Best friends ?

[ashutosh]

Helo guys. Im 17 and reside in india. Now there's a girl that i have been really close with. She once said me that she thought i could be her bf. But at that time i was naive so i said that i didnt need relationships. But still v ver best friends and i started to fall for her.And then eventually i asked her to become my gf.She said she didnt want relationships at this stage may be later. So i cut her off for some days then she texted me "im sry if i have hurt you ever". Bt now she also started talking with my guy friend also and she.used to tell me about that. Now we are really close best friends and i think i hav fallen for her. So what should i do 'Should i cut her off from my life" or "still try"..
NOTE -I live in small town in india so we cant meet.So i have to jst call her. Would appreciate tips from you guys regarding this scenario

 

[Novacane]

By asking her to be your gf and she declining almost puts you in a bad position since you haven't gone out with her nor slept with her, I suggest staying a friend but not always around whenever she decides to message you in the mean time invest in actively seeking out other women. If she can see you pulling in other women she may find interest again as for now its better to leave her be and not pursue any further due to the fact you had a shot missed it and now that you want the shot it will have to be under her terms. Good Luck ~ Novacane

 

[Garrett]

Helo guys. Im 17 and reside in india. Now there's a girl that i have been really close with. She once said me that she thought i could be her bf. But at that time i was naive so i said that i didnt need relationships. But still v ver best friends and i started to fall for her.And then eventually i asked her to become my gf.She said she didnt want relationships at this stage may be later. So i cut her off for some days then she texted me "im sry if i have hurt you ever". Bt now she also started talking with my guy friend also and she.used to tell me about that. Now we are really close best friends and i think i hav fallen for her. So what should i do 'Should i cut her off from my life" or "still try"..
NOTE -I live in small town in india so we cant meet.So i have to jst call her. Would appreciate tips from you guys regarding this scenario

Hey Ashutosh!

Well it's good if you don't need relationships, that's attractive and makes you look like more of a challenge. You have to MEAN that though, not just say it because girls can read through your emotions/how you are acting quite well. Also, don't go out and ask a girl to be your girlfriend, unless she's been signalling at it, "We'd make a sexy couple". She lives far, so I wouldn't bother with her. If you want to keep her as a friend though do that. Take the advice from this website and go meet other girls!

Cheers,
Garrett

 

[ashutosh]

Yeah u are right garrett. The best way to fight "onetitis" is to meet other girls. And i just read chas's article "just friends" and now i will cut her off.

 

[Light]

Once you start meeting other girls, you will realise that other doors of opportunities will start to open for you:

- You get better talking to other girls, so you get to improve your skills.
- You meet new people, who can introduce you to more new people and new girls.
- Your confidence will go up.
- If she sees how popular you are with other girls, maybe... just maybe... she will become jealous, and will want you again

So go out there and meet other pretty ladies my friend.