Become a Sigma - Or Die Trying

[TMIMIA007]

I am a 49 yr old single father who has been dabbling in this Afc/Pua world for about 15 years. Or whenever it was that the book The Game first came out and I stumbled upon it and the subsequent world of geeks trying to get hot chicks. While I have had some success since then, and much much better than I would have ever had on my own, I have truly never put it together and have done more reading than actually applying what I have had read.

Long story short, I am giving myself 12 weeks to completely put it all together. To stop being afraid, to stop procrastinating, to stop watching porn and jacking off every damn day. In short if I do not achieve mastery and overcome my fears in the next 12 weeks I am going to "die" and walk away from this world forever and just settle for whatever I can get and just keep watching porn which is ultimately way more debilitating.

July 17th - Oct 8, 2022 (12 weeks in total)
Sigmafied

 

[Marcellus]

No need to be so extreme lol
But it's good that you're deciding to be more active man! Set some goals like i will approach an X number of girls this week, or I will go out to the mall at least 2x this week type stuff.

Will make it much easier to keep an eye on your productivity. And yes please stop with the masturbating it's killing energy that you could be using to become the man you wanna become.

 

[Zoro]

I think you’ve got the right spirit, but the mindset of all or nothing could fuck you up.

People can be over optimistic with their goals, and if they don’t reach X in Y amount of time then they get deflated.

There is a great book I’d recommend, How To Be An Imperfectionist. In that book he talks about this concept and how valuing imperfect action over “perfect” results will actually lead to better results.

So the advice from the book basically sounds like this: focus more on the process and the actions you are going to take, and if you take those actions, however imperfectly, yet consistently, then you consider that a win and that you’re on the path of growth.

 

[Don Giovanni]

Exactly like all of the above said. You said you want to achieve mastery in 12 weeks. That is improbable... unless you get hit by lightning and some seduction related part of the brain gets effected and you turn into a genious casanova over night.

Jokes aside, set achievable goals, put approaches to numbers then asking x number of girls to move with you or asking them home... You get the point.

Otherwise good attitude, glad you've decided it's time!

 

[TMIMIA007]

All of these are great suggestions that I will keep in mind.

So far I have noticed little progress, mainly how I am getting more and more comfortable around women. Now that my workouts have been paying off I am noticing women checking me out more or making an excuse to touch me. I am noticing more and more women smiling at me.
When I was in the gym a girl walked past me and without even thinking I whacked her on her back. When she turned around I said "Hey good form on those lunges earlier." Big smile on her face and she loudly said thank you.

Another extremely attractive girl between 18-22 had her ear buds on and I motioned for her to remove them. When she did I said "When you walked in all of the girls said to themselves "Here comes pressure." She laughed and smiled and I caught her furtively sneaking glances at me the rest of her workout.

A girl I hadn't spoke to randomly called me out of the blue and we talked on the phone for 2 hours and she kept asking me when I was going to be in her city again. I told her maybe I might go to LA in 2 months for my birthday.

Not much to report but I am making progress and pretty soon I will have some great things for the board.

 

[climbingup]

I'm rooting for you homie! Go get it!

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

Hi, may I ask what's your definition of sigma?

Are you talking about the loner who's outside the social hierarchy yet gets all he wants in terms of financial and dating success?

 

[TMIMIA007]

Hi, may I ask what's your definition of sigma?

Are you talking about the loner who's outside the social hierarchy yet gets all he wants in terms of financial and dating success?

Still learning all the definitions between Gamma, Alpha, Sigma, Beta, Omega & Delta so I am not sure how to honestly answer that question.

 

[TMIMIA007]

Hi, may I ask what's your definition of sigma?

Are you talking about the loner who's outside the social hierarchy yet gets all he wants in terms of financial and dating success?

You sound like you are more the expert than me so I welcome your interpretation of the 6.

 

[TMIMIA007]

I'm rooting for you homie! Go get it!

Thanks a lot Man. I really appreciate it.

 

[StrayDog]

You sound like you are more the expert than me so I welcome your interpretation of the 6.

Maybe this will help

The “Sigma Male”: An Alternative to Being the “Alpha Male”

Few concepts are more viral in contemporary culture than the notion of the “alpha male”. Many men want to become “alpha males”, but there is surprisingly little agreement on what characterizes this social role. Even more, it can actually be argued that many guys should NOT try to be alpha males...

www.girlschase.com

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

That's an excellent article by Halvor, and he describes it the way I see it as well.

For my cold approach pickup career from 2002-2012 I was the ultimate Sigma. I never participated in social circles for more than a party or two, as a guest. Never got involved in social circles long-term.

1. I had harems of fuck-buddies (and sometimes girl-friends), whom I had met through game. Sniper situations. Me and her, not many other people around.
2. I had guy-friends who had similar mindsets and interests as me, music, travel, business, girls. We'd hang out and shoot the shit but I rarely mixed them into a social circle with my girls.

So I think for the sigma, his guy-friends meet his intellectual and companionship needs, while his girl-friends meet his sexual and emotional needs, and never the twain shall meet (that's an exaggeration but there's no permanent mixing).

In the past few years, through becoming a leader in business and through building communities for like-minded people (not game related), I've developed the skills that are described in this article as "alpha" - being the most socially dominant, the one who organizes get-togethers, etc.

I didn't do this intentionally but I noticed that just from me being the leader of groups (which had men and women in them), the women started throwing themselves at me. (This is a preview of what I meant in my journal when I mentioned the "true alpha formula" I'm working on.)

I now think the ideal way to game is a combination of both.

1. To be the alpha who has a social circle with men and women AND to be the leader of this social circle, and:
2. Combining this with cold approach to bring new women into the fold.

Honestly 10 years ago I wouldn't have had the social skills nor the patience to run the alpha-style game. It's not a higher level of game, but a very different skill. Requires different aptitudes and abilities in social situations.

My goal right now is to combine both... that's what I meant by "True Alpha Formula". I may have to rename it since the word "alpha" has so many different connotations already and people don't agree on what it means. What I mean by alpha is "leader of a group/tribe with men and women", similar to how Halvor defines it.

I would say it does includes "sexual access to the females in the group", although in my experience that seems to be a side effect that occurs naturally as a result of being perceived to be in the leadership role.

tl;dr: I agree fully with the article on alpha vs. sigma and I believe the most effective approach is to combine both. Be the leader of a social circle with both men and women in it, and do cold approach to bring new women into the fold.

This is what I'm currently working on.

-Karea Ricardus.