Hey,
What would be the best approach for a possible second date?
I just had a reasonably good 1st Tinder date with a 28-year-old. I am 41 (but I am in shape and look around ten years younger too).
She is hot and fit, a former model.
The conversation was great. I think. And she seemed to enjoy it. She did most of the talking. But did ask me some questions in return ofc. We were touchy-feely, too, up to a point. I fucked up, though, we met in a bar downtown, and we both lived kinda far away from it, in the opposite direction. So there wasn't an easy way to invite her over or go to her place. So logistics sucked. We did kiss in the end, tho. We also changed venues and had some food afterward. I was paying for it all, tho. I didn't really mind, but she didn't even offer to pay her part. And the date ended up quite expensive, more than I thought or usually do. Maybe she is a high maintenance, I hope not... haha. Well, whatever, I guess some women are like that on the 1st date. She didn't seem like a gold digger. But she might think I am more way off than I actually am. Because of some of the things I am known for. Well, whatever at this point. I am jumping ahead.
She even already brought up some things, like she wanted to go on a trip with me, pretty much out of the blue.
We were talking about a trip she might want to take next month. And in the end, she told me she is not going if I am not coming
She's more of an introvert, and it seems she could potentially tick some boxes for me, even for more than just a lay.
She is not a party girl, etc. Of course, it's all super early. I also caught her by accident on Tinder, or so she says, as she claims she just made the account and is not using it or plan to use it further really, and we switched to talking on IG before meeting up.
She texted me right after the date on her own initiative on IG that night.
But she sent me a picture of some flowers, which someone randomly gave her just after I left.
I replied that the flower karens must be happy (some old ladies that sell it near there).
I think I did most things alright. I could have been more aggressive with escalating more early, though. But it certainly wasn't an interview date. Flirting, bantering, deep subjects, jokes, touching, sexual subjects, I think the essence, it was there.
I think I did most things alright, all things considering... Maybe the date altogether was a bit too long, tho.
I am 3,5 months out from a 7-year relationship that ended badly with my ex betraying and monkey branching. So I am definitely a bit rusty. But I feel pretty good after this date.
What would be the best approach for a second date?
I think I could ask her out to a food place next door to my place and then have an excuse to come over.
Or have an excuse to go to her place. We talked about me not having a kitchen yet (I just moved to a new home). And she talked about how she could cook veggies well, and I could cook meat. I could ask her to cook dinner together, as I don't have a kitchen maybe.
But maybe not ask her too soon yet. Wait a few days.
I still feel kinda bad not going for the kill on the 1st date. Both of my awesome long LTRs, where the girl was submissive and super loving, started up with sex on the 1st date. Those weren't Tinder dates, tho, and I had met them briefly at social gatherings before and had some convo. Meaning, those weren't the 1st times I saw them.
The long LTR, where I didn't have sex on 1st date, ended up being a struggle from a point onwards.
I've had similar occasions, tho, when I didn't close the date on 1st date. And made it happen on the 2nd.
At least according to her Tinder bio, she is looking for LTR, not just short-term.
What would be the best approach for a possible second date?
I just had a reasonably good 1st Tinder date with a 28-year-old. I am 41 (but I am in shape and look around ten years younger too).
She is hot and fit, a former model.
The conversation was great. I think. And she seemed to enjoy it. She did most of the talking. But did ask me some questions in return ofc. We were touchy-feely, too, up to a point. I fucked up, though, we met in a bar downtown, and we both lived kinda far away from it, in the opposite direction. So there wasn't an easy way to invite her over or go to her place. So logistics sucked. We did kiss in the end, tho. We also changed venues and had some food afterward. I was paying for it all, tho. I didn't really mind, but she didn't even offer to pay her part. And the date ended up quite expensive, more than I thought or usually do. Maybe she is a high maintenance, I hope not... haha. Well, whatever, I guess some women are like that on the 1st date. She didn't seem like a gold digger. But she might think I am more way off than I actually am. Because of some of the things I am known for. Well, whatever at this point. I am jumping ahead.
She even already brought up some things, like she wanted to go on a trip with me, pretty much out of the blue.
We were talking about a trip she might want to take next month. And in the end, she told me she is not going if I am not coming
She's more of an introvert, and it seems she could potentially tick some boxes for me, even for more than just a lay.
She is not a party girl, etc. Of course, it's all super early. I also caught her by accident on Tinder, or so she says, as she claims she just made the account and is not using it or plan to use it further really, and we switched to talking on IG before meeting up.
She texted me right after the date on her own initiative on IG that night.
But she sent me a picture of some flowers, which someone randomly gave her just after I left.
I replied that the flower karens must be happy (some old ladies that sell it near there).
I think I did most things alright. I could have been more aggressive with escalating more early, though. But it certainly wasn't an interview date. Flirting, bantering, deep subjects, jokes, touching, sexual subjects, I think the essence, it was there.
I think I did most things alright, all things considering... Maybe the date altogether was a bit too long, tho.
I am 3,5 months out from a 7-year relationship that ended badly with my ex betraying and monkey branching. So I am definitely a bit rusty. But I feel pretty good after this date.
What would be the best approach for a second date?
I think I could ask her out to a food place next door to my place and then have an excuse to come over.
Or have an excuse to go to her place. We talked about me not having a kitchen yet (I just moved to a new home). And she talked about how she could cook veggies well, and I could cook meat. I could ask her to cook dinner together, as I don't have a kitchen maybe.
But maybe not ask her too soon yet. Wait a few days.
I still feel kinda bad not going for the kill on the 1st date. Both of my awesome long LTRs, where the girl was submissive and super loving, started up with sex on the 1st date. Those weren't Tinder dates, tho, and I had met them briefly at social gatherings before and had some convo. Meaning, those weren't the 1st times I saw them.
The long LTR, where I didn't have sex on 1st date, ended up being a struggle from a point onwards.
I've had similar occasions, tho, when I didn't close the date on 1st date. And made it happen on the 2nd.
At least according to her Tinder bio, she is looking for LTR, not just short-term.
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