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Originally posted in the first Girls Chase Forum on Wednesday, 28 July 2010
Just read Kenj's reply to Miguel's post where Kenj talks about being the guy on the rebound, and how being the guy on the rebound can be good for relating to girls who are also on the rebound. That made me think of being the guy on the rebound in general, and I wanted to throw up a quick post about this.
Women are accustomed to going out and meeting men who are single and have been single for a while. These are guys who are either:
Basically, there's somewhat of a black mark against any guy in one of the typical “single-and-looking” scenarios. He's just not finding what he wants with women; there's a reason he's single, and it's a strike against his value.
But there is one other type of man out there, aside from the usual suspects. That man is the “lucky find”, so named because women who discover him feel like they’ve hit a bit of a jackpot. These are the guys who are only on the market because of some recent circumstance more-or-less outside of their control, and women are more inclined to assume that these guys probably won’t be on the market long. A girl will often consider herself fortunate if she finds a guy she likes in this kind of life situation; she has a shot with a guy who has a legitimate reason for being single, imagines he’ll probably be snapped up soon, and considers herself lucky to get the chance to be the one who snaps him up.
Guys considered “lucky finds” include men who are either:
Those are really the only two I know of. If you can think of others that might fall under the umbrella of “lucky find”, feel free to add them to the list.
Being a Lucky Find is good for both quick pulls and relationships; the girls who are looking for sex soon consider themselves to be going off to sleep with a higher value man, and sometimes even doing their duty by helping him to get over his ex (indeed, the girl I slept with same-night just after my Bebita and I parted ways again this year asked me why I was single, and perked up when she heard I had broken up only a few days before), and the girls who are looking for a relationship are excited to know that you are a relationship-kind of guy and that women consider you relationship material too.
It’s good to generally be either new in town, or on the rebound. When I talked about this at the San Diego lair meeting, one guy asked, “What if we have been in town for a while, and we’re not on the rebound anymore?”
My buddy Mateo commented, “I know me personally, I’ve been on the rebound for a while.” There’s no time-limit on “rebound”, so use it at your own discretion. And have fun
Chase
Just read Kenj's reply to Miguel's post where Kenj talks about being the guy on the rebound, and how being the guy on the rebound can be good for relating to girls who are also on the rebound. That made me think of being the guy on the rebound in general, and I wanted to throw up a quick post about this.
Women are accustomed to going out and meeting men who are single and have been single for a while. These are guys who are either:
- Single-by-choice, which tells women they aren't really serious about a relationship or just aren't meeting women that appeal to them a whole lot
- Single-by-default, which tells women that they aren't all that attractive to other women, or
- In a relationship but straying / seeing other women, which tells women that they probably aren't happy enough with the woman they've got
Basically, there's somewhat of a black mark against any guy in one of the typical “single-and-looking” scenarios. He's just not finding what he wants with women; there's a reason he's single, and it's a strike against his value.
But there is one other type of man out there, aside from the usual suspects. That man is the “lucky find”, so named because women who discover him feel like they’ve hit a bit of a jackpot. These are the guys who are only on the market because of some recent circumstance more-or-less outside of their control, and women are more inclined to assume that these guys probably won’t be on the market long. A girl will often consider herself fortunate if she finds a guy she likes in this kind of life situation; she has a shot with a guy who has a legitimate reason for being single, imagines he’ll probably be snapped up soon, and considers herself lucky to get the chance to be the one who snaps him up.
Guys considered “lucky finds” include men who are either:
- Fresh out of a relationship, or
- Just relocated to that city / country / continent
Those are really the only two I know of. If you can think of others that might fall under the umbrella of “lucky find”, feel free to add them to the list.
Being a Lucky Find is good for both quick pulls and relationships; the girls who are looking for sex soon consider themselves to be going off to sleep with a higher value man, and sometimes even doing their duty by helping him to get over his ex (indeed, the girl I slept with same-night just after my Bebita and I parted ways again this year asked me why I was single, and perked up when she heard I had broken up only a few days before), and the girls who are looking for a relationship are excited to know that you are a relationship-kind of guy and that women consider you relationship material too.
It’s good to generally be either new in town, or on the rebound. When I talked about this at the San Diego lair meeting, one guy asked, “What if we have been in town for a while, and we’re not on the rebound anymore?”
My buddy Mateo commented, “I know me personally, I’ve been on the rebound for a while.” There’s no time-limit on “rebound”, so use it at your own discretion. And have fun
Chase
