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Gents,
I have been thinking for long of putting up a post about the most common frames I encountered with women - along with their meaning, and a proposed solutions. Feel free to enrich this list - either with alternative solutions, or new phrases.
Here we go.
"I didn’t expect this to happen"
For instance if you fucked her just a couple of hours of meeting her ever. Translation. "Although I may or may not admit it for myself, I was hoping sooooo much this would happen, but can’t be upfront about it because it would be too slutty to say." Just Good Girl self image rationalization "I love it but I’m not a slut".
"I will let you know"
You just asked her out, and she says she will let you know whether she can come or not. And she maybe means it, as per her current emotions at the moment. But one emotion replaces another one, and who knows how she will feel in a few hours or a few days. You stand maybe 90 pct chance that she will never get back to you. What is likely to happen next is either:
"Let’s take it slowly OK?"
Oooops! You already past the chance for a fast escalation and she’s now framing it for the boyfriend zone. This interaction runs a very high risk of ending friend zone instead. To be utterly ignored. She needs to be taken to bed urgently instead.
"Where are we going?"
You just picked her up at home (or just out of the bar) and are now driving. She asks where we are going. If you had in mind to bring her home, this will make you think twice. When she says it, the tone is slightly inquisitive, and it sounds like she expects you to have a socially acceptable answer. What she is really doing is testing your manly resolve, and see if you will bow to the pressure.
Tell her with absolute zero hesitation or nervousness "I’m taking you home". No bullshit. You know what you want and have zero problem about voicing and taking what you want.
"Not into hook ups"
I love this one. In English, it means literally. "If you are sexy enough and do things right, I will perhaps get into a fast hook up with you; or perhaps not. BUT if anything happens, it’s not my fault because I told you upfront I didn’t want this. I have absolved myself of any responsibility for what happens and made you responsible instead. My own self esteem and good girl image will remain unstained."
You pay strictly no attention to this and just proceed. Make her attracted, comfortable, and lead her to your bed as if she didn’t say this.
"What are you doing now?"
She is texting you this out of the blue. Litterally. "In fact, I don’t care what you are doing now. I just hope that you are not too busy, because I’m not busy and wouldn’t mind a little sexual escapade with you, right now. But of course, I can’t be too upfront about it, because I’m a good girl. So stop whatever you’re doing and smoothly lead me to bed."
She wants you to fuck her, but it has to be coming from you. She prompted the interaction, but you take over the lead, and set up a meeting with her as soon as possible. You should still avoid sounding too available, so try something like "right now I have to finish something urgent. How about 8pm later today?" and decide the modalities. This is a great opportunity to suggest listening to some music at your place.
"Do you have a girlfriend?" or "How many girlfriends do you have?" (advanced version)
As Ricardus puts it, "damned if you do, damned if you don’t". If you say "I don’t have", you’re either a poor sexless chap, or a liar and cheater. If you say "I have", then what the fuck are you doing with her on a date. The best way is to answer something cocky and too huge to be possibly serious. You refuse to qualify yourself to her request, without falling into the sexless chap category, and still keeping your mystery. For instance:
"I have two. One every morning for breakfast. The other late at night, just before sleeping"
Cheers,
Seppuku
I have been thinking for long of putting up a post about the most common frames I encountered with women - along with their meaning, and a proposed solutions. Feel free to enrich this list - either with alternative solutions, or new phrases.
Here we go.
"I didn’t expect this to happen"
For instance if you fucked her just a couple of hours of meeting her ever. Translation. "Although I may or may not admit it for myself, I was hoping sooooo much this would happen, but can’t be upfront about it because it would be too slutty to say." Just Good Girl self image rationalization "I love it but I’m not a slut".
"I will let you know"
You just asked her out, and she says she will let you know whether she can come or not. And she maybe means it, as per her current emotions at the moment. But one emotion replaces another one, and who knows how she will feel in a few hours or a few days. You stand maybe 90 pct chance that she will never get back to you. What is likely to happen next is either:
- * you chase her to ask for an update. You hear some excuse about her busy schedule... and you’re now just another guy chasing her ass. You’re very likely now to be framed as such. Beware the repeating scenario the next time you ask her out. She walked you in the park once, why wouldn’t she do it again.
* You don’t chase her and stay silent. She knows she should have reverted to you, but she didn't and feels bad about it. Now she’s scared about getting back to you, and is hoping you won't be upset. Growing discomfort. Bad for your karma.
"Let’s take it slowly OK?"
Oooops! You already past the chance for a fast escalation and she’s now framing it for the boyfriend zone. This interaction runs a very high risk of ending friend zone instead. To be utterly ignored. She needs to be taken to bed urgently instead.
"Where are we going?"
You just picked her up at home (or just out of the bar) and are now driving. She asks where we are going. If you had in mind to bring her home, this will make you think twice. When she says it, the tone is slightly inquisitive, and it sounds like she expects you to have a socially acceptable answer. What she is really doing is testing your manly resolve, and see if you will bow to the pressure.
Tell her with absolute zero hesitation or nervousness "I’m taking you home". No bullshit. You know what you want and have zero problem about voicing and taking what you want.
"Not into hook ups"
I love this one. In English, it means literally. "If you are sexy enough and do things right, I will perhaps get into a fast hook up with you; or perhaps not. BUT if anything happens, it’s not my fault because I told you upfront I didn’t want this. I have absolved myself of any responsibility for what happens and made you responsible instead. My own self esteem and good girl image will remain unstained."
You pay strictly no attention to this and just proceed. Make her attracted, comfortable, and lead her to your bed as if she didn’t say this.
"What are you doing now?"
She is texting you this out of the blue. Litterally. "In fact, I don’t care what you are doing now. I just hope that you are not too busy, because I’m not busy and wouldn’t mind a little sexual escapade with you, right now. But of course, I can’t be too upfront about it, because I’m a good girl. So stop whatever you’re doing and smoothly lead me to bed."
She wants you to fuck her, but it has to be coming from you. She prompted the interaction, but you take over the lead, and set up a meeting with her as soon as possible. You should still avoid sounding too available, so try something like "right now I have to finish something urgent. How about 8pm later today?" and decide the modalities. This is a great opportunity to suggest listening to some music at your place.
"Do you have a girlfriend?" or "How many girlfriends do you have?" (advanced version)
As Ricardus puts it, "damned if you do, damned if you don’t". If you say "I don’t have", you’re either a poor sexless chap, or a liar and cheater. If you say "I have", then what the fuck are you doing with her on a date. The best way is to answer something cocky and too huge to be possibly serious. You refuse to qualify yourself to her request, without falling into the sexless chap category, and still keeping your mystery. For instance:
"I have two. One every morning for breakfast. The other late at night, just before sleeping"
Cheers,
Seppuku
and after a while she copypasted what other guys are writing to her and how they try to flirt with her, so we were like "loool 
