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Hey gents!
*This is not asking for how to get her or what went wrong with her, I know the texting sucked, it's just here for context. The question is how to damage-control when you do dumb things in a somewhat closed environment*
Had a girl I got the number of last week block me in less than 1 screen of texting lol. She's 18 and her first reply to me was asking my age (28), I told her to guess, and she followed up
Her: Can you please just tell me your age?
Me: That's no fun *cross-eyed emoji* Just one guess, I'm curious what you think
Her: 25
Me: Good guess!
Her: is that right?
Me: Well 24, but close enough
*Left on read*
Me: Is that too young for you? *tongue out emoji*
*Left on read*
Called her the next day, straight to voicemail, tested a text, no longer iMessage, so pretty clear I got blocked.
Ran into her a few days later and she gave me side-eye and left the gym. Then ran into her today and went and said hi. She said hi back but clearly turned away, so sirens went off in my head about nipping this in the bud so other women aren't seeing that.
Bringing playful, confident energy, I just asked:
Me: Hey, did you block me? It's fine if you did (trying to keep her from being scared/whatever)
Her: Yeah... I did
Me: Ah, no worries. Never had that happen before, but I had a feeling haha
*pause*
Me: I'm curious, was there a reason you did?
Her; I just felt uncomfortable.
Me: Ah, I'm sorry about that.
Me: *Walked away*
I imagine there would be ways to hold a better frame, but I agree my initial texting was a bit obnoxious, so I wasn't exactly opposed to her frame lol. Any thoughts on dealing with situations like this? Damage-control in a semi-social circle situation like a commercial gym? I saw Chase's article saying to freeze her out, but don't think that would be very easy in such a loose environment.
Disclaimer: Not exactly trying to get her back, but I was confident and comfortable the whole time and left without any begging crap.
Thanks all!
*This is not asking for how to get her or what went wrong with her, I know the texting sucked, it's just here for context. The question is how to damage-control when you do dumb things in a somewhat closed environment*
Had a girl I got the number of last week block me in less than 1 screen of texting lol. She's 18 and her first reply to me was asking my age (28), I told her to guess, and she followed up
Her: Can you please just tell me your age?
Me: That's no fun *cross-eyed emoji* Just one guess, I'm curious what you think
Her: 25
Me: Good guess!
Her: is that right?
Me: Well 24, but close enough
*Left on read*
Me: Is that too young for you? *tongue out emoji*
*Left on read*
Called her the next day, straight to voicemail, tested a text, no longer iMessage, so pretty clear I got blocked.
Ran into her a few days later and she gave me side-eye and left the gym. Then ran into her today and went and said hi. She said hi back but clearly turned away, so sirens went off in my head about nipping this in the bud so other women aren't seeing that.
Bringing playful, confident energy, I just asked:
Me: Hey, did you block me? It's fine if you did (trying to keep her from being scared/whatever)
Her: Yeah... I did
Me: Ah, no worries. Never had that happen before, but I had a feeling haha
*pause*
Me: I'm curious, was there a reason you did?
Her; I just felt uncomfortable.
Me: Ah, I'm sorry about that.
Me: *Walked away*
I imagine there would be ways to hold a better frame, but I agree my initial texting was a bit obnoxious, so I wasn't exactly opposed to her frame lol. Any thoughts on dealing with situations like this? Damage-control in a semi-social circle situation like a commercial gym? I saw Chase's article saying to freeze her out, but don't think that would be very easy in such a loose environment.
Disclaimer: Not exactly trying to get her back, but I was confident and comfortable the whole time and left without any begging crap.
Thanks all!
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