I am working to improve my eyes contact and I realize that I don't know what to do after a pretty basic point.
I was sitting on a table with my friends (males and females) and at another table, maybe 10-15 meters away, there was a woman at another table sitting with her friends (males and females).
While looking around I feel she was looking at me, so I locked my eyes with hers, and we looked at each other during maybe 3 or 4 seconds, and she was the first to look away.
So all was good until that point but afterwards I avoid her gaze because I was lost on what to do next.
I felt like I could easily repeat the same feat (locking eyes during few seconds until she looks away), but it seems like things would have stagnated and not progressed and that this would make things somewhat awkwards (like "are we going to do that all evening lol?!").
My question is what to do after the first eyes contact? Repeat the same 3-4 seconds stare, with maybe this time the addition of a smile? And what kind of smile?
And how long after the first one this second eyes contact should happen? 30 seconds after the initial eyes contact? 5 minutes after?
It sounds a bit tricky to keep from a distance the initial tension going on, over an extended period (ie. over enough time so I can open her when one of our two groups start to leave the place).
I was sitting on a table with my friends (males and females) and at another table, maybe 10-15 meters away, there was a woman at another table sitting with her friends (males and females).
While looking around I feel she was looking at me, so I locked my eyes with hers, and we looked at each other during maybe 3 or 4 seconds, and she was the first to look away.
So all was good until that point but afterwards I avoid her gaze because I was lost on what to do next.
I felt like I could easily repeat the same feat (locking eyes during few seconds until she looks away), but it seems like things would have stagnated and not progressed and that this would make things somewhat awkwards (like "are we going to do that all evening lol?!").
My question is what to do after the first eyes contact? Repeat the same 3-4 seconds stare, with maybe this time the addition of a smile? And what kind of smile?
And how long after the first one this second eyes contact should happen? 30 seconds after the initial eyes contact? 5 minutes after?
It sounds a bit tricky to keep from a distance the initial tension going on, over an extended period (ie. over enough time so I can open her when one of our two groups start to leave the place).
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