Candyman,
candyman said:
ok so I sent her another text,
Me: Hey Tess, hope you had a good chrissy. Mine was solid, and restful. When's good for you to grab that drink this week? Let me know when your schedules clear and let's set it up.
Her: Hey mate, chrissy was great, i didnt have to work which was a plus. work has been hectic. last night was the first night ive had a propper night sleep. do you mind if we wait till work settles down a bit because im really tired & busy at the moment. good to hear you had a nice one.
She seems pretty genuine and quite long in her replies so I think I will pursue her till I get her out. Normally I wouldn't bother but it wouldn't hurt.
This is platonic. "Do you mind" "work settles down a bit" "I'm really tired & busy"... all excuses begging off from seeing you.
What you want is women tossing their obligations aside to see you. If she's so busy that she can't grab a drink to see you, either she's an investment banker who moonlights as a TV news reporter and she's taken a temporary vow of celibacy until she reaches her first million, or she isn't interested.
Which is not to say there's anything wrong with you; everybody gets brush offs. Part and parcel with the whole dating game. Some women say "yes," others beg off. No worries, just onto the next one.
Throw things back onto this girl, "Okay, well since you're the busy one, get in touch with me when your schedule clears up and let's do this," and then forget about her until / unless she ever contacts you (which typically won't happen when a girl's trying to dodge seeing you this much and repeatedly, but if she becomes single later she might [sometimes these girls have boyfriends and simply don't tell you, because telling you loses you as a backup as you go off in search of another girl to date instead]).
Chase