Abundance mindset - am I on the right track?

[Orgasmatron]

Thought I’d squeeze a quick one in before work - that’s what she said! The old ones are the best!

So, I had this date with Gerda - 35, Lithuanian dental nurse, very hot, great figure, amazing ass, very pretty - total knockout!

I came away from date on Saturday afternoon thinking “wow, she’s amazing” etc etc, and started thinking about a future for us together

• All the couples stuff
• Oh my Mum would like her (my mum would like anyone who’s not my ex-wife tbh!)
• I could visit her when she’s going back to Lithuania for a few weeks in September
• All of that…

So, instead of thinking that she was just the first of many, I thought she was special.

You guys, completely correctly, pointed out that I was putting her on a pedestal.

A few things I’d probably find annoying would be…

• She is youngest child of 3 - 2 older brothers (4 years and 11 years older) and she is, in her words, ‘Daddy’s girl’
• She 100% absolutely knows that she is super hot - seems, from how she was talking about this subject, that she is the hottest in her friend group, and they all know it too, and this is a thing with them - Gerda - she’s the hot one!
• As, I’m sure you can imagine - these 2 things add up to her being a bit a of a princess
• She likes the fancy things in life, and that is something I teased her about - she said I lived in a posh area of Edinburgh (I guess I do, it’s very nice, rent is a little higher than average for the city, I joke to people that everyone her is very ‘polite’ - our local supermarket is a Waitrose, there is a rugby club (union, not league) and a cricket pitch (this is Scotland remember), there is a private grammar school here too, actually there are 2, fuck me lol, it is posh! - so everyone is very ‘polite’ lol - I’m the local badass - that’s how not rough this area is, lol)
• So, when she said that, I started to tease her about being posh and fancy - obviously, she loved it - Oh no, don’t make out I’m all fancy! I hate being thought of as that! yes of course you do dear.

So super hot, but likely to be a bit annoying, the princess thing would need to be reigned in

Most guys would treat her like a princess so that they can keep her

Although in reality she would be keeping them in that case

So, I should not do that

She’s just another girl

Loads of ‘em about

If she clears off, it doesn’t matter

Think I’m getting there with this concept - I think it’s a easy one to understand - just look outside, lots of hot girls walking about, but a difficult one to really believe and feel - oh my god, she’s gorgeous, let's get married (jesus!) thoughts can jump in and distort your thinking.



Think I’m getting there with this concept - think its probs a tough one though

 

[Derek da man]

Sounds like you're getting there - in fact, I think you probably have her down to a tee.

I dated a "princess" for a while. She liked the finer things in life, and to be fair she had no expectation of me paying for them as she had a pretty good job to support herself so we were fairly equal in those terms. Whilst we are no longer together as a couple, as there are things about her that are annoying in terms of day-to-day living, we get on really well. So we still get together from time to time, between her dating and boyfrineds etc. The fact that I'm not "hers" means she still makes an effort, she's good in the bedroom and very willing to please.

She is still a "princess" in the way she acts around others and I tease her for it regularly as I usually address her as Princess when no one else is around, although in the bedroom she gets called all sorts of other things. When she tries to be demanding or get demanding she's ended up over my knee on several occasions.

My advice is don't put her on a pedastall, treat her as an equal and don't let her put demands on you. Be clear about your expectations, whatever they are. When other guys chase after her, and they will, let her deal with them in her way and just smile at her accepting the situation. She will like them lapping up her attention but she will always return to you as long as you are her best option - being an equal. If you try and step in you will look like you're trying to control and you've lost her respect.

 

[Orgasmatron]

Hey Derek,
Thanks for this!

Sounds like you're getting there - in fact, I think you probably have her down to a tee.

Brilliant, good to know

I dated a "princess" for a while. She liked the finer things in life, and to be fair she had no expectation of me paying for them as she had a pretty good job to support herself so we were fairly equal in those terms. Whilst we are no longer together as a couple, as there are things about her that are annoying in terms of day-to-day living, we get on really well. So we still get together from time to time, between her dating and boyfrineds etc. The fact that I'm not "hers" means she still makes an effort, she's good in the bedroom and very willing to please.

Yeah, she's got a good job. Got her head screwed on in that department
Nice. She sounds like fun

She is still a "princess" in the way she acts around others and I tease her for it regularly as I usually address her as Princess when no one else is around, although in the bedroom she gets called all sorts of other things. When she tries to be demanding or get demanding she's ended up over my knee on several occasions.

Cool, I could try something like that - I can see that going down well as a nickname. I've been teasing her about being fancy and posh, she liked that. So royalty would be a step up from there!

I can well imagine! wow!

My advice is don't put her on a pedastall, treat her as an equal and don't let her put demands on you. Be clear about your expectations, whatever they are. When other guys chase after her, and they will, let her deal with them in her way and just smile at her accepting the situation. She will like them lapping up her attention but she will always return to you as long as you are her best option - being an equal. If you try and step in you will look like you're trying to control and you've lost her respect.

Brilliant.
Yes, I can see her out at the weekend loving all the attention.

So, I need to let her know that I'm the king, and she can have her fun with all the pretenders to the crown whilst I sit back and watch from my throne!

Fantastic, thanks - that's great about the control and respect thing.

I didn't know if I should interrupt and be the alpha 'beat it, she's with me' guy, so she thinks I'm her knight in shining armour, or just be cool and wait for her to get bored with the jesters!

So if I just hang back, then I don't appear to be concerned that she's going to run off with Prince Charming because I know that I'm the king of the castle.

And whilst she is doing that, I could maybe even talk to a potential new queen and get her really worried!

Fantastic, thank you so much dude!

 

[POB]

You should start a journal.

Just copy and paste your last posts together in sequence.
It's gonna make more sense for you and everybody who is willing to help

 

[Orgasmatron]

You should start a journal.

Just copy and paste your last posts together in sequence.
It's gonna make more sense for you and everybody who is willing to help

Thanks,

I'll get that sorted out tonight