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Hi Guys!
I recently discovered a super easy way to start a conversation and meet people. I'm mediocre at street pickup, and I find bars and clubs way too loud. Friday afternoon, I headed to one of the bars in the business district and sat by myself at the bar - it was practically empty at that time so it was quiet, but was getting busier. I discovered that if I faced away from the bar, with a relaxed and open posture, anyone who walked in and ordered a drink would have a look at me, which was enough of an opening to start a conversation. Two girls even started one themselves and invited me back to their table with their friends. A couple of hours later and I was getting invited to a party with people I had met only just met. I ended up getting two numbers and was closing on one of them when I got cockblocked by her friends (I know, but that's another question)
PROS: It seemed to negate the mistrust that people have in me when approaching alone, because they were indirectly approaching me.
I had a couple of minutes window while their drinks were being served to get a conversation going.
CONS: Got a few comments asking if I was drowning my sorrows, or male friends ribbing me for being an alcoholic. Be prepared to answer 'What are you doing here?' over and over.
So I think the main tactic to take away from this is - placing yourself in a public area, where people often need to wait for a short amount of time, makes it really easy to get conversations happening.
I recently discovered a super easy way to start a conversation and meet people. I'm mediocre at street pickup, and I find bars and clubs way too loud. Friday afternoon, I headed to one of the bars in the business district and sat by myself at the bar - it was practically empty at that time so it was quiet, but was getting busier. I discovered that if I faced away from the bar, with a relaxed and open posture, anyone who walked in and ordered a drink would have a look at me, which was enough of an opening to start a conversation. Two girls even started one themselves and invited me back to their table with their friends. A couple of hours later and I was getting invited to a party with people I had met only just met. I ended up getting two numbers and was closing on one of them when I got cockblocked by her friends (I know, but that's another question)
PROS: It seemed to negate the mistrust that people have in me when approaching alone, because they were indirectly approaching me.
I had a couple of minutes window while their drinks were being served to get a conversation going.
CONS: Got a few comments asking if I was drowning my sorrows, or male friends ribbing me for being an alcoholic. Be prepared to answer 'What are you doing here?' over and over.
So I think the main tactic to take away from this is - placing yourself in a public area, where people often need to wait for a short amount of time, makes it really easy to get conversations happening.
