Hi everyone.
I had an interesting encounter on a party yesterday. I feel like I want to get the opinion of some other guys on this.
First of all a short summary of me and my experience with women: I am a 23 years old student in Germany. I had zero experience with women during adolescence. My first real kiss was with 21 (with a girl I met over OkCupid and went out to drink) and my first time having sex was an ONS on May this year (with a friend of a friend I was partying this night). Then there was the occasional make out in clubs. That sums it pretty much up and now the story of my 2nd time.
If you want to skip the long description of the night feel free to do so. The most relevant part are going to be the last twp paragraphs.
I wanted to go out last night but most of my party friends did not have time. This was already a huge setback for me because I never party alone. I feel so strange standing there alone in a club and dancing with my friends. Thank god I knew of some other acquaintances who would be there so I headed out.
So I went there alone and spent around 2 hours there. Standing here and there, dancing, drinking, talked briefly with a freshman. I ment on of those acquaintances and told them I was alone here (a mistake?). Eitherway I wanted to leave the venue and go home. As I expected, I could not enjoy the evening all alone. I wanted to get my jacked but the mentioned acquaintance was outside smoking and I did not want them to see me already leaving. So I went inside again.
I danced for a few more minutes and noticed a set of three (two grils and a guy). One of the girls seemed to give me signs to approach her but I was unsure. A I stepped a few steps away from them to see whats going to happen and she came closer to me. At some point she was right in front of me (me facing her back) her butt sometimes rubbing agains me. We and her friends were seperated by other people in the club so I knew for sure this was no coincident (I have AA and am sometimes very dense when women try to give me subtle signs). I put my hand on her hip and we danced all night, kissed, talked and so on.
While making out she whispered in my ear that she wanted to be with me in another place. I suggested going to my place, drinking tea/coffee and talking some more. She agreed and we went to my place. We lay on my bed, talked for a bit and started escalating. After undressing each other I tried my best to pleas her down there with my fingers. Like mentioned before I this is my 2nd time so I dont have a lot of experience and I think she knew this. When we started having sex she stopped me after a few minutes.
Our conversation went like this:
"Hold on big boy"
"Whats wrong?"
"You are not used to this, are you?"
"What do you mean?"
"You dont seem to be here in the moment with me"
I was so puzzled but it seemed like this was going to be the end of the night. I pulled out and lay next to her. She caress my chest and told me that I did nothing bad or wrong but it seemd to her like I was to much inside of my head. "You cant have sex when your are just inside your head. You need to be here inside your heart". She IS a pedagogue and working with mentally ill children and i felt like one was one of those children she was trying to take care of now (btw she is 2 years older than me and was 7years in a relationship but broke up 2 month ago). We lay there, talked, huged, kissed. She said she has a feeling like she had to go home now. She was in Netherlands for a week and somehow needed to be home. Honestly I am not sure if this is true or if she justed wanted to go. But did also say that she would like to stay here but cant. I walked her home, we talked some more about my past experience and about her. We exchanged nummers and promised to meet again. She seemed to like me a lot. Said I was the first she did something like this and how she feels at ease with me when we were at my place.
I dont know how to feel about all this. There are a lot of things I am thinking about right now but yeha, that was the story of my last night.
Feel free to give your 2 cents. I would love to hear some of your guys opinion on this
I had an interesting encounter on a party yesterday. I feel like I want to get the opinion of some other guys on this.
First of all a short summary of me and my experience with women: I am a 23 years old student in Germany. I had zero experience with women during adolescence. My first real kiss was with 21 (with a girl I met over OkCupid and went out to drink) and my first time having sex was an ONS on May this year (with a friend of a friend I was partying this night). Then there was the occasional make out in clubs. That sums it pretty much up and now the story of my 2nd time.
If you want to skip the long description of the night feel free to do so. The most relevant part are going to be the last twp paragraphs.
I wanted to go out last night but most of my party friends did not have time. This was already a huge setback for me because I never party alone. I feel so strange standing there alone in a club and dancing with my friends. Thank god I knew of some other acquaintances who would be there so I headed out.
So I went there alone and spent around 2 hours there. Standing here and there, dancing, drinking, talked briefly with a freshman. I ment on of those acquaintances and told them I was alone here (a mistake?). Eitherway I wanted to leave the venue and go home. As I expected, I could not enjoy the evening all alone. I wanted to get my jacked but the mentioned acquaintance was outside smoking and I did not want them to see me already leaving. So I went inside again.
I danced for a few more minutes and noticed a set of three (two grils and a guy). One of the girls seemed to give me signs to approach her but I was unsure. A I stepped a few steps away from them to see whats going to happen and she came closer to me. At some point she was right in front of me (me facing her back) her butt sometimes rubbing agains me. We and her friends were seperated by other people in the club so I knew for sure this was no coincident (I have AA and am sometimes very dense when women try to give me subtle signs). I put my hand on her hip and we danced all night, kissed, talked and so on.
While making out she whispered in my ear that she wanted to be with me in another place. I suggested going to my place, drinking tea/coffee and talking some more. She agreed and we went to my place. We lay on my bed, talked for a bit and started escalating. After undressing each other I tried my best to pleas her down there with my fingers. Like mentioned before I this is my 2nd time so I dont have a lot of experience and I think she knew this. When we started having sex she stopped me after a few minutes.
Our conversation went like this:
"Hold on big boy"
"Whats wrong?"
"You are not used to this, are you?"
"What do you mean?"
"You dont seem to be here in the moment with me"
I was so puzzled but it seemed like this was going to be the end of the night. I pulled out and lay next to her. She caress my chest and told me that I did nothing bad or wrong but it seemd to her like I was to much inside of my head. "You cant have sex when your are just inside your head. You need to be here inside your heart". She IS a pedagogue and working with mentally ill children and i felt like one was one of those children she was trying to take care of now (btw she is 2 years older than me and was 7years in a relationship but broke up 2 month ago). We lay there, talked, huged, kissed. She said she has a feeling like she had to go home now. She was in Netherlands for a week and somehow needed to be home. Honestly I am not sure if this is true or if she justed wanted to go. But did also say that she would like to stay here but cant. I walked her home, we talked some more about my past experience and about her. We exchanged nummers and promised to meet again. She seemed to like me a lot. Said I was the first she did something like this and how she feels at ease with me when we were at my place.
I dont know how to feel about all this. There are a lot of things I am thinking about right now but yeha, that was the story of my last night.
Feel free to give your 2 cents. I would love to hear some of your guys opinion on this
