Ash

[Average]

I've been in the game since fifth grade, most of the people I know aren't virgins anymore and talking to girls is so natural in my country that it is an accepted part of life.
But not for me.
Hi...my name's Ash. I have been compared to Sheldon's personality by guys and called just plain weird by girls. I don't know how many times I've been rejected but I'm sure that I've gotten rid of most of my approach anxiety. Its safe to say that I'm different from most people but...
What do I do?
I've been officially trying to pick girls up for 2 years (and unofficially for 7) but ive only gotten as far as awkwardly number closing.
Can somebody tell me what to do when meeting a girl on the street from beginning (first seeing her) to end (bedding her)?
By the way, the two main points of me you should know are that I'm 18 (most people I know broke their virginities at 12) and that I don't believe in relationships and am in need of ways to tell the girl.

 

[Smith]

I've been officially trying to pick girls up for 2 years (and unofficially for 7) but ive only gotten as far as awkwardly number closing.
Can somebody tell me what to do when meeting a girl on the street from beginning (first seeing her) to end (bedding her)?

Approach more. You probably haven't been cold approaching enough in the past two years...or you've been ignoring your fundamentals if all you get is phone numbers. Focus on the fundamentals first.

 

[Average]

Re: Smith

Ok. But most descriptions of a sexy man that I see is of a personality and body language completely different from mine. Wouldn't it be fake if I do take the advice. I'm generally fast moving and frequently jokey kinda guy. Although I am hyper smart, I have been called hyper nerdy. Would suddenly turning into this slow moving intense individual come off as weird or fake? And concerning more cold approaches...wouldn't it be bad if I started cold approaching more and more people as it would mean that the girls would talk about me amongst themselves once I get rejected frequently enough?

 

[Thedoctor]

Re: Smith

Ash,

Ok. But most descriptions of a sexy man that I see is of a personality and body language completely different from mine. Wouldn't it be fake if I do take the advice. I'm generally fast moving and frequently jokey kinda guy. Although I am hyper smart, I have been called hyper nerdy. Would suddenly turning into this slow moving intense individual come off as weird or fake? And concerning more cold approaches...wouldn't it be bad if I started cold approaching more and more people as it would mean that the girls would talk about me amongst themselves once I get rejected frequently enough?

Like Smith said, it sounds like you need to work on your fundamentals. And in terms of fundamentals, nothing is necessarily set in stone. If you find something doesn't jive with you very well, then don't apply it. But every guy can easily improve two things that will make a world of difference and shouldn't cause any issues in regards to their congruence: their fashion and their body. I'd peruse some of the fashion articles to develop a better style (clothes, hair, accessories), and lose weight/gain a bit of muscle as necessary. Not everyone is going to successfully emulate James Bond (hell, a lot of guys wouldn't want to), but everyone can improve their style and vibe. Focus on those for the time being, and then you can try out different things to see what works with your personality.

-John

 

[Smith]

Would suddenly turning into this slow moving intense individual come off as weird or fake? And concerning more cold approaches...wouldn't it be bad if I started cold approaching more and more people as it would mean that the girls would talk about me amongst themselves once I get rejected frequently enough?

Sometimes you gotta be incongruent for a little while before you internalize.

And most "rejections" are just "nice to meet you"....

 

[Average]

Re: Smith

Sometimes you gotta be incongruent for a little while before you internalize.

And most "rejections" are just "nice to meet you"....

Alright. Thanks guys. I guess I got so caught up with my daily stresses that I gradually forgot important facts. I'll be sure to brush up on them then.