I'm feeling a little down today but I push through it.
Girl 1: sitting at table with earphones studying. I approach and, knowing that I usually talk too quickly, consciously make an effort to slow down. It works. I am smooth. We get on well, my voice is soft but I am expending all my mental energy on having the right vibe and making witty conversation. I get the number, but after brushing off a boyfriend mention. Still, I have a feeling that this will lead to nothing.
To improve on: sexier but good work on maintaining comfort
Girl 2: a girl in my class. I catch up to her on top of the stairs and make conversation as we descend. I think that I didn't come across as warmly enough, too aloof, and thus she was cold to me. She answered all my questions but it was feeling more like an interview. I eject the interaction.
To improve on: warmer
Girl 3: this one was so bad, it's like my brain left me to get a sandwich. She is walking towards me, and I say Hi but not in a smooth way. Then, instead of just approaching her, I say what's up twice very quickly and then instantly realizing I've botched this thing worse than the Frankenstein monster, I fumble over my words like a drunk hurdler. Finally, I just tell her that I thought that she was someone else.
To improve on: SLOW, LIKE...FONZIE
Girl 4: this one was the highlight of the day and in fact, the highlight of the past several weeks. I got to engage in a long, conversation while utilizing most of what I've learned. I approach her sitting at the table studying. I talk to her. I attempt to sit on the table once, but kinda screw it up and don't want to do it again to risk it looking fake and try-hard. As the conversation progresses, I do indeed sit on the table. I agree to meet up with her tomorrow and get the number. We keep talking and then I find a chance to sit next to her. Then I ask:"I know that you're studying, but do you want to come take a walk with me?" "Where?" "Just around" "Uh...sure"
We walk to the higher level, and I realize that I've moved her! First time in a long time. When we sit down again, I make sure to be even closer that our arms our touching. I MIRROR HER BODY MOVEMENTS. She sits cross-legged, I sit cross-legged. She scooches back, I scooch back. It crosses my mind to put my hand on her hers, but I didn't know if that would have been too much showing of interest so I didn't. I think that that was the right call. I wipe sweat off her forehead and she is completely comfortable with me doing so. It should be noted that during this whole interaction, I am deep diving, not always smoothly, and hardly sexily, but it's working regardless. I decide to see how far I can escalate and ask her if she would like to see my favorite part of the building. The balcony. DUN, DUN, DUNNN! Since I live with my family, it's the place that I have scouted out for logistics although it's not ideal, as in this time when there was a guy eating a chocolate bar behind us, ruining the tension.
Although maybe I should have ignored him. She didn't seem to notice him. Maybe I could have gotten away with something
We head back downstairs, and I hug her without opening my arms for permission first (getting pretty good at that!) and we depart.
To improve on: more implying, less insinuating. Sexier. Otherwise, not too bad. Lowering my standards has helped (she is super cute though).
Summary: keep going! You'll get there! And don't have super high standards.
Girl 1: sitting at table with earphones studying. I approach and, knowing that I usually talk too quickly, consciously make an effort to slow down. It works. I am smooth. We get on well, my voice is soft but I am expending all my mental energy on having the right vibe and making witty conversation. I get the number, but after brushing off a boyfriend mention. Still, I have a feeling that this will lead to nothing.
To improve on: sexier but good work on maintaining comfort
Girl 2: a girl in my class. I catch up to her on top of the stairs and make conversation as we descend. I think that I didn't come across as warmly enough, too aloof, and thus she was cold to me. She answered all my questions but it was feeling more like an interview. I eject the interaction.
To improve on: warmer
Girl 3: this one was so bad, it's like my brain left me to get a sandwich. She is walking towards me, and I say Hi but not in a smooth way. Then, instead of just approaching her, I say what's up twice very quickly and then instantly realizing I've botched this thing worse than the Frankenstein monster, I fumble over my words like a drunk hurdler. Finally, I just tell her that I thought that she was someone else.
To improve on: SLOW, LIKE...FONZIE
Girl 4: this one was the highlight of the day and in fact, the highlight of the past several weeks. I got to engage in a long, conversation while utilizing most of what I've learned. I approach her sitting at the table studying. I talk to her. I attempt to sit on the table once, but kinda screw it up and don't want to do it again to risk it looking fake and try-hard. As the conversation progresses, I do indeed sit on the table. I agree to meet up with her tomorrow and get the number. We keep talking and then I find a chance to sit next to her. Then I ask:"I know that you're studying, but do you want to come take a walk with me?" "Where?" "Just around" "Uh...sure"
We walk to the higher level, and I realize that I've moved her! First time in a long time. When we sit down again, I make sure to be even closer that our arms our touching. I MIRROR HER BODY MOVEMENTS. She sits cross-legged, I sit cross-legged. She scooches back, I scooch back. It crosses my mind to put my hand on her hers, but I didn't know if that would have been too much showing of interest so I didn't. I think that that was the right call. I wipe sweat off her forehead and she is completely comfortable with me doing so. It should be noted that during this whole interaction, I am deep diving, not always smoothly, and hardly sexily, but it's working regardless. I decide to see how far I can escalate and ask her if she would like to see my favorite part of the building. The balcony. DUN, DUN, DUNNN! Since I live with my family, it's the place that I have scouted out for logistics although it's not ideal, as in this time when there was a guy eating a chocolate bar behind us, ruining the tension.
Although maybe I should have ignored him. She didn't seem to notice him. Maybe I could have gotten away with something
We head back downstairs, and I hug her without opening my arms for permission first (getting pretty good at that!) and we depart.To improve on: more implying, less insinuating. Sexier. Otherwise, not too bad. Lowering my standards has helped (she is super cute though).
Summary: keep going! You'll get there! And don't have super high standards.
