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I mean socially awkward is socially awkward regardless of race. I will say that i’ve run into some indian guys with a particular flavor of social awkwardness, especially at my work.
Its pushy behavior, i.e interjecting in other’s conversations uncalibrated, making demands aggressively, getting visibly flustered and irritated (which might scare alot of women), being overly direct and aggressive in unattractive ways. This might be what he was referring to.
I’ve never been to india but i’ve found that travelers from india can sometimes act this way. It’s outside the norm here in the U.S. Could be coincidence but I assume it’s part of the culture over there similar to certain parts of NY.
Its pushy behavior, i.e interjecting in other’s conversations uncalibrated, making demands aggressively, getting visibly flustered and irritated (which might scare alot of women), being overly direct and aggressive in unattractive ways. This might be what he was referring to.
I’ve never been to india but i’ve found that travelers from india can sometimes act this way. It’s outside the norm here in the U.S. Could be coincidence but I assume it’s part of the culture over there similar to certain parts of NY.
They seem to be taking persistence to the extreme, all this skills are important to know how to do it in cool and laid back manner, I myself struggle with these,, I fuck up my interaction and retreat back to my shell otherwise if I continue i come across as the weird dude who doesn't get it. I'm just annoyed these days, whatever I do I don't get better.
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Indian guys tend to be more socially awkward on average because
1. Those that come from india and move to a country like the United States never learn social and cultural norms. In their country they have chaste systems where some people are just higher class so they feel superior and more entitled,but when they come over to a country where social status has to be earned and isn't easy to come by they struggle. Indians don't understand smv and think that just because they want something like hot girls or cool friends that if they're nice it'll be given to them.
2.A lot of asian people generally only hang out with their race and have little experience socializing with other people. I've seen this from experience with a lot of my personal friends mostly talking with other muslim kids in school and not other people.
A lot of asian kids just don't get a good grasp of social skills early on so they need to place more of an emphasis later on in life to catch up. If you recognize that you're behind and wanna learn to be more socially accepted and respected that's a good sign because most kids just stay awkward. One of my old close friends who randomly texts me weird pointless shit was a weird kid from back in the day and he still hasn't changed.
1. Those that come from india and move to a country like the United States never learn social and cultural norms. In their country they have chaste systems where some people are just higher class so they feel superior and more entitled,but when they come over to a country where social status has to be earned and isn't easy to come by they struggle. Indians don't understand smv and think that just because they want something like hot girls or cool friends that if they're nice it'll be given to them.
2.A lot of asian people generally only hang out with their race and have little experience socializing with other people. I've seen this from experience with a lot of my personal friends mostly talking with other muslim kids in school and not other people.
A lot of asian kids just don't get a good grasp of social skills early on so they need to place more of an emphasis later on in life to catch up. If you recognize that you're behind and wanna learn to be more socially accepted and respected that's a good sign because most kids just stay awkward. One of my old close friends who randomly texts me weird pointless shit was a weird kid from back in the day and he still hasn't changed.
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Hey man, it sucks to suck. Noone likes playing the game when they’re losing. It’s up to you to get in or give out.
That’s the main point of this site, it gives you the guideline on how to succeed but it’s up to your own aptitude and ability to put it to practice.
This sounds harsh but I don’t know how else to express it, there are guy’s who have been way worse off than you, less smart, less attractive, less successful, and still somehow managed to succeed in their own way.
Start with small wins and work your way up. Learn how to get one girl before you try worrying about a rotation. Learn how to make one friend before you worry about building a social circle. Crawl before you Walk and appreciate what you’re capable of and work toward where you hope to be soon.
There’s an article somewhere on the main site where Chase details about how he started off “socially hopeless”, judging from the reputation he’s built for himself now its safe to say there are no lost causes.
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I would recommend you post field reports on exactly where you are struggling. Be more detailed. Just because Chase said "Indian guy social awkward" does not mean it relates to all Indian men.
I recommend sharing more from the base. You are new here? Great start with the fundamentals: fashion, voice, walk, facial hair, hairstyle, etc. Share more info with us on those topics and read up on those articles. Once you do that, next look at your instrinsic value:
Are you funny?
Do you know how to have normal conversations with others? Ones that flow naturally?
What skills do you have that others find interesting?
Share those things with us and we can better diagnose where you are messing up and doing well at.