
So this to me sounds like her describing how a woman feels when she registers neediness from men. I’ve also been in situations where the girl I’m talking to leaves, but if I just wait for her to come back when she does the interest gets killed, compared to if I immediately start socializing with other people while she’s gone, I think this may be why.
This Practice Made Men Arouse Me, Which Is Unsettling
A few weeks ago, I was staring a strange man in the eyes during an energetic coaching session.
aella.substack.com
this is from an article on her substack
Basically in the article she describes assisting some coach who has men stand in front of a woman and say how they feel or something. But the key interest here is how she describes registering vulnerability as attractive. She basically says the act of the man being vulnerable itself causes her to immediately try to detect inauthenticity, and if it isn’t found instantly view him in a sexual frame of mind. She also described this as being like a orange compared to a more pickup artist like sexualization tactic as orange juice, so with more depth somehow.
So from what I understand the whole vulnerability thing is controversial in the community. Maybe the reason why is guys try it but A. Aren’t being emotionally vulnerable even if they’re giving vulnerable information so it doesn’t have this desired effect or B. it does have this effect but it produces the same issue from direct game where you had not had time to establish enough value or believability so she rejects.
I also think this is an insight into why direct game works for some and not others. If you are just monotone walking up to a girl and saying “hey I saw you and thought you were cute” I doubt it’s having an effect like a raw confession and projection of unfiltered sexual desire would.
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