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These are a few things that are important for any man. Don't let these things be obstacles in your journey as a valuable man.
1. FUNDAMENTALS. Eat well, work out/exercise, groom yourself and get a stylish haircut, wear clothes that fit, stand up straight, etc. This is first for a reason. The way you carry yourself is a reflection of your inner self and as you grow as a man it will show. You can see a valuable man in his posture, his stylish/put together look, and his calm collected smirks. This site has more than enough information on that.
2. QUIT PORN. Go to http://www.mybrainonporn.com and read this http://www.reuniting.info/download/pdf/0.BENEFITS.pdf....... I thought porn had helped my sexuality for a bit and that was merely the addiction speaking. Yes addiction. Many men suffer from social anxiety, low energy, erectile dysfunction, friend-zone, etc. and they don't realize the wasted energy from fapping to the moon and back is a major contributing factor.
3. UNDERSTAND SOCIAL MOMENTUM. When you go out engage with people BEFORE you talk to the girls you want to meet. It opens your mood up to people and helps the right words come. Think of it as a warm up, 'cause that is what it is.
4. BE PASSIONATE ABOUT LIFE. Live for something more than just women. Ironically this is a very important part of being attractive. So go out and do what you love and be invigorated by it. Sports, martial arts, music, business, cooking, doesn't matter as long as you love it. *Bonus points if it helps others.
5. BE DISCRIMINATE, NOT JUDGEMENTAL. This is something Chase mentions in his articles and I'm not sure which ones I saw this in. If you know which, please link it. The people you have around you influence you. Make sure they are supportive, cool, healthy, mentally stable, or whatever else you want to see in yourself. At least have some people around that have qualities you'd like in yourself and keep away the people who bring you down or are vampires. Just be wary of weighing down yourself with judgements like, "that person is bad and stupid for doing X." Instead of the more constructive and freeing, "I want to stay away from people who do X because it is unhealthy/may prevent me from reaching my goals."
The other point about this, is to not judge women and leads into the next point.
6. UNDERSTAND WOMEN. The Disneyland image of princesses is far from reality and something important to come to terms with. That good girl you want to wife up is a freak in bed with the right man. Be that man, and realize if you aren't, she is longing for or found that man elsewhere. Femininity is wild and beautiful just like emotions. Females are largely emotional and men are largely logical to generalize. Ex- I am doing this because it feels good/right, versus I am doing this because it furthers my goals.
7. LEAD LIKE A LEADER. A valuable man can lead himself through life. He understands what he wants and is decisive in his actions. Women want a man that can lead them, one who understands them and decides things with them in mind. Life experiences help men become good at leading. Here's a good quote... "Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you." - Aldous Huxley
Girlschase has plenty of information on all these topics and is a great place to stick your nose into and really understand.
Get out there
J Wick.
1. FUNDAMENTALS. Eat well, work out/exercise, groom yourself and get a stylish haircut, wear clothes that fit, stand up straight, etc. This is first for a reason. The way you carry yourself is a reflection of your inner self and as you grow as a man it will show. You can see a valuable man in his posture, his stylish/put together look, and his calm collected smirks. This site has more than enough information on that.
2. QUIT PORN. Go to http://www.mybrainonporn.com and read this http://www.reuniting.info/download/pdf/0.BENEFITS.pdf....... I thought porn had helped my sexuality for a bit and that was merely the addiction speaking. Yes addiction. Many men suffer from social anxiety, low energy, erectile dysfunction, friend-zone, etc. and they don't realize the wasted energy from fapping to the moon and back is a major contributing factor.
3. UNDERSTAND SOCIAL MOMENTUM. When you go out engage with people BEFORE you talk to the girls you want to meet. It opens your mood up to people and helps the right words come. Think of it as a warm up, 'cause that is what it is.
4. BE PASSIONATE ABOUT LIFE. Live for something more than just women. Ironically this is a very important part of being attractive. So go out and do what you love and be invigorated by it. Sports, martial arts, music, business, cooking, doesn't matter as long as you love it. *Bonus points if it helps others.
5. BE DISCRIMINATE, NOT JUDGEMENTAL. This is something Chase mentions in his articles and I'm not sure which ones I saw this in. If you know which, please link it. The people you have around you influence you. Make sure they are supportive, cool, healthy, mentally stable, or whatever else you want to see in yourself. At least have some people around that have qualities you'd like in yourself and keep away the people who bring you down or are vampires. Just be wary of weighing down yourself with judgements like, "that person is bad and stupid for doing X." Instead of the more constructive and freeing, "I want to stay away from people who do X because it is unhealthy/may prevent me from reaching my goals."
The other point about this, is to not judge women and leads into the next point.
6. UNDERSTAND WOMEN. The Disneyland image of princesses is far from reality and something important to come to terms with. That good girl you want to wife up is a freak in bed with the right man. Be that man, and realize if you aren't, she is longing for or found that man elsewhere. Femininity is wild and beautiful just like emotions. Females are largely emotional and men are largely logical to generalize. Ex- I am doing this because it feels good/right, versus I am doing this because it furthers my goals.
7. LEAD LIKE A LEADER. A valuable man can lead himself through life. He understands what he wants and is decisive in his actions. Women want a man that can lead them, one who understands them and decides things with them in mind. Life experiences help men become good at leading. Here's a good quote... "Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you." - Aldous Huxley
Girlschase has plenty of information on all these topics and is a great place to stick your nose into and really understand.
Get out there
J Wick.
