Hello, gentlemen.
Last Friday, I went out with a friend. Once I enter a favourite bar of mine, my eyes lock with a sexy brunette and we hold strong eye contact as I walk to take a seat. The woman goes to the toilet and as she exits, I lightly touch her. She turns and after a 2-minute interaction she gives me her number.
On Monday, we meet for a 1-hour drink. As we walk our way outside the bar, I tell her "I am not sleepy, are you?" She giggles and says "We can go wherever you want, but you will drive me back home afterwards". I say "sure" and I start driving. She asks me "So, where are we going?" and I calmly reply "To my place, where the beautiful view from my balcony awaits". She giggles and we go.
Fast forward to the sex part:
- The woman gave zero LMR
- I kissed her within 5 minutes and started escalation
- I took all her cloths off and started to enjoy her beautiful body
- After 40 minutes of foreplay I couldn't get it up (performance anxiety + lack of sleep)
- I manage to get it up and she starts giving me a blowjob; the blowjob was one of those when the woman scratches the head of your penis with her teeth, which makes me lose my erection in her mouth
- I pull my penis out of her mouth, so as not to lose my erection completely. She tries to wildly take it back to her mouth. I say "You unwillingly scratch me with your teeth". She says "I will try not to", I say "Don't bother, it's ok, we can do other things" (She seemed somewhat stiff after that)
- I manage to get it up, I penetrate her and I cum prematurely in 3 minutes
- I finish her off with oral sex and stimulating her clitoris
- I looked her in the eye and told her "You know, all this [i.e. my bad performance] is purely psychological", she says " Iknow, the pressure can be great for guys sometimes"
The next two days, the woman kept a normal text communication with me. Yesterday, I texted her "What do you do tonight after 8pm?" to which she relplied "My brother is coming tonight from abroad and I need to see him these days. I will call you after that". My assumption, guys, is that she politely dodged a second meeting, unless proven otherwise. This brings us to two sets of questions:
A) How do you salvage a first time bad sex? If a woman doesn't feel like giving you a second chance, is it because she lost her respect for you or is it because she auto-rejects and feels inadequate as a sexual stimulus to you?
B) Premature ejaculation: does masturbating 2 hours before sex work?
Unfortunately, many of my first-time sex sessions are of poor quality on my part. Instead of dealing with the woman as an object of desire and a source of pleasure, I see her as Judge Drek who will condemn me as a male, if I don't perform, which leads to exactly that. Maybe, Chace, you could write about outcome independence on the sexual level and how to achieve it?
Tonight, I have another date and I would like to be more care-free.
Guys, your comments are welcome. I hope I touch upon a topic of interest to you.
Last Friday, I went out with a friend. Once I enter a favourite bar of mine, my eyes lock with a sexy brunette and we hold strong eye contact as I walk to take a seat. The woman goes to the toilet and as she exits, I lightly touch her. She turns and after a 2-minute interaction she gives me her number.
On Monday, we meet for a 1-hour drink. As we walk our way outside the bar, I tell her "I am not sleepy, are you?" She giggles and says "We can go wherever you want, but you will drive me back home afterwards". I say "sure" and I start driving. She asks me "So, where are we going?" and I calmly reply "To my place, where the beautiful view from my balcony awaits". She giggles and we go.
Fast forward to the sex part:
- The woman gave zero LMR
- I kissed her within 5 minutes and started escalation
- I took all her cloths off and started to enjoy her beautiful body
- After 40 minutes of foreplay I couldn't get it up (performance anxiety + lack of sleep)
- I manage to get it up and she starts giving me a blowjob; the blowjob was one of those when the woman scratches the head of your penis with her teeth, which makes me lose my erection in her mouth
- I pull my penis out of her mouth, so as not to lose my erection completely. She tries to wildly take it back to her mouth. I say "You unwillingly scratch me with your teeth". She says "I will try not to", I say "Don't bother, it's ok, we can do other things" (She seemed somewhat stiff after that)
- I manage to get it up, I penetrate her and I cum prematurely in 3 minutes
- I finish her off with oral sex and stimulating her clitoris
- I looked her in the eye and told her "You know, all this [i.e. my bad performance] is purely psychological", she says " Iknow, the pressure can be great for guys sometimes"
The next two days, the woman kept a normal text communication with me. Yesterday, I texted her "What do you do tonight after 8pm?" to which she relplied "My brother is coming tonight from abroad and I need to see him these days. I will call you after that". My assumption, guys, is that she politely dodged a second meeting, unless proven otherwise. This brings us to two sets of questions:
A) How do you salvage a first time bad sex? If a woman doesn't feel like giving you a second chance, is it because she lost her respect for you or is it because she auto-rejects and feels inadequate as a sexual stimulus to you?
B) Premature ejaculation: does masturbating 2 hours before sex work?
Unfortunately, many of my first-time sex sessions are of poor quality on my part. Instead of dealing with the woman as an object of desire and a source of pleasure, I see her as Judge Drek who will condemn me as a male, if I don't perform, which leads to exactly that. Maybe, Chace, you could write about outcome independence on the sexual level and how to achieve it?
Tonight, I have another date and I would like to be more care-free.
Guys, your comments are welcome. I hope I touch upon a topic of interest to you.
.
