Being a seducer in STEM related field

[Energy]

I noticed that there are some men who works as software engineer or computer science related field in this board.
In my opinions, thriving socially in these environment seems a little complicated because:
- The ratio of men to women seems to be very high in tech (only 20% of undergraduate are women in the US according to this source). This create an imbalance in the market.
- Men and women in tech are not very socially savvy, so it's hard to learn social skill and to have a role model.
- Success in these field almost always requires you to sit down in front of a computer during days and to endure the loneliness
- Of course, men in these fields prides themselves as being intelligent

I can pinpoint my shortcoming but my problem comes with things outside my power, like the simping men around me and the lack of female presence, which encourage the remaining few more selective and arrogant.

So how can I thrive as a seducer in this environment ?

I already followed some advice mentioned by Jannike in his article (Why Do STEM-Educated Men Have Harder Time) but it doesn't tackle the problem of men/women ratio and of AFC friends.

 

[KJ Francis]

So how can I thrive as a seducer in this environment ?

Seduce outside of school and work.

Unless you mean the work requires living in a greater city with an unfavorable gender ratio?

 

[ElChe]

I noticed that there are some men who works as software engineer or computer science related field in this board.
In my opinions, thriving socially in these environment seems a little complicated because:
- The ratio of men to women seems to be very high in tech (only 20% of undergraduate are women in the US according to this source). This create an imbalance in the market.
- Men and women in tech are not very socially savvy, so it's hard to learn social skill and to have a role model.
- Success in these field almost always requires you to sit down in front of a computer during days and to endure the loneliness
- Of course, men in these fields prides themselves as being intelligent

I can pinpoint my shortcoming but my problem comes with things outside my power, like the simping men around me and the lack of female presence, which encourage the remaining few more selective and arrogant.

So how can I thrive as a seducer in this environment ?

I already followed some advice mentioned by Jannike in his article (Why Do STEM-Educated Men Have Harder Time) but it doesn't tackle the problem of men/women ratio and of AFC friends.

I had similar thoughts when I was preparing to transfer to my current university for computer science, except I was worried because I thought coding would be a detriment to the embodiment/emotional releasing stuff I was doing.

Then I found out about Michael A Singer, a super spiritual hippie dude who reached a state of enlightenment and then some years later made millions doing software development stuff (while still keeping his daily yoga practices and being in a state of enlightenment).

Also, it's true most people in computer science are not as outgoing as people of other fields, but I have found they are still pretty cool people. My CS friends are all awesome and well-liked by women (especially one fella who's very popular with chicks, although he's also like 6'6 and the president of a popular singing group lol).

The women in CS leave a bit to be desired (just a bit) but that's why you find other women outside of that field >:^D (and not tell them you're a software engineer ).

 

[OldGuy]

One problem we in STEM have is to get our information by reading. I know I had that problem and most of the material was garbage. Being on Girls Chase solves that problem.

 

[ulrich]

Leave the environment, search for greener grasses.
You don’t have to make it work in a STEM setting.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

Regarding the friends, I am pretty sure you can find some cool guys in a STEM class as well. Apart from that, hanging out with different kinds of people can help quite a bit, and simply taking up hobbies unrelated to STEM can be a good start. You could go do some martial arts if you want other types of guys for example. Or for girls, I remember when I went to join the theatre team of my university based on the English literature department. It was surreal how many girls were there compared to my class.

And the funny thing is they even want you to go, exactly because they don't have men themselves, it's the same problem for them. So even if there is no obvious hobby you can start, although most universities will have some groups related to dancing, sports, arts, humanities, anything that doesn't need you to solve maths basically, you can start going to cafeterias or restaurants close to their departments. Even better if it makes sense for you to be there, let's say you live nearby, or you have a lecture close to there so that it is more natural, or your gym is close by or whatever.

Then you can just approach, either to make friends or purely to seduce. I'd just be a bit careful not spamming many approaches in the same area, but if you are just cool about it, it will rarely be an issue.

Also regarding the girls in your class, you can still give it a go if you fancy one, the issue is not to focus too much on them specifically by increasing your options with other girls. And as an added tip, try to become friends with some of them, you already have some common interests, so they can teach you about female nature faster and give you preselection when you go around together.