Another Texting Thread

[NotJamesBond]

Alright so I'm trying to get this girl on a date. She's a good friend of one of my female friends.

It was going well, my other female friend basically confirmed she is interested and she knows I am as well. I asked her to lunch and she said "down "

However, when the time came, she said she had work. Maybe she got the day confused (we said Saturday and at one point she said "Wait next Saturday?" over SnapChat, I said yeah and got her number but by then she didn't mention anything about it when we texted). I texted her to reschedule for Monday the 15 and she didn't respond. This was Friday. The female friend who doesn't know her as well is telling me to get on it (I'm in the midst of finals, papers, and all that, at tail end of college). I was thinking it's too soon to text her again about a date, I was gonna do it sometime like Friday or this weekend or something, give it a week to sit.

Can minor rapport texting make a dame change her mind? The only thing I can think of is in that, but it's so extremely minor and a non-issue I can't imagine that would be it. Maybe there's some other guy lol.

Meanwhile this other broad always responds quickly and is enthusiastic so don't worry I'm not gonna chase or anything.

Just point me in the right direction, fellas
NJB

 

[NotJamesBond]

I think I figured it out after going over this (https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... irls-flake) article.

"Don’t try to reschedule then and there unless she’s adamant about so doing. Don’t even mention rescheduling. If she brings it up, tell her to just do her thing if she’s in a rush and you’ll worry about rescheduling later. You want to communicate basically that you’re confident you’ll see her again and, once more, that it’s no big deal."

Ohhhhhh. That must be why. Right away I offered to reschedule and she didn't reply, might come across that I'm not confident I'll see her again. Well now I know!

A good rule of thumb seems to be to do everything with confidence, and whatever answer arises from that confidence of not worrying about it is the way to respond. I've seen this consistently and have even felt it and here is no exception. Good to get confirmation on that. This stuff can be a lot to sift through!

Any other pointers you guys got would be appreciated like always.
NJB

 

[Seppuku]

Hey,

The article was solid advice.

Instead of seeking to reschedule, I would leave the date request opened.

You asked, she didn't confirm or reschedule, so the request is left opened. Then you wait silently a week or so. Then ask again as if nothing happened.

That's the non chasey persistent way. You communicate that you're not losing your shit because of a failed attempt to meet, your whole happy life is not dependent on her whims, and instead you know what you want and are persistent in getting it. She will appreciate.

If it doesn't work the second time, then move on.

Seppuku