Approaching women at the gym

[Samson84]

I've realized I have a scarcity mindset that I want to overcome. I'm particularly attracted to physically strong women like bodybuilders. I'm a powerlifter myself and train hard so I'm often at the gym.

I spend a fair bit of time in the USA (I'm from England) and while here I sometimes see these sexy women at the gym. I saw a woman at the gym last night with great arms and I wanted to try approaching her for her number or a date.

However, I didn't in the end. I caught her eye as she was exercising but I couldn't tell if she liked me or wanted me to approach. And since she was wearing headphones I felt it might have been a bit awkward. So after making eye contact a couple of times on walk-bys and maybe a little hovering (oops) I just left it.

What would you recommend in this situation? If I see her again I'd like to talk to her. But what would you suggest in terms of how to approach in this situation, how to act or what to say? I[m not normally very nervous but on this occasion I started to feel like a bit of a moron and I'd want to be more confident if I see her again.

I've been reading some of the articles on this site but I'd appreciate any advice for this particular situation.

Thanks!

 

[Samson84]

Aha, well I just found this article on the topic: https://www.girlschase.com/content/gym-p ... -girls-gym

And maybe it was just as well I didn't approach her without finding this first, and thereby making a dick of myself.

It seems kinda hard to get into a natural conversation in that environment, but this is probably mostly due to my inexperience and approach anxiety.

I'm in town on business for the week, so it's not my regular gym. This means I don't have a lot of time to take things slowly and get to know all the regulars. So I'll probably just see if an opportunity naturally presents itself, and if not, then I guess, just leave it. I'd really like to be able to talk to her and ask her out though. Man, this seems a lot harder than I would have thought at first.

When I've been on dates with women that I've arranged on Tinder, that's been perfectly fine. I can turn up very cool and confident. But a cold approach seems very much harder because you have no idea whether they are interested or not.