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Dudes! I've recently posted Halloween came early pt. 1 where I met the girl with long curly/wavy light brown hair, wearing a black dress, black boots and silver jewellery (BD). She played a part in Pt. 1 with SW providing social proof, momentum and generating intrigue/mystery and maybe a touch of jealousy. She left early with her friend on Saturday night but I number closed and followed up, texting an ice breaker within a few minutes which got a warm response.
Initial Texting
Flux: Hi NAME, it's Flux from PLACE, it was fun meeting you tonight
Girl (BD): Hi!! It was great to meet you too!
Flux: I hope you had a good night and got home safe
Girl (BD): I did thank you, did you go to PLACE?
Flux: No we didn't quite get there
Girl (BD): Oh no! I hope you had a good night anyway
Flux: I did thanks, I hope your feet aren't hurting too much (call back to her opening)
Girl (BD): They're killing me! How are you?
From here we got into a fun little text conversation, I can be conversational with text and it helps build rapport rather than going too quickly, it depends on the girl but I try to arrange dates quickly but if they're investing in the conversation I'll keep it going to get to a natural point to arrange a meet. This helped with the call back to when we met. I try not to answer too much in text to save the conversation for when you meet.
Flux: That sounds fun, when your feet aren't killing you we should go for a drink and you can tell me all about it
Girl: It really is and when were you thinking?
Flux: When are you free?
Girl: I'm free Monday night, where did you want to go?
Flux: I was thinking of meeting at PLACE (near where we met)
Girl: That sounds good I can meet you there, what time?
Flux: What times good for you?
Girl: I'm free after 8
Flux: That's cool, we can meet at 08:30 if that’s good for you? (I've asked this to be considerate as I've picked a later time)
Girl: That's great
Flux: I'll see you tomorrow
The text conversation continues, I keep it fun and playful as she keeps investing but I'm conscious not to overdo this. I send a check in text later on Monday before I'd have to set off just to reassure her that I haven't forgot and that we're still on to meet that night.
Venue, fashion and meeting
I arrive at the venue a couple of minutes before her, she gave me a text to say she was running a little late. We're meeting at a bar that’s well lit with some music playing quietly, it's a popular place and part of a chain so you know what to expect from the bar. I was wearing grey skinny jeans, a tight fitting black t-shirt, black canvas shoes, black leather bracelets and a black leather jacket. She turned up and I met her outside the venue, she was wearing a black pencil skirt, a black vest top, a white of the shoulder jumper and little black boots. She shyly walked towards me, I said her name to greet her and to let her know that I recognised her, we hugged, I left my hand linger on her hip and we kissed.
She held my forearm on the hand on her hip, I slid my hand of her hip and took her hand, she smiled and I said we'll go and get those drinks. I lead her into the bar and asked what she wanted to drink. I ordered the drinks and we went over to a quiet table to sit down and talk.
Deep diving, conversation, warmth
Despite kissing outside the venue she was still rather reserved, shy and a little awkward. I kept it warm leading the conversation and going into deep diving keeping the conversation focused on her and letting her talk. I commented and shared where I could relate and kept touching her on high points helping create a bubble where I could leave my hand on her leg as we kept talking. She was very compliant to the touch reward up until I was constantly touching her cementing the bubble that we had created.
Logistics and extraction
The conversation flowed, and she bought the next round of drinks using the app on her phone, this helped introduce our logistics as I reminded her I was driving because I was from out of town. She told me where she lived which wasn't too far away. She mentioned that she got a taxi there and that’s why she was a little late and I offered to drop her off home. We finished our drinks, talked a little more before I suggested we leave, I took her hand while she stood up and lead her out the bar with my hand on her back.
We kept talking while I walked her back to the car. She complimented my car telling me how nice it was and we talked about music as we had a similar taste and she liked the song that was on. She gave me her address and we drove back to her apartment where she lived with her friend that was out with her the night I met her (the blonde). She seemed a little nervous while we were parked outside her apartment but the conversation kept flowing. I kept warm and social, she seemed hesitant but invited me in, she insisted nothing would happen but we can have some juice. I told her we wouldn't do anything she didn't want to do.
Music, resistance and reassurance
We went inside and had some juice while we talked in the kitchen before going into the living room. I noticed a guitar, it was her friends but neither of them could play it. She remembered that I told her I played earlier in the night and said I could play it if I wanted. I couldn't resist and had to play on it. She enjoyed watching me play, she was touching me and watching me intently, I put the guitar down and things started to heat up between us.
She stopped a few times providing a little resistance to which I reminded her that we weren't going to do anything she didn't want to do. She was won over with this but then stopped and asked if we could wait, it was all happening too fast for her. I looked her in her eyes and said of course, I want you to feel comfortable, I sat with her and kept being attentive softly touching her but not escalating or pushing letting her know that nothing would happen that she didn't want to happen. This flipped the situation around, she felt reassured and told me that she felt comfortable knowing that I wasn't going to be angry if she said no and that I was understanding. The guitar wasn't the only thing her friend would've heard that night
Initial Texting
Flux: Hi NAME, it's Flux from PLACE, it was fun meeting you tonight
Girl (BD): Hi!! It was great to meet you too!
Flux: I hope you had a good night and got home safe
Girl (BD): I did thank you, did you go to PLACE?
Flux: No we didn't quite get there
Girl (BD): Oh no! I hope you had a good night anyway
Flux: I did thanks, I hope your feet aren't hurting too much (call back to her opening)
Girl (BD): They're killing me! How are you?
From here we got into a fun little text conversation, I can be conversational with text and it helps build rapport rather than going too quickly, it depends on the girl but I try to arrange dates quickly but if they're investing in the conversation I'll keep it going to get to a natural point to arrange a meet. This helped with the call back to when we met. I try not to answer too much in text to save the conversation for when you meet.
Flux: That sounds fun, when your feet aren't killing you we should go for a drink and you can tell me all about it
Girl: It really is and when were you thinking?
Flux: When are you free?
Girl: I'm free Monday night, where did you want to go?
Flux: I was thinking of meeting at PLACE (near where we met)
Girl: That sounds good I can meet you there, what time?
Flux: What times good for you?
Girl: I'm free after 8
Flux: That's cool, we can meet at 08:30 if that’s good for you? (I've asked this to be considerate as I've picked a later time)
Girl: That's great
Flux: I'll see you tomorrow
The text conversation continues, I keep it fun and playful as she keeps investing but I'm conscious not to overdo this. I send a check in text later on Monday before I'd have to set off just to reassure her that I haven't forgot and that we're still on to meet that night.
Venue, fashion and meeting
I arrive at the venue a couple of minutes before her, she gave me a text to say she was running a little late. We're meeting at a bar that’s well lit with some music playing quietly, it's a popular place and part of a chain so you know what to expect from the bar. I was wearing grey skinny jeans, a tight fitting black t-shirt, black canvas shoes, black leather bracelets and a black leather jacket. She turned up and I met her outside the venue, she was wearing a black pencil skirt, a black vest top, a white of the shoulder jumper and little black boots. She shyly walked towards me, I said her name to greet her and to let her know that I recognised her, we hugged, I left my hand linger on her hip and we kissed.
She held my forearm on the hand on her hip, I slid my hand of her hip and took her hand, she smiled and I said we'll go and get those drinks. I lead her into the bar and asked what she wanted to drink. I ordered the drinks and we went over to a quiet table to sit down and talk.
Deep diving, conversation, warmth
Despite kissing outside the venue she was still rather reserved, shy and a little awkward. I kept it warm leading the conversation and going into deep diving keeping the conversation focused on her and letting her talk. I commented and shared where I could relate and kept touching her on high points helping create a bubble where I could leave my hand on her leg as we kept talking. She was very compliant to the touch reward up until I was constantly touching her cementing the bubble that we had created.
Logistics and extraction
The conversation flowed, and she bought the next round of drinks using the app on her phone, this helped introduce our logistics as I reminded her I was driving because I was from out of town. She told me where she lived which wasn't too far away. She mentioned that she got a taxi there and that’s why she was a little late and I offered to drop her off home. We finished our drinks, talked a little more before I suggested we leave, I took her hand while she stood up and lead her out the bar with my hand on her back.
We kept talking while I walked her back to the car. She complimented my car telling me how nice it was and we talked about music as we had a similar taste and she liked the song that was on. She gave me her address and we drove back to her apartment where she lived with her friend that was out with her the night I met her (the blonde). She seemed a little nervous while we were parked outside her apartment but the conversation kept flowing. I kept warm and social, she seemed hesitant but invited me in, she insisted nothing would happen but we can have some juice. I told her we wouldn't do anything she didn't want to do.
Music, resistance and reassurance
We went inside and had some juice while we talked in the kitchen before going into the living room. I noticed a guitar, it was her friends but neither of them could play it. She remembered that I told her I played earlier in the night and said I could play it if I wanted. I couldn't resist and had to play on it. She enjoyed watching me play, she was touching me and watching me intently, I put the guitar down and things started to heat up between us.
She stopped a few times providing a little resistance to which I reminded her that we weren't going to do anything she didn't want to do. She was won over with this but then stopped and asked if we could wait, it was all happening too fast for her. I looked her in her eyes and said of course, I want you to feel comfortable, I sat with her and kept being attentive softly touching her but not escalating or pushing letting her know that nothing would happen that she didn't want to happen. This flipped the situation around, she felt reassured and told me that she felt comfortable knowing that I wasn't going to be angry if she said no and that I was understanding. The guitar wasn't the only thing her friend would've heard that night
