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*note: My previous FR's are categorized, ready to roll out, and ordered by date, but I have to post this because...I"m drunk and I just have to.
Summary: Girl I met a long time ago shows up for no reason, and I just can't say "no", goes surprisingly well.
[TBD*] American Girl [7/7] [@25] (ongoing)
Open: pre-existing/introduction
I'm in the bar I work at, and I hear that a "cute blonde" has walked in, I kind of have to go over. When I go over, one my fellow employees, who is also my wing, introduces me. It turns out it's the same pair that I've already met in my venue two times before [the specific FR's will be provided later].
Escalation: "Someone's watching us transition"
Maybe I should graduate out of this one, but it's just too damn easy. I have had previous interactions with [TBD], and her IOI's were higher than ever. She wanted to kiss me from the get-go, but because I have no idea how to "just kiss a girl", I still fell back on this. Yeah yeah, "the bartender is secretly scoping us out" [he totally wasn't], blah blah. Turns out [TBD] has great lips, and is a really good kisser.
Move: natural--there was some other stuff going on, I'll explain later
[TBD] was ready to go wherever I wanted to go, but it just so turned out she lived across the street from the venue my friends and I ended up going to (weird much?). Also, one of my interactions from this past Sat. teaches kindergarten, the girl I slept with on Sat. teaches kindergarten, and [TBD] also happens to teach kindergarten. Maybe it's a thing for foreign Shanghai women in their age range, I don't know.
Close: fail
[TBD] made it clear that she didn't want to go home "on the first date". She also made the specific comment: "are you used to getting girls to do what you want?", which meant I was putting out way too strong of a "player" vibe, which I get a lot, from girls and guys. I'm so new to PU that it's painfully obvious what I'm doing, and any girl with an IQ over 80 picks up on it immediately. This is a problem, but I probably won't be able to vanquish it until I get out of my "tryhard" phase. She also tried repeatedly to invite me to a thanksgiving dinner which is happening tomorrow, so she's either just trying to save face by sleeping with me on the second date (not likely), or she's trying to BF me, which isn't going to work, because I already have another girl trying to BF me (and I prefer the other). The sad thing is, I'll probably end up going anyway. We left the venue, I saw her to her "gate", and walked home.
[Interaction Rating]: 4--Did I learn anything? Yeah, I learned that my overly nice and qualifying vibe/method makes girls want to BF me rather than close with me. I also learned that I'm coming across as way too professional/tryhard. I need to curb myself, but I can't. I have a problem, I might even be out of control.
Addendum: Out of fucking control
Let me explain something: I'm out of fucking control. Sure, I like to present a "format" and technical terms and details and crap, but the truth is, I'm a frickin' mess, and if you've read my introduction, then you know that all is not well in AFCnoob-land. Let me (try to) give you the skinny on what actually happened up there.
FIRST: I am currently actively pursuing girl [A], she is absolutely lovely, and I had an unbelievable time making out with her in one of my favorite venues not three days ago. We have a date scheduled for two days from now. She is trying to BF me, but she is so nice, that I might just let her.
SECOND: For some insane reason (because I'm out of control) I picked up and left with girl the night before I went out to meet girl [A] a few days ago, because I'm an idiot, and I can't control myself. The worst part is: I did this in front of Guy [X] who works with me, and is also close friends with girl [A], so word is bound to get back to girl [A].
THIRD: Earlier tonight, I pulled guy [X] aside and told him: "Look: I know I left with another girl before, but that was before my most recent date with girl [A], I'm all about girl [A], so if she happens to talk to you, please tell her as much. I'm focused on her like a frickin' laser". Guy [X] was like: "Honestly, all this is between you two, I don't even want to be a part of it, but OK, whatever you say." (good for him!)
FOURTH: Girl (with whom I have closed before--recently) texted me minutes later, asking me to meet her and her friend. I simply couldn't refuse, and texted back that I would be there with bells on, with my standby wingman. HOWEVER, two girls show up immediately after. I should have ignored them and proceeded to the date I had already set up with girl , but...I'm out of control.
I went to meet the girls who had showed up, but it turns out I know them already--it's girls [C] and [D]. Girl [C] was giving me strong IOI's the last time I saw her (but I was with another girl), and they were even stronger when I engaged her this time. I was very conscious that I was looking like a total man-whore in front of guy [X], but I couldn't help myself. The worst part was, I had already set up a date with girl earlier that evening. I talked to girl [C] for a bit, then went for the "someone's watching us" kiss escalation (successful). At some point, someone suggested we go to another venue, and I communicated this to girl [C], who was immediately on board. However, when we got to the next venue, girl [C] made it clear that she would not go home with me. I pushed, and pushed some more, but she was rather adamant. I took it exceedingly well, and simply thanked her for coming out with me (which I'm rather proud of).
We left the venue, kissed a bit more, and I saw her home. The absolute worst was: I texted girl , joking that she was probably already asleep. She was (or simply didn't text back), so I walked home. So there you have it, I'm basically just doing it because I can at this point. I'm not learning much, I'm just messing around with a few cheap techniques and reveling in cheap rewards and accomplishments. I say I wan't to reorganize and take charge of my life, but then I do dumb stuff like this. Ugh.
Summary: Girl I met a long time ago shows up for no reason, and I just can't say "no", goes surprisingly well.
[TBD*] American Girl [7/7] [@25] (ongoing)
Open: pre-existing/introduction
I'm in the bar I work at, and I hear that a "cute blonde" has walked in, I kind of have to go over. When I go over, one my fellow employees, who is also my wing, introduces me. It turns out it's the same pair that I've already met in my venue two times before [the specific FR's will be provided later].
Escalation: "Someone's watching us transition"
Maybe I should graduate out of this one, but it's just too damn easy. I have had previous interactions with [TBD], and her IOI's were higher than ever. She wanted to kiss me from the get-go, but because I have no idea how to "just kiss a girl", I still fell back on this. Yeah yeah, "the bartender is secretly scoping us out" [he totally wasn't], blah blah. Turns out [TBD] has great lips, and is a really good kisser.
Move: natural--there was some other stuff going on, I'll explain later
[TBD] was ready to go wherever I wanted to go, but it just so turned out she lived across the street from the venue my friends and I ended up going to (weird much?). Also, one of my interactions from this past Sat. teaches kindergarten, the girl I slept with on Sat. teaches kindergarten, and [TBD] also happens to teach kindergarten. Maybe it's a thing for foreign Shanghai women in their age range, I don't know.
Close: fail
[TBD] made it clear that she didn't want to go home "on the first date". She also made the specific comment: "are you used to getting girls to do what you want?", which meant I was putting out way too strong of a "player" vibe, which I get a lot, from girls and guys. I'm so new to PU that it's painfully obvious what I'm doing, and any girl with an IQ over 80 picks up on it immediately. This is a problem, but I probably won't be able to vanquish it until I get out of my "tryhard" phase. She also tried repeatedly to invite me to a thanksgiving dinner which is happening tomorrow, so she's either just trying to save face by sleeping with me on the second date (not likely), or she's trying to BF me, which isn't going to work, because I already have another girl trying to BF me (and I prefer the other). The sad thing is, I'll probably end up going anyway. We left the venue, I saw her to her "gate", and walked home.
[Interaction Rating]: 4--Did I learn anything? Yeah, I learned that my overly nice and qualifying vibe/method makes girls want to BF me rather than close with me. I also learned that I'm coming across as way too professional/tryhard. I need to curb myself, but I can't. I have a problem, I might even be out of control.
Addendum: Out of fucking control
Let me explain something: I'm out of fucking control. Sure, I like to present a "format" and technical terms and details and crap, but the truth is, I'm a frickin' mess, and if you've read my introduction, then you know that all is not well in AFCnoob-land. Let me (try to) give you the skinny on what actually happened up there.
FIRST: I am currently actively pursuing girl [A], she is absolutely lovely, and I had an unbelievable time making out with her in one of my favorite venues not three days ago. We have a date scheduled for two days from now. She is trying to BF me, but she is so nice, that I might just let her.
SECOND: For some insane reason (because I'm out of control) I picked up and left with girl the night before I went out to meet girl [A] a few days ago, because I'm an idiot, and I can't control myself. The worst part is: I did this in front of Guy [X] who works with me, and is also close friends with girl [A], so word is bound to get back to girl [A].
THIRD: Earlier tonight, I pulled guy [X] aside and told him: "Look: I know I left with another girl before, but that was before my most recent date with girl [A], I'm all about girl [A], so if she happens to talk to you, please tell her as much. I'm focused on her like a frickin' laser". Guy [X] was like: "Honestly, all this is between you two, I don't even want to be a part of it, but OK, whatever you say." (good for him!)
FOURTH: Girl (with whom I have closed before--recently) texted me minutes later, asking me to meet her and her friend. I simply couldn't refuse, and texted back that I would be there with bells on, with my standby wingman. HOWEVER, two girls show up immediately after. I should have ignored them and proceeded to the date I had already set up with girl , but...I'm out of control.
I went to meet the girls who had showed up, but it turns out I know them already--it's girls [C] and [D]. Girl [C] was giving me strong IOI's the last time I saw her (but I was with another girl), and they were even stronger when I engaged her this time. I was very conscious that I was looking like a total man-whore in front of guy [X], but I couldn't help myself. The worst part was, I had already set up a date with girl earlier that evening. I talked to girl [C] for a bit, then went for the "someone's watching us" kiss escalation (successful). At some point, someone suggested we go to another venue, and I communicated this to girl [C], who was immediately on board. However, when we got to the next venue, girl [C] made it clear that she would not go home with me. I pushed, and pushed some more, but she was rather adamant. I took it exceedingly well, and simply thanked her for coming out with me (which I'm rather proud of).
We left the venue, kissed a bit more, and I saw her home. The absolute worst was: I texted girl , joking that she was probably already asleep. She was (or simply didn't text back), so I walked home. So there you have it, I'm basically just doing it because I can at this point. I'm not learning much, I'm just messing around with a few cheap techniques and reveling in cheap rewards and accomplishments. I say I wan't to reorganize and take charge of my life, but then I do dumb stuff like this. Ugh.
