Quick intro: 29M, About a 1.5 years ago I got out of a 4 year relationship. I ended it. Since then, I've focused on my career and fitness, and recently decided to get back into dating. I haven't done any approaches, but I got some professional photos done for my online dating profiles and have a tiny bit of luck. I read girlschase articles like 10 years ago, but pretty much forgot everything and went on a date recently with my only gameplan being - show up. That was it.
Date: 3 weeks ago, I went on a date with this incredibly attractive woman. 5' 2", Palestinian, fit, 25yr. Absolutely gorgeous. I immediately thought she was way out of my league. I treated her to a fancy sushi dinner. It went great, I thought and she had me drive her home. The only physical escalation I made was a briefly held her hand while walking to my car. And hugged her when I dropped her off. Also, during the car ride home, she randomly started talking about sex. Which in hindsight, I'm an idiot.
Anyways, the next day she excitedly agrees to a 2nd date. And throughout the week we're texting a little bit. For the second date I take her to the movies, and then dinner afterward. During the movie she makes the first move and grabs my hand. Which gave me the confidence to go in for a kiss a few minutes later. And I kiss her a couple more times randomly throughout the movie, during some boring parts.
After the movie we go to this pizza place and get to know eachother better, and were sitting real close together on a couch, and she's really close to me with her body pointed towards me.
Now this is where my biggest fuck up happens. She can't go home. She's locked out and her sister has the key. (supposedly) And her sister is on a date with another man at a bar. So far, we've been having an amazing time, we've kissed a bit, it's been great. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS INVITE HER BACK. Something as simple as "Hey, I'm having such a great time, let's hangout at my place for a bit and let your sister finish her date. She can pick you up after when she's done, I live right by there." And I literally lived 5 minutes from that bar.
But my dumbass, trying to be a "gentleman", but really just too scared and inexperienced to invite her over, fucking drops her off at the bar. We made out in the car before she got out...
Anyways, she texts me the next day and we make plans for a third date! But then she flaked, because she was 'sick'. I hit her up a few days later, and she's feeling better so we make plans again for later this week. But her texts are so cold that I'm hesitant to believe she won't flake again. I have been beating myself up over not inviting her over. In hindsight it was super clear that was what she wanted, and I was an idiot..
Well anyways, after that date I hopped on here for the first time in 10 years and was immediately reminded of everything I did wrong. The funny part was even after our 2nd date, I thought it went great! I kissed a new sexy girl for the first time in a long time. score!! and that was actually my goal that night. just to make out. and I succeeded! But now I realize I had the golden opportunity and just threw it away.
Anyways, just wanted to vent a bit. Hopefully she doesn't flake for the date this week, but her texts in agreeing to the date were so cold that I feel like it was just easier for to agree and then flake then it was to say no.
Oh yeah, the date is at my place, I'm cooking dinner, and she's bringing wine. So I feel like if it does happen, I'm in. Fingers crossed. In the meantime, I'm trying to focus on other things/ getting ready to approach again to not get stuck in oneitis. Because I have been feeling very a lot like oneitis.
Date: 3 weeks ago, I went on a date with this incredibly attractive woman. 5' 2", Palestinian, fit, 25yr. Absolutely gorgeous. I immediately thought she was way out of my league. I treated her to a fancy sushi dinner. It went great, I thought and she had me drive her home. The only physical escalation I made was a briefly held her hand while walking to my car. And hugged her when I dropped her off. Also, during the car ride home, she randomly started talking about sex. Which in hindsight, I'm an idiot.
Anyways, the next day she excitedly agrees to a 2nd date. And throughout the week we're texting a little bit. For the second date I take her to the movies, and then dinner afterward. During the movie she makes the first move and grabs my hand. Which gave me the confidence to go in for a kiss a few minutes later. And I kiss her a couple more times randomly throughout the movie, during some boring parts.
After the movie we go to this pizza place and get to know eachother better, and were sitting real close together on a couch, and she's really close to me with her body pointed towards me.
Now this is where my biggest fuck up happens. She can't go home. She's locked out and her sister has the key. (supposedly) And her sister is on a date with another man at a bar. So far, we've been having an amazing time, we've kissed a bit, it's been great. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS INVITE HER BACK. Something as simple as "Hey, I'm having such a great time, let's hangout at my place for a bit and let your sister finish her date. She can pick you up after when she's done, I live right by there." And I literally lived 5 minutes from that bar.
But my dumbass, trying to be a "gentleman", but really just too scared and inexperienced to invite her over, fucking drops her off at the bar. We made out in the car before she got out...
Anyways, she texts me the next day and we make plans for a third date! But then she flaked, because she was 'sick'. I hit her up a few days later, and she's feeling better so we make plans again for later this week. But her texts are so cold that I'm hesitant to believe she won't flake again. I have been beating myself up over not inviting her over. In hindsight it was super clear that was what she wanted, and I was an idiot..
Well anyways, after that date I hopped on here for the first time in 10 years and was immediately reminded of everything I did wrong. The funny part was even after our 2nd date, I thought it went great! I kissed a new sexy girl for the first time in a long time. score!! and that was actually my goal that night. just to make out. and I succeeded! But now I realize I had the golden opportunity and just threw it away.
Anyways, just wanted to vent a bit. Hopefully she doesn't flake for the date this week, but her texts in agreeing to the date were so cold that I feel like it was just easier for to agree and then flake then it was to say no.
Oh yeah, the date is at my place, I'm cooking dinner, and she's bringing wine. So I feel like if it does happen, I'm in. Fingers crossed. In the meantime, I'm trying to focus on other things/ getting ready to approach again to not get stuck in oneitis. Because I have been feeling very a lot like oneitis.
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