- Joined
- Nov 20, 2012
- Messages
- 161
Summary: Went on a date with a girl I had chatted with a couple days before. She texed me at about 11 at night, and we talked about sex he whole time. I thought it was a done deal, then she shook my hand and went home (!)
[Cathy] Italian [Rating: objective 5/subjective 5][Age](closed)
Open: pre-existing
[Cathy] and I kind of new each other, I had run into her days before, and we had a really fun conversation. She texted me at 10:40 at night and invited me out for ice cream and a walk. I figured she straight up wanted to hook up.
Move: passive
[Cathy] had our date planned out (mistake). And took me to a nearby art park she liked, she brought up, and would not get off the topic of sex. How her and her friend figured out guys' penis sizes, the toys her roomate had, etc. etc. I figured it was just a matter of time before I went back to her place.(her place??)
Escalation: N/A
Despite the "heat" in [Cathy]'s conversation, she kept her distance and completely neutral body language.
Close: fail
I was mystified that a midnight date shot through with sex talk could end so platonically, but I figured [Cathy] just wanted to take it a bit slow, and I had plenty of time. (wrong)
[Interaction Rating]: 2/10
The one thing I learned is that there is a distinct separation between socializing and actively advancing a relationship. You can be talking about the most gratuitous sex details, but if it is framed in comedy/titillation, as our conversation was, it means nothing.
I was just getting a sandwich at a local restaurant however, and the waitress was eyeing me like crazy while she asked what kind of bread I wanted. It really has nothing to do with the content of the interaction, but how that content is framed (platonic/humorous/sexual/etc.)
[Cathy] Italian [Rating: objective 5/subjective 5][Age](closed)
Open: pre-existing
[Cathy] and I kind of new each other, I had run into her days before, and we had a really fun conversation. She texted me at 10:40 at night and invited me out for ice cream and a walk. I figured she straight up wanted to hook up.
Move: passive
[Cathy] had our date planned out (mistake). And took me to a nearby art park she liked, she brought up, and would not get off the topic of sex. How her and her friend figured out guys' penis sizes, the toys her roomate had, etc. etc. I figured it was just a matter of time before I went back to her place.(her place??)
Escalation: N/A
Despite the "heat" in [Cathy]'s conversation, she kept her distance and completely neutral body language.
Close: fail
I was mystified that a midnight date shot through with sex talk could end so platonically, but I figured [Cathy] just wanted to take it a bit slow, and I had plenty of time. (wrong)
[Interaction Rating]: 2/10
The one thing I learned is that there is a distinct separation between socializing and actively advancing a relationship. You can be talking about the most gratuitous sex details, but if it is framed in comedy/titillation, as our conversation was, it means nothing.
I was just getting a sandwich at a local restaurant however, and the waitress was eyeing me like crazy while she asked what kind of bread I wanted. It really has nothing to do with the content of the interaction, but how that content is framed (platonic/humorous/sexual/etc.)