Attainability

[Sam39]

I'm a college student, and started reading Chase's material a couple years ago. I've always been able to have good conversations with girls, and my sports background has always helped me meet new girls. His advice on status and value changed my life, and now it seems like I can talk to anyone and stop giving a fuck. However, I've been having problems presenting myself as the "lover" type. For example, in high school, I knew this girl was attracted to me, and we went on dates and even to prom together, but things got awkward as I tried to move forward. Fast forward several years, and a girl in a social group seemed really into me. She refused every other guy in the friend group except me. We went on a date, hit it off, and then I shit myself and never kissed her. No worries, we went on a second date. I tried using more touch early and often (which I'm still working on), but when we got back to my apartment, the entire mood shifted. I had to recalibrate, and tried touching her again, but this time, she was super awkward. She wouldn't even make eye contact by the end. I know I missed my escalation window, but I'd like to practice fixing my attainability. I know I'm a boyfriend candidate now, but if she seemed so into me, why wouldn't my touch work? Any tips on proceeding now?

Edit: she put her phone number out in the group chat, so I think it might be more than losing interest haha. I know I was probably too wierd with my touch, but if that's the only thing, why would she turn around so hard?

 

[Bismarck]

You said you have a sports background that "always helped you meet new girls" - you mean you got attention/mild interest or "attraction" from girls, but you don't have experience leading them on an adventure to sex (or trying to do so, at any rate).

By the sounds of this little snippet of yours, you've never inserted your meat into any female organ.

Your problem is not your attainability, it's that you're missing escalation windows, as you've correctly self-diagnosed. Your touch didn't work because you're still not at a place where you simply touch girls without feeling like it's awkward that you're doing so. When you feel it's awkward, she feels it's awkward too. And once the mystique bubble bursts, and she starts thinking: "why isn't he doing anything?" you're already in damage control mode.