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Are mixed signals even viable?
I always end up validating the girls too much with my actions in some way and then they pull away thinking they got me (so annoying) . Which is what got me focusing on push-pull.
But from what I’m seeing, mixed signals are only relevant in the first few stages of interaction with a girl, and only when the girl likes you quite a bit already.
Moving to the next stage renders mixed signals useless. Asking a girl out is already validating her and shes no longer “wondering” if you like her or not. (I dont mean asking girls out is the source of my overvalidation problem - it isn’t)
Only way I can see asking out working with mixed signals is if your ask is ultra-casual, but thats impossible to do in places like high school because nobody goes out just “casually”.
Maybe the way I’m doing it is just really bad but I find more success just rewarding and punishing.
I understand I may be wrong. If you guys have found success with mixed signals, please let me know how y’all do it and what works. Maybe its my timing or delivery idk it just feels weird.
I always end up validating the girls too much with my actions in some way and then they pull away thinking they got me (so annoying) . Which is what got me focusing on push-pull.
But from what I’m seeing, mixed signals are only relevant in the first few stages of interaction with a girl, and only when the girl likes you quite a bit already.
Moving to the next stage renders mixed signals useless. Asking a girl out is already validating her and shes no longer “wondering” if you like her or not. (I dont mean asking girls out is the source of my overvalidation problem - it isn’t)
Only way I can see asking out working with mixed signals is if your ask is ultra-casual, but thats impossible to do in places like high school because nobody goes out just “casually”.
Maybe the way I’m doing it is just really bad but I find more success just rewarding and punishing.
I understand I may be wrong. If you guys have found success with mixed signals, please let me know how y’all do it and what works. Maybe its my timing or delivery idk it just feels weird.
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