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Hi all,
This is going to be my first post, so forgive me if this is not the correct topic to post...
Here my story goes. I had a girlfriend that i chased like a year, she had a boy-friend at that time and it wasnt possible for us to get together. Later last year, they broke up, after a 3-year relationship. As soon as i learnt that i approached her, tried to comfort her, then things started accelerating. After a full month of her break-up we started dating. She is a kind of a girl who loves to be in control and not questioned. The first 3 weeks were simply great! But then things got crazy. She started calling me selfish, self-oriented, egoist, money lover and so on. Even to my simple reactions, she was getting mad.
How this started? We went to shopping and i wanted to buy myself a shoe. She suggested something that i cant wear during winter. My reaction at that time was bitter and i said: "Do you expect me to wear this during winter!". Then she started crying. After that day, she started to call me liar, just because i thought i let her know that i am visiting a friend, but instead i forgot and later told her. She called me adulatory, just because i have good relationships with my professors at university and offered to become an educator. In the first 3 weeks, she was saying she is glad finding me, it is the first time in her life she learns something from somebody around her. But then she started saying i always add information and ask questions all the time and i bore her. So i panicked. Then we got in a huge fight and she said she liked me as a friend and not as a lover. So basically she dumped me. Then next day we were messaging again, she was pretty cold. After 2 days of that fight, i messaged her asked how long this will take, she again blamed me by asking questions and she cant give a straight answer. I asked if she is ever willing to help me to turn this around, got us back together, her reply was she already tried and i fail to see the signs, which seems almost impossible to me because within that week we only met once. Then i broke up with her, saying things that i would never say in my life to somebody that i care that much. Feeling guilty, in the next week i sent her a present that i already mentioned, a hand-made portrait of a character she likes most. She rejected the gift and sent back. Then after 3 days i sent another message saying how deeply sorry i am and how much i love her, hoped her the best in her life. Now i am deleted from facebook, blocked from every single channel that i can reach her out.
After a week of pain, when i ask myself, do i still want her? my answer is yes. on the other hand, i am still questioning what has changed in 1 day? Till that shopping day i was a mature man, but then i became a child in her eyes and couldnt get any higher than that in the following days. Anything that i tried to do didnt work. Please ask questions if you feel like so.
This is going to be my first post, so forgive me if this is not the correct topic to post...
Here my story goes. I had a girlfriend that i chased like a year, she had a boy-friend at that time and it wasnt possible for us to get together. Later last year, they broke up, after a 3-year relationship. As soon as i learnt that i approached her, tried to comfort her, then things started accelerating. After a full month of her break-up we started dating. She is a kind of a girl who loves to be in control and not questioned. The first 3 weeks were simply great! But then things got crazy. She started calling me selfish, self-oriented, egoist, money lover and so on. Even to my simple reactions, she was getting mad.
How this started? We went to shopping and i wanted to buy myself a shoe. She suggested something that i cant wear during winter. My reaction at that time was bitter and i said: "Do you expect me to wear this during winter!". Then she started crying. After that day, she started to call me liar, just because i thought i let her know that i am visiting a friend, but instead i forgot and later told her. She called me adulatory, just because i have good relationships with my professors at university and offered to become an educator. In the first 3 weeks, she was saying she is glad finding me, it is the first time in her life she learns something from somebody around her. But then she started saying i always add information and ask questions all the time and i bore her. So i panicked. Then we got in a huge fight and she said she liked me as a friend and not as a lover. So basically she dumped me. Then next day we were messaging again, she was pretty cold. After 2 days of that fight, i messaged her asked how long this will take, she again blamed me by asking questions and she cant give a straight answer. I asked if she is ever willing to help me to turn this around, got us back together, her reply was she already tried and i fail to see the signs, which seems almost impossible to me because within that week we only met once. Then i broke up with her, saying things that i would never say in my life to somebody that i care that much. Feeling guilty, in the next week i sent her a present that i already mentioned, a hand-made portrait of a character she likes most. She rejected the gift and sent back. Then after 3 days i sent another message saying how deeply sorry i am and how much i love her, hoped her the best in her life. Now i am deleted from facebook, blocked from every single channel that i can reach her out.
After a week of pain, when i ask myself, do i still want her? my answer is yes. on the other hand, i am still questioning what has changed in 1 day? Till that shopping day i was a mature man, but then i became a child in her eyes and couldnt get any higher than that in the following days. Anything that i tried to do didnt work. Please ask questions if you feel like so.
