Socializing Best way to deal with ladder climbers?

[Unknownymous]

I have recently started a new job and noticed that my team members participate in social ladder climbing behaviour quite often.

I want to fit in well with my team, but it's quite off putting. The problem is the more I'm around these people, the more I feel like my behaviour is starting to become similar to theirs.

How can I fit in and be seen as part of the group, but without the ladder climbing behaviour that they participate in so often?

Limiting contact is very hard but would that be the best solution?

What is the best way to deal with this when I am forced to interact with them?

 

[trashKENNUT]

How can I fit in and be seen as part of the group, but without the ladder climbing behaviour that they participate in so often?

You have to accept that ladder climbing is just part of life (group).

Don't fit in. Just be as neutral as possible, but ladder climb if necessary.

What is the best way to deal with this when I am forced to interact with them?

Be neutral. Don't see their ladder climb as an enemy but rather a skill to learn. How to kill people mercilessly.

Business versus truth. It is all that it is.

Regard it as business. And it is. SO stay neutral. Kill away if forced to and make sure to always learn from every situation on how to handle it better so that you can use this lessons on girls and people you interact with.

Ask me anything.

 

[Marcellus]

could you provide some examples please? of some of the behaviours that they engage in! I'm trying to paint an image in my mind but I just cant haha

 

[Unknownymous]

could you provide some examples please? of some of the behaviours that they engage in! I'm trying to paint an image in my mind but I just cant haha

Basically like subtle put downs an passing them off as jokes. Generally not direct insults, but trying to put you down in a group to elevate their own status, making you look bad, which makes them seem better by comparison.

 

[Marcellus]

Give them this look! And then when they try to play it off as a joke tell them it wasn't funny