Hi guys,
I wanted to discuss and cover behavioral sexiness. All aspects of men's behavior that women find sexually appealing from the hard to control micro-expressions and facial expressions to larger overall behaviors that drive these smaller expressions (such as the ability to hold eye contact and smile, driven by a sense of confidence that he is attractive).
Ideally, I would like to have this all in one thread/article.
Some background - I've come to understand that what women find attractive is almost more responsive to men's behavior and not always concrete. Compared to men's more fixed, concrete, visually dominated attraction. It more or less comes down to (and both Chase and Mark M harp on about this)
- Fundamentals
- How a man behaves (behaviors that often imply preselection)
-How other people behave around him (ie social proof, preselection )
- How he treats himself
- How he makes a women feel
Anyway, long story short confident, preselected men behave in sexy ways that show that he is a sexy, preselected man. Yes, it's a loop of sorts.
And attraction for women is kind of a feedback loop too (take humor - sexier men are funnier to women, but more importantly funny men are sexier to women such that effect of humor is that it increases a man's physical attractiveness).
Sexy behaviors (besides preselection and social proof as this is more how other people treat you).
- Confident (this is difficult to describe in a practical sense, but it's driven from a sense of belief that you can get the girl in front of you, from past experience of success or almost delusional sense of confidence
- Dominant (touching, closing space, taking up space, moving people)
- Cool (in a nutshell laidback, chill, casual, but also socially effective).
- Spezzatura (the perception of low effort for maximal returns. From the walk, to the slow movement, to taking time to respond, to the actual successful compliance requests)
- Prosocial
- Humor (especially as below flirtatious playful humor)
- Flirtatious/playful: The more you experience women the more you realise they really are silly, cute, somewhat anxious humans.
- Frame control & Handle tests
- Moves fast
- Behaviors that imply scarcity(may need to be expanded on)
Anything else that is important that is being missed here or that one should focus on to maximize 'behavioral sexiness'?
I wanted to discuss and cover behavioral sexiness. All aspects of men's behavior that women find sexually appealing from the hard to control micro-expressions and facial expressions to larger overall behaviors that drive these smaller expressions (such as the ability to hold eye contact and smile, driven by a sense of confidence that he is attractive).
Ideally, I would like to have this all in one thread/article.
Some background - I've come to understand that what women find attractive is almost more responsive to men's behavior and not always concrete. Compared to men's more fixed, concrete, visually dominated attraction. It more or less comes down to (and both Chase and Mark M harp on about this)
- Fundamentals
- How a man behaves (behaviors that often imply preselection)
-How other people behave around him (ie social proof, preselection )
- How he treats himself
- How he makes a women feel
Anyway, long story short confident, preselected men behave in sexy ways that show that he is a sexy, preselected man. Yes, it's a loop of sorts.
And attraction for women is kind of a feedback loop too (take humor - sexier men are funnier to women, but more importantly funny men are sexier to women such that effect of humor is that it increases a man's physical attractiveness).
Sexy behaviors (besides preselection and social proof as this is more how other people treat you).
- Confident (this is difficult to describe in a practical sense, but it's driven from a sense of belief that you can get the girl in front of you, from past experience of success or almost delusional sense of confidence
- Dominant (touching, closing space, taking up space, moving people)
- Cool (in a nutshell laidback, chill, casual, but also socially effective).
- Spezzatura (the perception of low effort for maximal returns. From the walk, to the slow movement, to taking time to respond, to the actual successful compliance requests)
- Prosocial
- Humor (especially as below flirtatious playful humor)
- Flirtatious/playful: The more you experience women the more you realise they really are silly, cute, somewhat anxious humans.
- Frame control & Handle tests
- Moves fast
- Behaviors that imply scarcity(may need to be expanded on)
Anything else that is important that is being missed here or that one should focus on to maximize 'behavioral sexiness'?
