I went out with some friends tonight and I had two goals 1) have a good time with my friends listening to a new band, 2) talk to some women.
I feel like I had my posture and body language down pretty cool. I was taking up space at our table and emitting, what I think, was a cool/dominate vibe. I wasn't moving much and communicating with my friends through a lot of non-verbals.
I spotted a number of pretty ladies and worked up direct openers for them, e.g. "I just had to come over and tell you I really like the big curls in your hair. I know it probably takes a while to do, but I love the look. My name's Michael." I would visualize myself doing it (hand on the small of her back to get her attention, then eye contact with a small/sexy smile) and I would be on the cusp of getting up and walking over to them and my body just would not do it. I would hesitate and stall until some other guy walked up to her and started talking. I would set my sights on another girl and repeat.
I'm a fairly attractive guy so I'm pretty sure at least some of the girls in the bar were attracted to me. I really need to get over this AA. Once I get to know people, I'm charming and fun and the life of the party. I know I shouldn't be those things to women I'm trying to pick up, my point is that once I get to know people, I'm incredibly confident and outgoing. Talking to new people is a major sticking point for me--be it women I'm attracted to or just a random dude on the street, but more so attractive women.
I feel like I had my posture and body language down pretty cool. I was taking up space at our table and emitting, what I think, was a cool/dominate vibe. I wasn't moving much and communicating with my friends through a lot of non-verbals.
I spotted a number of pretty ladies and worked up direct openers for them, e.g. "I just had to come over and tell you I really like the big curls in your hair. I know it probably takes a while to do, but I love the look. My name's Michael." I would visualize myself doing it (hand on the small of her back to get her attention, then eye contact with a small/sexy smile) and I would be on the cusp of getting up and walking over to them and my body just would not do it. I would hesitate and stall until some other guy walked up to her and started talking. I would set my sights on another girl and repeat.
I'm a fairly attractive guy so I'm pretty sure at least some of the girls in the bar were attracted to me. I really need to get over this AA. Once I get to know people, I'm charming and fun and the life of the party. I know I shouldn't be those things to women I'm trying to pick up, my point is that once I get to know people, I'm incredibly confident and outgoing. Talking to new people is a major sticking point for me--be it women I'm attracted to or just a random dude on the street, but more so attractive women.
