How does one make people aware of their preferences or boundaries without coming off as aggressive and rude?
Take an example of smoking near your face.
Or maybe not removing shoes when they enter your place.
Ex -
You - Take off your shoes.
You - Smoke somewhere else man.
English isn't my first language so I do sometimes feel I am coming off as aggressive in my wordings.
Because the ones I gave examples off seem like demands more than stating your boundaries.
What is your opinion?
Take an example of smoking near your face.
Or maybe not removing shoes when they enter your place.
Ex -
You - Take off your shoes.
You - Smoke somewhere else man.
English isn't my first language so I do sometimes feel I am coming off as aggressive in my wordings.
Because the ones I gave examples off seem like demands more than stating your boundaries.
What is your opinion?